Trying for a Baby Part 7

codemonkey

squ1rrel5 wrote: »

Had a 'heart to heart' with the OH last night - it's been bugging me how little we get to BD and seeing as we are officially ttc it just doesnt feel like it!!
I sometimes feel like a fraud when I go to the doctors about my PCOS because, yes there's a problem but perhaps I'd actually be pg by now if we actually BD'd enough!!!

I'd been trying for the last few days to instigate but no joy, so I broke down last night and let out all my pent emotions. He talks more than me about how much he wants a baby but I still dont think he gets just how 'big' this is and the hard work that it will take. I was annoyed that I was the one going through the struggle of losing weight, becoming healthier, popping pills, weeing on sticks, missing work for docs appointments, being poked and prodded when I got there, and having numerous blood tests as well as trying to make the effort to BD! He doesnt have to think about anything else except BD'ing yet he seems to find it too much effort to do that sometimes!!!
I seemed to have go my point across without both of us getting too upset but we'll see what changes in the next few days/weeks.
TBH, we do have a lot to think about in the weeks up to our wedding and that is priority at the moment but I wanted to change his mind set before we go so can we try for a honeymoon baby at least!!!!! :-)

Sorry for the long post - just wanted to get it off my chest this morning as it was quite emotional last night!!!

I know exactly how you feel. I take pills on a schedule. I mess with my hormones. I try to lose weight and eat healthily. I've had enough blood taken to satisfy all the vampires in True Blood. I keep the bedroom dark so i can imitate a chicken and i've had more than one medical professional with their hands so far inside me that they could use me as a puppet.

DH on the other hand wont visit the doctor about his issues. He only takes his vitamins if i hand feed him them. He takes hot showers and wears tight boxers.

Sigh. Anyway I have ewcm. Not that it matters as facebook and computer games are more important. I went to kiss him earlier and he acted like it was a horrible thing - you know when a little boy thinks he's too old to kiss his grandmother and makes a face? It was like that.

I am impressed though. Ewcm at cd8!! Still think it'll be a while til ov.

lilymay1

Code, massive massive hugs.

You know, I wonder if I am a bit of a 'man' with OH sometimes. He gets so upset that we don't have much time to us anymore and I can be quite stand-off-ish with him when it comes to being intimate in other ways. He is always happy to BD, sometimes desperate for it and really takes this TTC seriously. I am making a special effort at the moment because when I really sit and think about it I am very very lucky to have my husband.

Anyway, perhaps I should go and tell him that. Have a good evening ladies

abis21

Oooo, oooo, oooo, oooo, oooo - guess what?!?!

My levels are normal!!!!!!! :j:j:j:j:j

Had a nightmare day yesterday trying to organise my blood test cos the referral didn't come through. Managed to cry on 2 different receptionists cos I was in such a state about it rising the week before and the possibility of the outcome of these tests.

And after all that it was defo worth it!! :j:j:j

Officially it took 10 weeks for levels to return to normal, so I should wait 6 months from now, but I had already spoken to the molar nurse about trying sooner than that as I don't think I can hang on that long for my sanitys sake.

I don't know when exactly we will try - but the main danger has gone now, and its just preferrable for me to wait it out now rather than necessary if you get me. Am definately going to wait for another period before trying again, and maybe even 1 more cycle if I can hang on that long.

I will still need fortnightly tests now to check that I stay within normal, but hopefully next time I see a rise it will be because I have a sticky bean

Hope everyone else is doing ok. :A

Am sure I will be joining you all in the frustrations of OH's not doing their part in the BD department. It has been lovely to enjoy none TTC BDing lately, but I think we'll have to step up the frequency when we are TTC again.

Oooooo, I will be able to start folic acid again and start preparing my body for making babies :D:D Altho part of that will be getting back on an exercise and diet routine as I have been comfort eating wayyyyy too much during all of this.

Sammy85_2

Hi ladies

Just wondered if anyone else out there is TTC whilst breastfeeding or has done so in the past successfully?

Im currently breastfeeding - Exclusively until 6 months and now at 7 months old only feeding late evening, night feed and first thing.

AF returned at around 3 months PP and I've had 3 so far - every 50 days or there abouts. We've been TTC (more not preventing) since my baby girl was around 3 months old, so for 4 months now and nothing yet.

Its obviously very early days and I know chances are reduced whilst breastfeeding but we really want our children close in age, there is 16 months between my sister and I - I had hoped for a similar age gap with my children. Hopes of that are about to pass by!

I went and got myself all excited when AF returned even though I was breastfeeding and now i'm concerned that maybe i'm not ovulating afterall or that my cycle is too long to make conception possible.

I've been monitoring CM and all the signs there have been as expected if I was ovulating, haven't done temps because i'm up so much in the night with baby that i dont think it would be very accurate.

Thanks for reading ladies. If nothing else its helped to vent a bit.

Definitely_blonde

Thanks to everyone who gave suggestions about my skin. QQ I only wash my face at night, I know it’s bad to wear make up every day but I always have done and especially need to just now to cover up the spots. I have tried panoxyl but I have very sensitive skin and it burned my skin like crazy. I normally use Eucerin and Johnsons products. I will look into the simple products as I think they should be gentle on my skin.

I think I am either 9 or 10 days past ovulation (I don’t test so could be out with this guess) and I am desperate to test. I have been ss’ing like crazy - I went out for dinner with a friend and all I could smell was the garlic and lemon from the next table, I have been super tired and my stomach feels bloated. It could also be that I hate garlic and lemon, have been working long hours and MIL is ill and that I have put a few pounds on recently but I am still keeping my fingers crossed!! I popped into Superdrug on the way home and I going to try and wait until Saturday to test

On the years front – I met OH in 1999 (when I was 20 and he was 19, I have a toy boy:rotfl:), we moved in together in 2001, moved in 2003, married in 2004, moved again in 2006 – not sure I can find any pattern here!!

I hope your OH feels better soon Gemmzie

Abis – amazing news about your levels :j, sooooo pleased for you.

claire16c

time2deal wrote: »

what day Claire? I am going on the Thursday - these were the only tickets we got in the ballot, so was pretty pleased with them.

Do you know there are 24 new BBC HD sport channels just appeared?!

Im going Friday. Yeah same here just got the rowing, we bid for those and athletics. We later on bought some paralympic ones for athletics and swimming so we can see the stadium and get to the olympic park etc.

Really! We have sky but not the HD. So i wont be able to actually watch them.

How are you getting to the rowing? I havent looked at the info thing they sent with the tickets for a while, so just being lazy really. I need to work out if its better to drive to somewhere or get the train its only about 40 mins away from me. But it starts at 9.30 so I think its gonna be an early start with all the security and walking.

Birdie85, were staying over for the paralympics as I can be in london in about 45 mins but we thought wed make a weekend of it. I think our hotel is about £90 and its a Hilton, but it isnt in august like the Olympics so I guess might have been pricer then. I did see some cheaper stuff but they didnt look all that nice :eek:

Im 3dpo now. Were going to start 'properly' ttc next month, this month was a bit NTNP.

Im just so scared of getting morning sickness in my job as I havent been there long. And we have a long haul hol in october in business class that I saved years of airmiles for so I dont want that to be ruined either as i just feel like I will be the person who would get really ill with it. So feel like its a bit up in the air at the moment.

But if nothing happens before then, as soon as Oct is over it will be full steam ahead. Its crazy how time flies when youre ttcing.

claire16c

Definitely_blonde wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who gave suggestions about my skin. QQ I only wash my face at night, I know it’s bad to wear make up every day but I always have done and especially need to just now to cover up the spots. I have tried panoxyl but I have very sensitive skin and it burned my skin like crazy. I normally use Eucerin and Johnsons products. I will look into the simple products as I think they should be gentle on my skin.

Isnt your face all greasy in the morning? Or is that just mine :rotfl: I couldnt even think of putting make up on my skin unwashed? Or do you just mean you use a face wipe or something and not actually wash it with water?

Ive always read its fine to wear make up every day, as long as you take it off at night. It wont give you spots. Its also good protection from the sun, so good for preventing wrinkles.

time2deal

QQuaver wrote: »

Piccie?

So - I know you have all been HANGING out for this, but here are some pictures from the garden.

Bear in mind this garden was a building site not long ago, and this is my first ever attempt at gardening!







To be fair the pansies grow like weeds... these are the one of a few things that have survived from the rubble last year.



What are these called? My pride and joy!









And update tonight, there are even more flowers in this pot. Looking lovely.

time2deal

As this is an MSE site, I will admit this one was bought from Morrisons. With buds, which have flowered beautifully. Bit of a cheat but it was ONE POUND! One single pound! Bargain of the week I think. :money:



Plus we have lots of other things too. Mini carnations, more pansies, magnolia tree which is taking off... it makes me happy.

Oh - and my strawberries. Lots of strawberries, but none ripe - I am hoping with the heat they will ripen up.

lemonmelon_2

Beauuuuuuuutifuuuuuuuuuuuul garden time2deal
Abis I'm over the moon for you too