Depression

Tiff_2

Hi gilly!:hello:
How are you hun? Missed you!;)

quote=gillette147Me and Blinky never touched him!!
You're not fooling anyone hun - I've got my eye on you and blinky! I can see it now... blinky lures the poor unsuspecting victim in under the guise of hug provider on the board and the slinky gilly badger sneaks up from behind with a potato sack and bags the poor soul!:D :rolleyes:

I have been lurking every day but I just don't have a voice at the moment.
I don't know what mood I'm in. I had a great weekend followed by a 3 day arguement with g/f. I've backed down but am hurt by it.
Bless you gilly - sorry you're having a hard time angel. I won't pry regarding the row with g/f hun, but my goodness - 3 days! That's awful angel!:o I hope all is healed now gilly.

I followed round a Health and Safety Auditor yesterday. I was up in the Gherkin and also in the offices to be for the running of the 2012 Olympics - opposite the Dome, 21st floor. Quite exciting IMO. Also he had finished by 1pm - so not that hard a job. That does sound interesting hun - good for you.:T Nothing like some inside info.

He wants to move department - so I'll keep my eye on if they need a replacement.
Hey guys - now do you see what I mean about slinky badgers?! :rolleyes:
Hmmm...gilly Health and Safety rules for the Olympics?...:eek:... I can see it now...

'Put that javelin down - you'll have someone's eye out with that!'

'For health reasons, all competitors must take a 15 minute break every hour. This especially applies to the marathon runners!'

'And you can forget about vaulting, the beam, the parallel bars and the rings as well - far too dangerous and those costumes are far too tight!'

'Women? Archery? Are you insane? No woman with pms will be issued with a weapon of any kind!' :rotfl:

I don't think I've got your h&s skills, have I hun?
I'll just have to stay on here then.:rolleyes:

Had couselling earlier today. I stll feel it's going no-where. She has a pretty good handle on me but.......I just don't see how talking will change what's in my head. I analyze everything anyway - so knowing where stuff comes from won't change me feeling it IMO.
Gilly hun, may I say something please? (Like you could stop me?!:rolleyes: )
I've been getting the vibes that you feel your counsellor has started to understand you hun. :T
Many people - myself included - do not see how talking can help.
Hun, it's hard because you have to open yourself up but if what you're thinking is that talking isn't going to help, that you know the problem and the answers, then you aren't able to honestly listen to her. Part of you is unreceptive to her. This can be part of depression too.
It's not about talking, imho hun, it's about learning and getting different perspectives. I'm glad all the other health problems are clearing up gilly.
Even though your sessions are due to end soon, if you need more help of any kind, please see your gp hun. Maybe short-term counselling wasn't for you - maybe you need it longer? Maybe you need a different kind of help?
We all know what a clever badger gilly really is :T but there's a difference between intellectual intelligence and emotional intelligence, which is something we have to learn if we've had a really bad time, imho.:o

I'm starting to get nervous as my sick note lasts til begin of april. By then i'm out of counselling, my back's fine, and my tonsils, even my headaches are infrequent. I'm just hoping depression alone will get me a sick note. We'll see.
If your depression is bad enough hun, then you should get a sick note. Depression can be very debilitating. What's wrong with work angel? Have you got any problems there?

Big hugs to Ethel, CC, Tiffy, RBK Rose, Carol xxx
I have been reading about your troubles (gosh what alot of them) and my thoughts have been with you all.
Ditto

LtD - You'll get sorted soon mate. And glad the back's on the mend.
LRS - Hope you are doing ok mate.
Blinky - Glad "R" is all three of your likes. Awww
elona, gl, Sazzy and other regulars - hugs and kisses to you all xxx
Winky - Hello xx
Nice to see stenny back.
Ditto!

I've been on a diet 10 days and I've lost 5lb. But it is hell.
Shut up!!! :eek: That's a lot gilly! Well done you hun.:T
I hope you're doing it the right way hun - you're our only badger, so you have to look after yourself ok hun?
What are you eating hun?
I hope the rest of the week goes smoothly for you gilly hun - take care angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

clipboard2 wrote: »

Hi Tiff

I am sorry to hear about your experience with the taxi firm owner.

Having one's kindness betrayed is not nice.

If you'd like to PM me your contact details (c/o whatever), I'll send you
a 'little suprise'.

Because you're worth it.

CB2 x

Hi cb2!:hello:
How are you hun? It's very kind of you to think of me hun and I do appreciate that.
Bless your heart for your thoughtfulness - but don't you worry about me angel - I'm sure you've got enough problems yourself and deserve that little treat more than I.

As with any of you guys, I hope you know you can always pm me. I must admit I've gotten a bit behind over the last week on here, but I really do think of you all.;) You've all been so kind to me.

Thanks again cb2 hun. I must admit to curiosity but we all know what that did to the cat!:rolleyes: I hope all is well with you cb2 - take care angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

stenny_2

Hiya Tiffster,

hope your well hun.

Like you, got some catching up to do on the threads.

:A

Tiff_2

Hey guys, well past this Tiffy's bedtime :rolleyes: so I'll love you and leave you. Apologies for not answering posts in order.

- sazzy - thinking of you hun - don't you work too hard angel!

- ethel - I hope you're getting some tlc hun. If I'd got the money, I'd buy you a washing machine in a heartbeat hun. Social Services may help there btw.

- rose - so sorry you're in a rough apot angel. Please print off your post and show your dr. If they want you to have a stay in hospital hun, it can't hurt. They know what they're talking about angel. And you know yourself how much you're struggling.

to elona, gilly, stenny, cb2, cc, gem, cm, ltd, flis, beer, cat, lrs, karrie, blinky, rb, miro, qb, bunnie, alleycat,vq and the rest of the family, thinking of you all.
Time to put this kitty to bed.:o Night and God bless guys. Stay safe.xxx
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

learning_to_drive

A lovely post to Gilly that Tiff, we all appreciate the time that you take to post to us all, I will never ever forget the huge post you posted to me when I first started with my issues, naturally everyone else helps each other, but you are the cement that holds all us (as bricks) together!

Thats a terrible anaology but its midnight!!!!!!!

I enjoy going to see my counsellor man (the g/f says the man that i talk to) I went in Jan, went on Friday and he wants to see me In August to see how I'm progressing with job hunting and the university decisions.

I enjoy going and he understands my problems, its more that he doesnt judge me or make me think im being stupid, he understands that I have a problem and that it occurs sometimes.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

I don't feel able to post anything worthwhile atm. Just remember that I'm thinking of you all. Take care.

xXx

stenny_2

razorbladekisses wrote: »

I don't feel able to post anything worthwhile atm. Just remember that I'm thinking of you all. Take care.

xXx

you just take care of yourself OK!
We are here when you need us!
Hang in, it can AND IT WILL get better!

:A

Tiff_2

learning_to_drive wrote: »

A lovely post to Gilly that Tiff, we all appreciate the time that you take to post to us all, I will never ever forget the huge post you posted to me when I first started with my issues, naturally everyone else helps each other, but you are the cement that holds all us (as bricks) together!

Thats a terrible anaology but its midnight!!!!!!!

I enjoy going to see my counsellor man (the g/f says the man that i talk to) I went in Jan, went on Friday and he wants to see me In August to see how I'm progressing with job hunting and the university decisions.

I enjoy going and he understands my problems, its more that he doesnt judge me or make me think im being stupid, he understands that I have a problem and that it occurs sometimes.

Hi l-t-d!:hello:
How are you angel?
How's the new mattress?:o You do come up with the oddest things,lol!:rotfl:
Thank you for your kind words bless you. I think we all hold each other together hun - this Tiff has her vulnerable side too. I'm really glad if anything I said to you here or the other thread helped hun - isn't that why we're all here?:T

I've never been described as cement before!:rotfl: The Mogfather talks about it a lot though...:eek: :rolleyes:

Your counselling sessions seem a fair time apart hun - are they with a psychologist? They're like gold dust.;) A good counsellor or psychologist should never make you feel uncomfortable or judged.

To start with, I found that I was so busy repeating all that had happened/was happening to me and so low and falling apart, that I couldn't listen properly. Sometimes it takes a while for your mind to be ready to admit that someone else could possibly understand what you've been through.

A good professional lets you come to the listening stage in your own time. When you're full of pain and emotion, you can't take things in as well as you can once the pain has been let out, imho. And what is wonderful about the professionals is that they've seen it all before.;)

I think we all think that counselling is just having someone to talk to and that somehow it'll suddenly be all right. If only!:o

How can a stranger listening to me help? I know what's happened, I know how I feel etc. But the difference is imho, that they show you were your thinking can be different in a helpful way, can teach you techniques for getting through the rough times and they can give you a
completely different insight.
For example, it took about 28 years of pain and a damn good counsellor for me to realise that I wasn't to blame in any way for being molested by a paedophile - that's how the animals ensure that they get away with it, they use psychology on a young mind and you take it in because after all, they are an adult. When I finally listened properly, my counsellor showed me that it wasn't my fault in any way. The sense of freedom that gives you is priceless.;)

Basically guys, go to your counsellor with an open mind. Have no expectations, build up your trust and be completely honest - that gives you the best chances of benefitting from it. It's hard and sometimes painful work, but it is so worth it!

I'm boring myself now!:D :rolleyes:
I'm glad it's working for you ltd hun. :T
Look after yourself angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

razorbladekisses wrote: »

I don't feel able to post anything worthwhile atm. Just remember that I'm thinking of you all. Take care.

xXx

Hi rbk!:hello:
Oh hun, sorry you're so low.:o
Please remember that anything people post on here is worthwhile hun.:T Even if it's just to say hello. It's the one place a lot of people can come and help/learn without judgement. Just you remember that we're thinking of you too angel. Post when you can ok?
Hope you feel better this morning hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
I know a lot of us are in a tough spot right now, but we can get through it.;) :A
If you're feeling worse, there is nothing wrong with going back to your dr - that's what they're there for.
Meanwhile, to our ethel, sazzy, elona, beer, blinky, stenny, cm, qb, cc, ltd, cb2, lrs, rbk, rose, gilly, flis, karrie, cat, winky, bunnie, vq, miro, I hope you all have a good day and that you all know how precious you really are.:A
More appts for me today too - good luck to anyone with those.
Meanwhile, Tiffy's feeling her age and so off for a catnap.;) :rolleyes:




Take good care everyone. Catch you all later.;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx