Trying for a Baby Part 7

Nicki

2ba3c wrote: »

Had the worst day EVER at work today.

Got super stressed, broke down in tears, walked out of new job and pretty sure I'll get the heave-ho next week. Feel like such an emotional wobbly mess at the moment, partly due to this journey.

I think the temping tipped me over this edge this morning.


2b x

2b Unless you blurted out something very unfortunate this morning, I think this might be an occasion which calls for a big fat lie. I would be inclined to go in on Monday, speak to the boss, and tell them that you had received very bad news on Friday morning (along the lines of close friend in fatal accident/serious illness in family member) which lead to your emotional upset, that you are very embarrassed, and hope it won't be held against you. Probation periods are such a tightrope and if you otherwise like the job, or even if you are not yet sure about it, it isnt worth doing anything to put it at risk.

Hugs

Kitten_Pie

It looks like there are alot of people who need hugs tonight/today

bigzippy

Evening ladies :wave:

I'm down in the dumps tonight too, so can't offer much in the way of support, but 2b I've been thinking about you the last day or two and wondering how you were but forgot to ask Hope you're not too blue

2ba3c

Nicki wrote: »

2b Unless you blurted out something very unfortunate this morning, I think this might be an occasion which calls for a big fat lie. I would be inclined to go in on Monday, speak to the boss, and tell them that you had received very bad news on Friday morning (along the lines of close friend in fatal accident/serious illness in family member) which lead to your emotional upset, that you are very embarrassed, and hope it won't be held against you. Probation periods are such a tightrope and if you otherwise like the job, or even if you are not yet sure about it, it isnt worth doing anything to put it at risk.

Hugs

Thanks Nicki, I'm definitely inclined to do that, BUT it's tricky.

TTC40 and anybody who is interested;

I'm self employed and they kind of a client of mine (most of my work is there, and they are a charity)... but its new and the hours and the workload are (in my 15 years experience) unrealistic and it's completely my fault, as I've been trying to manage their expectations, badly. AND in all honesty, I know charity work is notoriously underpaid, I think the wages for the workload is unrealistic (my fault, I should have realised this beforehand)... so slightly annoyed with myself for this one.

There are only 3 of us in the office, and the IT system had crashed that morning, leaving me to recreate a whole days worth of intricate, cross-checking type work and it was obvious (I tried to hide it, but I'm a terrible actress) that I was getting very stressed by it all (and the fact I am running out of time to get it all finished before Xmas).

I'd been developing this headache/migraine behind my eyes all morning (probably through concentration) and went to toilet to press my forehead against the cold brick in there, to hope it would help.

I walked back into the office and the business owner (who is IMO very difficult anyway and I'm not sure if we properly 'gel') asked me if I was finding the system/their IT stressful - and I answered honestly (perhaps, TOO honestly) that it was the most difficult system I had ever had the experience of meeting! This got her back up and she basically snapped back at me about getting used to it, etc etc.

Anyway she kept talking on at me and I just couldn't stop the tears, I explained I had a headache. And I basically just got my bag and said I had to go - and walked out.

I broke down in the car on the way home, in a way I haven't broken down in AGES. I was a huge sobbing mess, it was so OTT, but I couldn't seem to stop and I dont know why I was SO upset.

I've gotten VERY chummy with the girl in the office with me (the other one) and in our short time we've even talked about setting up something similar together and even she is being funny with me, via text. We never really had that boss relationship, but now we need to 'chat on Monday'. It's all odd and awkward and I don't know how to make it better.

Sorry - this is so long winded. Maybe its going to help writing it all out. All I seem to do is come in here and moan, I'm sorry, I want to get this misery out of the way.

BZ (((bigs hugs))) back back atcha, buddy. Is there anything I/we can do in here to cheer you up? You ladies in here always make ME feel better.

2ba3c

bigzippy wrote: »

:rotfl:

I've been having a bit of a quiet weep tonight I said to DH earlier "sometimes, I try and tell myself that we don't need a baby, we've got a nice life together..." he cut me off and said "no, we do need a baby. I want a baby. I can't imagine us not having a baby in our life, in at least some way" :(:A

BZ - xxxx

I so understand this. I was saying to myself the other day that perhaps it's not meant to be. I am just supposed to be a step-mummy and mummy to 2 angels, and that was my lot.

I did see a psychic when i was about 17 who said i would have 3 babies - and these were my three.

And that DW was supposed to be with someone before me and have a child together, because I couldn't.

Sometimes I shouldnt be left alone with my mind.

Kitten_Pie

2b, from the sounds of it you haven't done anything major. She may just want to discuss work load or make sure that you are ok.
A good manager/boss/colleague would want to make sure you are alright before taking things further, as long as it isn't a regular thing, I don't think there will be too many issues.

Relax over the weekend and try not to focus on it too much (easier said than done I know)

BZ hope things aren't too stressful for you.

If I could I would send you both brownies

claire16c

QQuaver wrote: »

claire, I'd love to go to Hawaii:happyhear
Was is as nice as one imagined?(Tropical paradise?)

Yes it is. Ive been there a few times its my favourite place in the world - even after all the places we visited when travelling this year. So alllll my spare pennies go towards another trip there! Me and DH put away any spare cash or coins, it all adds up! And which is why Ill probably always own a bog standard nokia and never have an iphone because I figure that money can go towards plane tickets! I once spoke to a woman on tripadvisor who ate peanut butter and jam sandwiches for months so she could go back there quicker!:rotfl:




I cant believe your cheeky doctor asked you if your DH was the Dad! Thats so annoying for you you might have to wait another cycle. BUT if you wait, and get your baby then I guess you will totally forget about this one extra month in the years to come!

2b - I think Nickis idea of a big fat lie could be a good one.

claire16c

TTC40 wrote: »

Hope everyone is well and warm. Found out today that one of my colleagues is pg but in a new relationship & didn't mean for it to happen. She is in her 30s & has 2 kids already so I would have hoped she knows what causes it.

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I was watching Jezza this morning and this couple had a one night stand and yep she was pregnant and they were there for a dna test. I just dont get it! Once, and then theres us lot on this board who must have BD thousands of times if you added it all up!

Sa-ra-ra-ra

claire16c wrote: »

I was watching Jezza this morning and this couple had a one night stand and yep she was pregnant and they were there for a dna test. I just dont get it! Once, and then theres us lot on this board who must have BD thousands of times if you added it all up!

I saw that one today (we watch it in our lunch break at work!) and it really annoys me - again, it's so unfair! This seems to be my theme at the moment, boringly.

bigzippy

2ba3c wrote: »

BZ - xxxx

I so understand this. I was saying to myself the other day that perhaps it's not meant to be. I am just supposed to be a step-mummy and mummy to 2 angels, and that was my lot.

I did see a psychic when i was about 17 who said i would have 3 babies - and these were my three.

And that DW was supposed to be with someone before me and have a child together, because I couldn't.

Sometimes I shouldnt be left alone with my mind.

I wouldn't worry about some baloney a so-called psychic spouts! You definitely shouldn't be left alone with your mind if you let that upset you!
(btw, although I genuinely don't believe in psychics, I am joking - I know how once someone says something like that, it's impossible to unhear it :cool:)

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

2b, from the sounds of it you haven't done anything major. She may just want to discuss work load or make sure that you are ok.
A good manager/boss/colleague would want to make sure you are alright before taking things further, as long as it isn't a regular thing, I don't think there will be too many issues.

Relax over the weekend and try not to focus on it too much (easier said than done I know)

BZ hope things aren't too stressful for you.

If I could I would send you both brownies

I'm with kitten on this 2b. I don't think you've done anything unforgivable. You didn't hurl abuse or break anything, it'll be fine I also don't believe in lying: my mother once told me that if she caught me in a lie once she'd struggle to trust what I said again, and it stuck with me and I found the same is true for my relationships now. I think owning up and saying that you're sorry, you were having a terrible day, you had a migraine you were trying to mask (and if you want to, that you have some family issues you're working through -true, not a lie, but ambiguous and doesn't invite a lot of questions imo), and it all got a bit too much and you needed to leave/take the rest of the day - I'm sure that your previous professionalism etc will get you through, and who knows, maybe this is your opportunity to get discussion started about some of the issues you've having there, and how they could be eased/resolved...?
Good luck with it. and let us know how you get on, on monday. Your colleague is probably just treading on egg shells around you. Try not to read too much into texts-they can be as bad as chinese whispers;)

Kitten pie, brownies sounds heavenly! :drool: