Depression

Sugar_Coated_Owl

How is everyone? Any plans for the weekend?

EthelBloggs

not me, just this new hospital tomorrow.. and then I dunno

how bout you?
I'm gona have an early night tho i think cos it's going to be a long travelling day tmorow

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Ethel you are allowed to cry. Don't feel bad for doing so. Your daughter is in the safest place possible for her. Hopefully they can help her to help herself feel better.

Thinking of you xxx

learning_to_drive

Hi Ethel, hope you are well, remain strong, your daughter is in a good place where they will look after her

Done 3 mystery shops and got more lined up, its all about taking control and stuff, got 4 more next week and going to Smiths to see boss at 3 on Thursday

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Congrats on the 2 job offers LTD. I'm really pleased for you :j Bet you can't wait to start now!

rose07

Hello everyone

Hope your doing ok

Ethel soz to hear about your daughter, i hope you and ya oh are suporting each other, and that your daughter soon gets the help she needs

RBK, how are you doig hun? xxxx

Tiff, Sazzzi xxxxxxxx

LTD, glad all going well for you on the job scene, keep up the good work

and LRS and Carol huggles to you

to everyone hugs and huggles xxxxxx



and tiff no getting up to mischief:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:



Im suffering alot atm im afraid, i have no support at all, it all seems to have fallen apart since easter and me going into hospital. I used to have councelling, docs and general support now i have nothing and im afraid im suffering alot. My parents are having serious fights atm, and my brother went back to uni (down your parts tiffy), and now i am very limited to how much i can move after the operation, keep pushing myself too much as well:o , stairs are the worst, simple things are becoming very frustrating, not being able to move much . In alot of pain, as i can now feel the stitching and my bones that have been operated on. very sore , and pins and needles are not making things easy. Its soo painful

much love to all,

xxxxxxxxxxx

geminilady

EthelBloggs wrote: »

Thanks everyone, for the messages here and the pms

I've spoken to my daughter and she's miserable, feels as though she's being punished.. can't say I blame her, having spoken to the staff there.. it does sound a bit prison like :eek:

I'm going to go down there and have a look meself, as well as bring her some things that she'll need. She can't pop off to the shops and get bits n bobs as she wants anymore.. she can make a list and a staff member will get her shopping on designated days. Anything I bring her will be searched before she can have it... gawd I really hate this.

I still can't stop crying.. it's embarassing.. i went into the local corner shop earlier and burst into tears when I paying for my milk n bread
My mum's the same, crying and crying.. I feel sorry for my son, he resorted to weeding the garden to escape from us I think.

Her blood pressure is dangerously low and her heartbeat is too fast, and something is wrong with her stomach.. I just want my little girl to be ok again and I don't know how to fix her

Hope you get a good nights sleep and things go well tomorrow.As Tiff says we are all thinking of you.My heart goes out to you and your family.I can understand your daughter fealing she is being punished but try and make her understand she is being protected from doing any more harm to herself.I suppose the first step will be to get her physicaly well but it is obvious the treatment she has had so far is doing no good as she is getting worse not better.Maybe the new hospital will have more specialist psychiatrists that can help.I really hope so for the sake of all your family it must be so hard for you all.Just wondered if your son has someone he can talk to apart from yourself and your mum it must be very hard for him to see you and your mum so upset and worrying about his sister.Don't be embaressed about crying,you have every reason to and it is your bodies release system ,much better than bottling everything up.Let us know how things go tomorrow and don't forget to look after yourself,have a good breakfirst,stop for coffee ect i know traveling can be stressful in its self without worrying about your daughter.

flis21

OK, Can feel a long post coming on. My insomnia seems to be back, have been up since 4.30 this morning, which is really annoying as I am going over to have dinner with my sister this evening and don't want to be yawning half way through!! (Tiff - She is doing me a low fat dinner, so won't ruin my diet!).

Rose - I am so sorry for how you are feeling. What has happened to your support? I can totally understand the frustration of not being able to move around easily. I am still having trouble with stairs and slopes and I had my accident 3 months ago now. Are you in a plaster cast? That is horrid, mine was so itchy and uncomfortable, was such a relief to get it off. The thing is, as frustrating as it is, don't try and push it too much. You need time to heal and it will get better, it just takes patience. (Don't worry, I didn't have a lot of patience tho!! Got very frustrated and kept trying to do things I shouldn't). Anyway, am thinking of you honey, and things will improve with time.

LTD I was thinking about looking into mystery shopping to try and make some more cash to put towards our debts. Does it pay very much? What sort of things do you have to do? Congrats on the job offers as well, have you decided where you are going to go?


Ethel Hey honey, I am so sorry for what you and your family (especially your daughter) are going through at the moment. Don't beat yourself up for the crying, it is a natural reaction. Whilst it can't be nice to see this happening to your daughter, hopefully this is the best place for her to be and she will get the help and support she needs to get better. My thoughts are with you and am sending you big cyber hugs:grouphug:


RBK Banks are the worst aren't they. Have no compassion or understanding. Try talking to them and see if they will take the charge off? If you have had a lot of charges can you look into the reclaiming your charges thing. I have just started looking into mine, as over the past 6 years the bank have had over £700 of me in charges. Have just sent the first letter to get the exact figure, then am going to have a go at getting the charges back.

So good to hear that you are surviving back at work. I know coming up against peoples judgement and prejudices is hard. I am sure that chap knew what self harm was, he probably just didn't understand why it happens, which is where the confusion came in maybe? I know it is upsetting to be confronted with it, but your physical scars will heal, it is the emotional ones we need to focus on. Being back at work, although it is hard, is a real positive step.

Sorry to hear about you and your bf? Maybe this is time for a new start?

Tiff, Well what can I say? As usual you are amazing. I know you have problems of your own, but you don't go on about them and you find all this time and strength to support all of us. Somedays I am not sure what I would do without knowing that you are always here. I just wish you would stop making me cry over my keyboard!! (Am only crying because of the amazing emotional support, don't worry you haven't upset me!).

Now to your post to me. Yes have jumped straight on bandwagon and written to original creditor yesterday. Just waiting for reply now. This is hard work, but now we have 2 creditors to agree payments amounts I am hopeful about the rest. I have been reading (and posting a little) on the DFW board and there are some really lovely helpful people over there. They have helped me to see what is the best thing to do and given me the courage to go ahead and do it. Even phoned one of my creditors yesterday (am not very good on the phone, so usually avoid this)!

The allowance for hubby is per month, his allowance is more than mine, but am still a bit worried that he will have trouble sticking to it. I did have a bit of a chat about it with him yesterday, but he just got all defensive, saying that if I didn't trust him enough to believe he could do it, then that wasn't going to help him was it? I think he is really going to try and, through his suggestion, he is going to draw out his monthly allowance, then leave his bank card at home, so he can't draw out any more on a whim. Will just have to wait and see how it goes really.

I love doing jigsaws, they really calm me, but didn't do them for a long time. My Dad is a jigsaw addict and does these massive 5,000 piece ones. I tried doing a 3,000 piece one, but couldn't manage it. So gave up for quite a while. Then realised that it was not a competition. I enjoy doing them for me, and so what if I like doing smaller 1,000 - 1,500 piece ones. So have gone back to doing them and really glad I have.

My bunny would look very funny with a perm, he has long fur (he is a lionhead) so it would go really curly, but maybe not!! Not really going to put him in a pie. Love him to bits. When Mike is not here he is my company and I spend hours grooming him, playing with him and talking to him. Probably lucky he can't answer me as he'd probably tell me to stop offloading all my problems onto him!! Nevermind, that is the wonderful thing about animals. As long as you feed them and look after them, they give you unconditional love in return.


Right, think I will call it a day (well, a morning!) now. Am going for longest post on here I think!

Hope you all have good days, remember to take your meds (have taken mine everyday for the last 4 days now, although it helps that hubby constantly reminds me!). Love n hugs to you all,

Flis

P.S. If anyone else wants to join the Tiff Appreciation Society just let me know!

Tiff_2

Let_Robinson_Sing wrote: »

Hey folks.

Had a better day today. Saw my CPN and felt better afterwards, which was good. Cant wait for next thursday as g.f is staying over for a few days. Cant wait for that Next friday I am taking her out for a meal at a nice Italian Restaurant.

Hi lrs!:hello:
Good to hear you had a better day hun! Remember that point for if you hit a low spot lrs - remember that you were able to feel better at some point.

CPNs are amazing people overall. It's incredible to think about all the stuff they have to deal with - I don't know how they do it day in and out, especially if they get abused. They just seem to take it all in their stride, bless them. It's good to hear yours helped you hun. Glad your g/f is visiting hun.:T That means you've got five whole full days to revise before she arrives!:eek:
Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi karrie!:hello:
How are you today angel? I'm glad you were feeling a bit better when you posted hun.:T

quote=Karrie
Tiff
You are an :A
You words are such a tower of strength for me.For someone that I haven't met, I will be truely grateful to you forever.
You're welcome hun and thanks for the kind words. This thread is filled with people who always seem to know what to say to help us.:T :A

I have told 4 people of my illness :eek: and they've all been so kind. As you said there are very kind people around. I even told one person who I work with. Yesterday I burst into tears because my boss was having a dig at me because I wouldn't tell her why I took the day of sick. The girl I told just gave me lots of hugs. I was ashamed and didn't want people to think I was a crap mum and couldn't cope.
I still feel very low and tearful but WILL get through this. My friend is coming to the appeal with me for support.
I am really proud of you for taking such brave steps hun;)
I know it's a very hard thing to do. And I'm so pleased you got the positive response you deserve hun. :T
People can be really kind if we give them a chance. It doesn't always work out that way but the benefit then is, that you stop carrying the dead weight of someone who didn't really care about you anyway. That leaves you surrounded by people you can be honest with and that will make you feel stronger angel.;) No-one in their right mind - or out of it! - would think you're a crap mum karrie and if they do, you don't need that kind of friendship!

I'm pleased your friend will be going to support you hun. Remember to take every piece of paper you have angel and write down a bullet-point list of all the main points you want to make, so that you can prompt yourself if you get stuck.;)

I have been advised to call the police regarding my son's problems but I really really can't face it right now. I know it's not fair but I'd rather my son didn't go out until I am stronger. The kids parents are "nutters" apparently and I can do without them in my life right now. I am weak and hate confrontation.
You took so much time to reply to my call of despair and for that, I am truly grateful./quote
Angel, you have to call the police now. I know things are really tough for you right now hun, but leaving it will only make it worse.

You have to deal with this now karrie. By reporting to the police, you are starting the network of protection for your son and that is what is really important to get going.
It will also show DS that bullies can't win all the time and that there is help for him and that he deserves the help. It will encourge him and boost his self esteem.

Keeping him in until you feel better karrie, is not a real or fair option. I know why you feel this angel, have been there etc., but there's never going to be a right time to do this. You're really suffering yourself hun and with all due respect , you can't know exactly when you will feel better. You can't make your son wait for whenever that time may come angel or deprive him of his chances to lead a normal life now.

I'm not having a go at you karrie - I know exactly how you feel hun.:o And when you're at your lowest is the right time to get all the help you can, from as may sources as you can.

I would also contact Social Services Children's Team and get their support.

I've been rooting around hun and found some bullying info that's relelvant to your situation.
This site gives you information on some possible legal actions.
http://www.bullying.co.uk/parents/bullyingoutsideschool.php

This part of the site gives you copies of various letters that may need to be written regarding changing schools,
http://www.bullying.co.uk/parents/complaintexamples.php

Victim Support services are there for people who are victims of crime - and what these youths are doing is criminal - and maybe the police will refer you to this option as more support.

I completely understand your fears about the other parents' reactions hun, but if the police are aware of this, they can pre-empt any action the parents may take. If anything then happens, they'll know straight where to go.
Anyway hun, have a look at all your options over the weekend (the police will be too busy with the Saturday night brawls and drunks:rolleyes: tonight) and then act on it.

You can't have an ending without a beginning angel.:o

Take care hun - hope this helps.;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx