Depression

Tiff_2

Karrie wrote: »

Had my docs visit this morning. She wasn't surprised that there had been no improvement and told me to stick with the meds for another 4 weeks. I guess I was expecting an immediate improvement. She suggested counselling to which I said yes but then she said it is means tested and that I had to call the counselling people. Hmm not sure I can be @rsed to go round phoning people. I have also signed myself off for a few days. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted of my shoulders just by not having to go to work for a few days.

Hi karrie!:hello:
What your dr said makes sense hun. It really does take a few weeks for things to start kicking in. It takes time to get to our state of health and it's going to take time to get well. I think we all expect an immediate improvement agel.;) It's really important not to try to expect huge things of yourself and not to rush things. Listen to your drs guys - it's better to do it properly than quickly!;)

Maybe you could get a different opinion on the counselling from another dr at the surgery karrie? If not, go back to the first dr and say you can't afford private counselling and see what they say. Ask if the NHS will pay for the private counselling - you never know hun, you can get other things done privately but paid for the NHS I've heard. It's very unlikely though for counselling.
Take as much time as you need karrie and try and concentrate on getting yourself on a level footing. By looking after yourself, you will be stronger to deal with the other issues. Thinking of you hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

flis21

razorbladekisses wrote: »

:hello:

flis, Did the money appear on the debit card?

I'm sorry that the physio didn't go as well as expected. Perhaps you need to take things a little easier.

Tomorrow is going to be hard. It would have been my Nan's birthday (she died last Oct.) Even typing about it starts me off crying. I wanted to buy some flowers and take them to the crematorium. No-one else has even menioned it. It's quite upsetting.

I have an appointment with my social worker tomorrow morning. I'm going to tell her that I don't want to keep attending the appointments. I don't see any point in them. It's a waste of both mine and her time. Basically I just want to be left alone. No-one seems to understand. I told the A&E Doctor just to leave me and that I didn't want treatment. Why did he not listen! Surely everyone has the right to refuse treatment. In his eyes he made me 'better' he prevented me dying from liver failure but why did he even bother :mad:

I have been trying so hard recently. I've been trying to think positively about life generally but this week has just been a battle with my mind. All day I'm surrounded by medicines. One part of me is screaming do it over and over and another is saying no :mad: How !!!!!! up is it that in my job I tell people no more than 8 a day blah blah blah and yet I don't even listen to myself!

Hey RBK,

Yes, thank goodness, the money did appear on my card yesterday. They phoned me and said sorry for the delay and it was now there. Such a relief, was really starting to panic then!

I also think you are right about taking things a bit easier. Have been rushing around in the morning doing the housework and preparing dinner before going to work, then on my feet at work, then when I get home am totally exhausted and can hardly walk. I think if I want to keep going into work am going to have to do less in the mornings and rest my ankle a little more.

Anyway, today is the last day for this week, then 3 days off to rest and recuperate. Will make sure I do my exercises, but am going to have a really relaxing weekend, without doing much walking or anything. Hopefully that will make it better next week.

I am so sorry to hear about your nan, I always buy some flowers and take them to where we scattered my grandad's ashes on the anniversary of his death. Anniversaries like that are really hard.

I think you know why the A&E doctor didn't leave you alone. Remember those thoughts are the illness talking. I have had times when I just want people to leave me to die, but they don't because they care. At times like those other people care more for us than we care for ourselves. He bothered because you are a special human being who has a right to life and health.

I am sending you loads of hugs and positive vibes. Please keep fighting.
Flis

flis21

Tiff wrote: »

Hi flis!:hello:
Sorry to hear about your ankle hun. I know how frustrated you must be.:o Just don't overdo it hun ok? You're doing really well and this is just a little setback angel. Congratulations on getting back to the job you love - and on your diet success hun.:T :A

quote=flis21I know what you mean Patch, I love the anonimity of this forum. It is the one place I can truly say what I feel without worrying about other people's feelings / what they will think of me.
Well said flis.;)


Also maybe give counselling another go. The first time I had it it didn't help at all, I didn't really get on with her very well. But the second time it really did help and I worked through a lot of my problems. I am just annoyed that I only got funding for 8 sessions, as I would have loved more, think it would have really helped me, but I can't afford to pay for it privately.
I've noticed that some people were questioning about the cost of counselling.
Guys, the NHS provides counselling for free. As far as I know, it has nothing to do with your income. I certainly wasn't asked about my income unless it was to see if I qualified for more help. Maybe the dr means go private if you can afford it. You have the right to ask to be referred to an NHS counsellor.

Generally, you might first see a counsellor for a set number of weeks. These counsellors are usually attached to your gp's surgery and end after a few weeks.
If you feel that you need more help/input/time, please talk to your dr., tell them how you feel and discuss what options there are.

If this hasn't helped, your gp can refer you to the Community Mental Health Team (CMHT) for an assessment of your needs. They will be able to plan what help you may need and you are not time limited for all/most things and it is still free. As with everything else, there may be a waiting list and how much you need a service determines your place on the waiting list. This is another reason why, no matter how hard it is, you must be completely honest with your medical professionals.

In addition, they may also include a referral to a psychologist or a psychiatrist or both. This is all free. It is not based on anything but need. Some people who can afford it, tend to go private if they can if they've been told they'll be on the waiting list a long time. But, as with any other medical condition, there is free professional help available. You may have to wait for it but if your issues worsen, ask for a reassessment. It is really important to keep communicating with your dr about how you are.;)
Hope this helped guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Hey Tiffy,

How are you today? I know, have been overdoing it on my ankle a bit, so am going to try and be sensible and take it a bit easier. It is lovely being back at work, even just for a couple of hours each day.

The diet didn't go so well last week and I put 1lb back on, but it is just a minor blip and I can get it off again next week. Only 3 weeks tomorrow till my holiday, so need to keep focused!

As for counselling and things I think it depends on your doctor and the area you live in. I was lucky as the company I worked for at the time provided funding for 8 sessions of counselling. My doctor said he could only refer me for one session. What bl00dy use is that!! I did get referred to a CMHT and saw a psychiatric nurse, but now I have stopped having the hallucinations doctor has said that I am not severe enough to need to see them anymore. They didn't do the follow up stuff they said they would anyway and that was over a year ago now!

I just keep taking my tablets and battling on my own (well, with hubby's support). I have come off my anti-psychotic medication well and have not relapsed. Not sure if I will ever be able to come off the anti-depressants tho. Have tried twice and both times was a disaster.

My only worry is that you are not supposed to take anti-d's when you are pregnant and we really want a baby. Both of us are getting so broody. I tried talking to my doctor about it, but he just confirmed that I shouldn't take the tablets when pregnant, but didn't say if there was anything else I could do.

Sorry, didn't mean to start rambling on like that.

Hugs to you all,
Flis

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Tiff_2

Hi flissy!:hello:
Yes hun, you're doing really well! Don't worry about that extra 1lb - get DH to chase you (:eek: - well, slowly chase you:rolleyes: ) upstairs! That'll shift it!:D

quote=flis21
Hey Tiffy,
How are you today? I know, have been overdoing it on my ankle a bit, so am going to try and be sensible and take it a bit easier. It is lovely being back at work, even just for a couple of hours each day.
The diet didn't go so well last week and I put 1lb back on, but it is just a minor blip and I can get it off again next week. Only 3 weeks tomorrow till my holiday, so need to keep focused!
That's the way hun. Just don't do too much ok?
I'm okay, thank you for asking angel.;)
My mum is ill again, bless her.:o
Brother's wedding in 2 weeks.

As for counselling and things I think it depends on your doctor and the area you live in. I was lucky as the company I worked for at the time provided funding for 8 sessions of counselling. My doctor said he could only refer me for one session. What bl00dy use is that!!
Absolutely none!!! Now I'm a ticked off Tiff!!! Just in the mood for some boxing.;)




I don't understand this angel. When did we become part of the American health care system?!
You're not posting from Florida are you hun?!:cool:
Is this an NHS gp? Pardon my prying hun, but do you usually go private? Also do you still work for the same company?

I did get referred to a CMHT and saw a psychiatric nurse, but now I have stopped having the hallucinations doctor has said that I am not severe enough to need to see them anymore. They didn't do the follow up stuff they said they would anyway and that was over a year ago now!
That's more like it - and a better option too if offered!;) Imh-Tiff-o,:rolleyes: , I would try and see if there's a more sympathetic gp in the practice angel. Ask for a referral back (don't wait to be offered!) to CMHT angel. Your psychiatrist should have made the decision on whether you needed any more help hun - did your gp do that or your psychiatrist?

Either way, you are entitled to aftercare and maybe also checkups every now and then, are a good idea. Sounds like communication lines broke down a little here (that almost never happens!:rolleyes: ) - try calling your last contact for the CMHT or explain to their receptionist hun. If not, back to the [strike]vet[/strike] er, gp hun - don't get brushed off and take DH with you as backup.;)

I just keep taking my tablets and battling on my own (well, with hubby's support). I have come off my anti-psychotic medication well and have not relapsed. Not sure if I will ever be able to come off the anti-depressants tho. Have tried twice and both times was a disaster.
Sweetie, you shouldn't be struggling on your own!
Did your gp help wean you off the meds hun?
Don't stop the ads by yourself angel. You should be getting follow-ups I would imagine, if only because you are on ads. I do know that there are some new rules in that instead of making routine appts every few weeks with your psychiatrist, it's now done on a basis of calling their secretary if you need to see them.

My only worry is that you are not supposed to take anti-d's when you are pregnant and we really want a baby. Both of us are getting so broody. I tried talking to my doctor about it, but he just confirmed that I shouldn't take the tablets when pregnant, but didn't say if there was anything else I could do.
Sorry, didn't mean to start rambling on like that.
You don't ramble hun.;) That's my job!:D :rolleyes:
Again, imho, your gp isn't caring enough about your situation. I don't feel any sympathy from him - I'd try another dr hun. They should explore all options as to how to enable you and DH to start your family, not just leave it at a dead end. That is so disrespectful!

You may try and request an appointment/referral with your local gynaecologist sweetheart - they'll know much more about it and if they don't, then they can co-ordinate with your psychiatrist/CMHT to see what may be possible.
Gps are well trained and I'm surprised he hasn't referred you to a gynae dr - they are specialists in their field, as are psychiatrists. Surely your gp should be thinking about exploring all possible solutions?!:rolleyes: At least then you'll know one way or the other angel.;)
Hugs to you all,
Flis/quote
Right back at you flissy hun!;)
By the way, if you do end up pregnant - it's nothing to do with me!:eek: Could be the first MSE baby?!:D I wish you both all the luck in the world angel. Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

HI PUMPKIN!:hello:
Just want to wish you and your fiance...

GOOD LUCK
FOR YOUR WEDDING DAY!

I can see it all now...

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Congratulations to you both!

I hope you have a day to remember and that you'll both live your 'happy ever after' together.:A Wishing you both the best of everything.:T
I'll be thinking of you hun! sniff, sniff.
(Oh - and one for the groom too.)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Well I attended my appointment this morning and kind of got what I wanted. I now only have to see my social worker once a month and she will call me once a week. She is also going to arrange an appointment with my psychiatrist so we can discuss it together. She said that if I feel suicidal to call the crisis team :rolleyes: uhm yeah right, like it's that easy.

I hate being like this. It doesn't even scare me anymore. I'm beyond caring. I don't even want help I just want to be left alone but that's obviously asking too much. I'm so confused and tearful. I'm a mess.

Karrie

razorbladekisses wrote: »

Well I attended my appointment this morning and kind of got what I wanted. I now only have to see my social worker once a month and she will call me once a week. She is also going to arrange an appointment with my psychiatrist so we can discuss it together. She said that if I feel suicidal to call the crisis team :rolleyes: uhm yeah right, like it's that easy.

I hate being like this. It doesn't even scare me anymore. I'm beyond caring. I don't even want help I just want to be left alone but that's obviously asking too much. I'm so confused and tearful. I'm a mess.

(((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

rose07

razorbladekisses wrote: »

Well I attended my appointment this morning and kind of got what I wanted. I now only have to see my social worker once a month and she will call me once a week. She is also going to arrange an appointment with my psychiatrist so we can discuss it together. She said that if I feel suicidal to call the crisis team :rolleyes: uhm yeah right, like it's that easy.

I hate being like this. It doesn't even scare me anymore. I'm beyond caring. I don't even want help I just want to be left alone but that's obviously asking too much. I'm so confused and tearful. I'm a mess.

I understand exactly what ya mean hun,



thinking of you, take care xxx

rose07

mclaren wrote: »

hi guys, im still about - just trying to take 1 day at a time - thought about going back to GP, still not called up yet though. bit worried what he will say.

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I hope you have got yaself to that GP of yours hun. I know where you live, so will come whip ya a!! if needed

but remember to take ya time hun

and take care x