Trying for a Baby Part 7

teaandcupcakesplease

Morning Ladies,

Im a bit worried this month i havent seen any ewcm atall... is that normal in some people?

xx

squ1rrel5

Had a 'heart to heart' with the OH last night - it's been bugging me how little we get to BD and seeing as we are officially ttc it just doesnt feel like it!!
I sometimes feel like a fraud when I go to the doctors about my PCOS because, yes there's a problem but perhaps I'd actually be pg by now if we actually BD'd enough!!!

I'd been trying for the last few days to instigate but no joy, so I broke down last night and let out all my pent emotions. He talks more than me about how much he wants a baby but I still dont think he gets just how 'big' this is and the hard work that it will take. I was annoyed that I was the one going through the struggle of losing weight, becoming healthier, popping pills, weeing on sticks, missing work for docs appointments, being poked and prodded when I got there, and having numerous blood tests as well as trying to make the effort to BD! He doesnt have to think about anything else except BD'ing yet he seems to find it too much effort to do that sometimes!!!
I seemed to have go my point across without both of us getting too upset but we'll see what changes in the next few days/weeks.
TBH, we do have a lot to think about in the weeks up to our wedding and that is priority at the moment but I wanted to change his mind set before we go so can we try for a honeymoon baby at least!!!!! :-)

Sorry for the long post - just wanted to get it off my chest this morning as it was quite emotional last night!!!

good_vibes

Elise37 You chart looks fine
Teaandcupcakesplease I have noticed a lack of EWCM since I have been ttc, compared to a few years agao were I had loads. Even to s point that I might of missed it due to how little. Have made changes to get more.

mrsj28

squ1rrel5 wrote: »

Had a 'heart to heart' with the OH last night - it's been bugging me how little we get to BD and seeing as we are officially ttc it just doesnt feel like it!!
I sometimes feel like a fraud when I go to the doctors about my PCOS because, yes there's a problem but perhaps I'd actually be pg by now if we actually BD'd enough!!!

I'd been trying for the last few days to instigate but no joy, so I broke down last night and let out all my pent emotions. He talks more than me about how much he wants a baby but I still dont think he gets just how 'big' this is and the hard work that it will take. I was annoyed that I was the one going through the struggle of losing weight, becoming healthier, popping pills, weeing on sticks, missing work for docs appointments, being poked and prodded when I got there, and having numerous blood tests as well as trying to make the effort to BD! He doesnt have to think about anything else except BD'ing yet he seems to find it too much effort to do that sometimes!!!
I seemed to have go my point across without both of us getting too upset but we'll see what changes in the next few days/weeks.
TBH, we do have a lot to think about in the weeks up to our wedding and that is priority at the moment but I wanted to change his mind set before we go so can we try for a honeymoon baby at least!!!!! :-)

Sorry for the long post - just wanted to get it off my chest this morning as it was quite emotional last night!!!

((hugs)) Squirrel - I can totally identify with what you have written. Glad you had a chat about it last night, it can be really difficult feeling like you are the one making all the effort. We got into a real rut about it recently t so this cycle we've agreed to 'relaxed' ttc... I'm not temping or doing opks and we are just aiming to BD every two-three days, but not making a big deal of it if we don't (please don't quote me on that in a couple of weeks when I realise we've missed OV!!!).

Hopefully honeymoon will be the perfect time for lots of BDing

mrsj28

Elsie37 wrote: »

My Ovulation Chart

I'm not sure if this link works but would you mind looking at my chart so far - do you think I have ovulated after getting the positive opk on saturday? My temp hasn't risen at all which makes me think I didnt actually ovulate?

Thanks ladies x

Hi Elsie - it doesn't look (from your chart) like you've ovulated yet, so I'd keep BDing every couple of days if you can!

teaandcupcakesplease

good_vibes wrote: »

Elise37 You chart looks fine
Teaandcupcakesplease I have noticed a lack of EWCM since I have been ttc, compared to a few years agao were I had loads. Even to s point that I might of missed it due to how little. Have made changes to get more.

Thanks good vibes, can you advise on what i need to do?x

Elsie37

mrsj28 wrote: »

Hi Elsie - it doesn't look (from your chart) like you've ovulated yet, so I'd keep BDing every couple of days if you can!

Thanks - I'm just hoping OH is up to it after I've told him I was ovulating these last few days!

Birdie85

Squirrel, I could have written that myself! I *know* we missed OV on 2 previous cycles due to OH being too tired/not in the mood to BD, then he gets all upset when AF arrives and I just want to shake him so he understands how important his role in all of this is!

Teaandcupcakes, some months I have loads of EWCM, other months not so much. Think you have to stay well hydrated and some ladies take cough medicine as that helps to produce more too

good_vibes

Stopped having too much coffee, didn't see how much I was drinking in a day. A habbit I picked up a couple of years ago when I was trying to work and cover everyone else who was off ill when I was ill myself. Before then hardly drank it.
There is other things that can help with more EWCM.
Have been taking eveing primrose up to Ovu only and some people say try cough syrup and grapefruit juice.
Those I might try next month

good_vibes

Squirrel very brave for you to have that chat to OH. We don't want to case pressure or stress to them, but also they do need to unstand why things don't happen.
I myself might have to pick up the courage to speak to OH. Strange he seems to want to BD more way before and after ovu time. Not that I tell him when ovu is happening.