Trying for a Baby Part 7

euronorris

Good luck QQ!!

Good luck to all TTC ladies also! x

Birdie85

I hope that your tempting fate works QQ! OH and I are so excited about booking a holiday in Florida (it's our treat if I'm not PG by October) that we just know I'm going to get PG the month we decide 'Ah screw it, lets just get it booked!' so we can't actually go!

Sorry to see that there were some ruffled feathers on here last night, TTC can get a little over-emotional and people can tend to overthink it but we have to remember that for each lady who gets a BFP it is the happiest news in her world, no matter if she's been trying for 2 weeks or 2 years. The post earlier this month that said, along with the poster's predictions, 'At least 7 to be trying over 6 months and/ or to have had a MC...can't help thinking that everyone should have to wait their turn.' rankled me too TBH, I just about fit into that category but it must be awful to read that as a newbie and think that you're going to be scorned for a BFP if you haven't 'paid your dues'. This thread has a high turnover obviously and it relies on the newbies to keep it going and keep the PMA up, lets not alienate them by making them think that they don't deserve a baby unless they've suffered enough heartache in the process.

Anyway, that's my two pence and I'll leave it there. I don't like to argue with people and find it difficult to voice an opinion for fear of causing upset. TBH all the silly thoughts that have been going around in my head about TTC have paled into insignificance with my poor SIL's ordeal. I'd rather not get PG right now and send her the sticky bean instead if that was at all possible.

Metranil_Vavin

I have followed this thread for a few years now and been part of it during my own ttc experiences/mc etc.

About once every 6 months, a row will blow up..without fail.

I think it is just a combination of hormones, heightened emotions and desperate want for a baby that sets the spark off. Whether anyone cares to admit it or not, reading that someone else has had a BFP when you so desperately want one is hard to swallow, and feelings of envy mixed in with being happy for the person, is 100% to be expected.

I don't think you could ever expect a subject so emotive not to cause upset and conflict from time to time amongst the great support it also offers.

I am looking forward to being part of it all again in the next few months

Metranil_Vavin

Btw..Q I am really excited about your progress with your frozen blast (I think that's right?!)..sounds like a real step forward

mishkanorman

Nicki wrote: »

As for the posts about my earlier one, I'd just like to make it completely clear that I have never ever said that anyone who is pregnant is banned from posting on this thread and have often chatted with pregnant ladies on here. Nor have I ever begrudged anyone a quick BFP and I was not responsible for the upsetting prediction post which was quoted. There are 26 of us listed in the opening post who are TTC but have children already so I am baffled as to why that is a bar to posting, and why a pregnant poster who also had previous children when she was posting on this thread should be telling me I should not be here for that reason.

No, what I actually said was that those in glass houses shouldnt throw stones. It would be unfair of anyone to tell you you have less right to post here because you have children already so I fail to see why you feel it necessary to police the thread and make others feel unwelcome because they dont post frequently enough for YOUR liking / havent been trying long enough / are already pregnant / havent suffered a loss !


So far as I can remember I've only ever expressed disquiet 3 times on this thread or it's predecessors about certain types of posts and have never saiid that disquiet meant anyone was forbidden from posting. T.

Your version of "expressed disquiet" is extremely aggressive, Fluffnutter had not posted about her pregnancy and was part of the discussions many were having at the time, yet you still felt the need to berate her for posting here when pregnant - a fact of which she didnt bring up herself and hadnt mentioned - so if you werent saying pregnant posters arent welcome what exactly were you saying ?

I would also like to say the title of the thread is "trying for baby" and whilst getting pregnant is a good start that doesnt mean you have that baby yet, there has always been a blur between the threads as people move forwards, and sometimes sadly backwards. I personally always found it helpful to get advice from those that had only just conceived as everything was current and the advice more concise, the days around the time of getting that bfp are never discussed on the pregnancy boards so it makes much more sense to have them discussed here, where everyone will hopefully benefit, rather than there.

The additional threads of "trying to conceive when its just not happening 12 months+" and "miscarriage support" were started so that no-one accidently caused offence & upset by posting something unsympathetic to others. Its very clear to me that some here are trying to dominate this thread to make it appropriate for their current situation and making everyone else tow the line rather than joining a more appropriate thread. If you find it too difficult to be a part of a general thread where anything may be posted why cant you join the more relevant one as others have quietly done ?

QQuaver

Birdie85 wrote: »

I hope that your tempting fate works QQ! OH and I are so excited about booking a holiday in Florida (it's our treat if I'm not PG by October) that we just know I'm going to get PG the month we decide 'Ah screw it, lets just get it booked!' so we can't actually go!

Book that holiday!:j

all the silly thoughts that have been going around in my head about TTC have paled into insignificance with my poor SIL's ordeal. I'd rather not get PG right now and send her the sticky bean instead if that was at all possible.

(((Hugs))).

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

I am looking forward to being part of it all again in the next few months

How old is your baby now? Was he born in January 2011?

QQuaver

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Btw..Q I am really excited about your progress with your frozen blast (I think that's right?!)..sounds like a real step forward

Of the 4 IVFs I've done, none of my eggs made that far (one was very close back in December last year, it was collected too early. Had it been mature, one can't stop wondering:o).

I'm hoping this was the golden eggy, but since I had a close one in December, maybe I still produce reasonable eggs every 4 months:cool:

Metranil_Vavin

He will be 15 months on Saturday Q, growing up fast and almost on his feet now..it's full on!

I turned 39 on Tuesday, so am feeling the tickerty tock! OH and I have discussed it and the plan was to start tryng around August, however as you never know how long things will take/issues you may face along the way, I'm wondering if we should crack on..mind you that would mean having to DTD, and we are soooo lazy when it comes to that! :rotfl:

Metranil_Vavin

QQuaver wrote: »

Of the 4 IVFs I've done, none of my eggs made that far (one was very close back in December last year, it was collected too early. Had it been mature, one can't stop wondering:o).

I'm hoping this was the golden eggy, but since I had a close one in December, maybe I still produce reasonable eggs every 4 months:cool:

wow..I really, really hope this is the one for you Q..I will be stalking you lady! xx

Nicki

There is only one poster who is making aggressive posts on here and trying to drive others off the thread, as she has consistently done due to a personal agenda of her own. I've popped her back on ignore though, so assuming that people don't want this thread to descend into a row, I'd be grateful if they didn't quote any parts of posts of hers which are just intended to be inflammatory.

This poster blew a very mild point up into something much much bigger, has put words into my mouth which were never said or meant, and is deliberately trying to create and prolong a row which is wholly unnecessary. However, if she finds that to be supportive of the ladies on the thread who are trying to conceive, she can go right ahead, because unless others choose to quote her, or push the discussion into even more inflammatory directions, I'm not going to see it.

Those who have read the thread for a while know WHY she behaves the way she does, and what the big elephant in the room is, which is something about my life which I cannot change (and would not want to), and have never used against that poster, but nonetheless has made me a target of her bile since she joined the thread.