Depression

Sugar_Coated_Owl

:hello: all

Just thought I'd drop by to say Hi and that I hope you are all OK. Thinking of you all. Don't give up fighting. Take each day as it comes. Remember there are people out there who love you.

I'm feeling weird today.

xXx

Tiff_2

Hi ethel!:hello:

Evening everyone
Im feeling really crappy and down today. Spent the whole day washing clothes by hand, including bedding and jeans.. no mean feat at my height!!
Oh hun, apart from anything else you must be exhausted! It's ruddy hard work - been there.;) I hope you're eating properly too angel. Your battery is bound to be on low ethel and you've got to look after yourself too.

Just asked my son to go to the corner shop and get some milk cos he drank it all and I'd like a cuppa and he won't go! he also cooked himself something to eat and has left the kitchen like a tip :mad: I'm bloody fuming.. my fingers are all sore and raw from washing HIS flippin clothes and he wont even take 2 mins to nip across the road so I can have a cuppa!
Positive - at least he cooked himself something to eat - good for a 14 (?) yr old hun.
Negative - it's hurtful when they get like that.
I know DS has been through a lot and he won't recognize that you have too, imho. As children, they don't have complete insight into how you feel angel, because you're mum and you can do anything.:rolleyes: Add all that to hormones and you get unpredictable. I'm glad he went in the end hun.;)
You have been through such an ordeal angel and had to drive the wagon all by yourself as it were. Now that the powers that be have finally taken over the reins, your body and mind is crying out for a break. You know all about the fallout process now hun so you've got to build your resources back up now. Don't worry that you're feeling run down - you've been through too much for it not to have an effect. Try not to expect anything at the moment hun - take each day as it comes. You're a warm, loving and intelligent soul hun.
You're always here for everyone else and don't you forget we're here for you.:A
I prescribe tlc three times a day angel. Hoping today is kinder to you sweetie. Thinking of you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

bltchef wrote: »

Hi I hope you could give me some advice or some help? I do not suffer from depression my self my partner does for over three years she gone through a bad time 6 attempt suicide alcohol abuse our teenage daughter coped her mam behavior overdose violence towards me black eye cut lips police involved etc I lossed my job with taken time off and how things were at home. but things are much better know , but our sex has suffered now I feel I am just the carer I lover them both but I have lost interested in sex I cook clean and support them both but ?now my partner is complaining hats all I do I have explained how I feel but she goes off in bad mood etc and starts drinking am I wrong and advice thanks

Hi bltchef!
Firstly, well done you for being brave enough to open up like this hun.:T You're very welcome here blt and I'm sure you've already had brilliant advice from the family on here.

There is help for you angel.
Now if you were jumping up and down saying life was great with what you're going through, then I'd be worried about you! What you are feeling is completely natural angel given your situation.

You are exhausted physically and emotionally hun so it's no wonder that you're not interested in anything intimate. It must seem like a give-give situation to you. This shows that you are a strong person, a survivor blt.;)
Imho, you're not going to solve everything all at once hun. Break it down into bite size pieces and separate each problem so that these mountains become hills ok hun?

You obviously wrote this when very upset hun. Your first stop is to your gp angel. You need some support. If they are not aware of the situation then you must tell them. You can't carry this weight on your own. Your gp will be able to get you the help you need. You must be at breaking point yourself.

I don't know what help you are already getting angel.
What help are you getting for your OH and teenage daughter hun?

Is your OH seeing any mental health professional hun?
If help is already involved, you must tell them how much worse things are getting. They must be told that OH is getting drunk if she's on medication and of any violence to you or DD.

Physical violence by any partner is a huge no-no! You would be entitled to counselling through domestic violence units locally. You should also tell your gp about this as they can refer you.

Also, with regards to losing your job, if you are having money problems, please go and see CAB. They can talk to people you owe money to on your behalf. Is your OH getting DLA? She sounds like she could qualify. Ask CAB about that too. They can also help with housing problems. CAB have information on any local help that may be there for you.

I would also telephone MIND in your area. Again, they know where the help is for all of you. For either of these agencies, just type their name into search and the websites will direct you to where you neeed to go.

Finally, I'd suggest that if they aren't already, that you contact Social Services.
The three of you need help. If someone is being violent or unpredictable, the people around them need help and support. This does not necessarily mean that they would take DD away, by any means. They also have various things they can help you with hun.

That's all I can think of for now hun from the information you gave. If you can't cope with this relationship anymore don't feel bad about it. You have to look after yourself too hun and certainly CAB can advise if you want to leave the relationship.

Really blt, your first stop is the gp. They must know everything you're going through to help you all. Don't hold anything back. Don't leave it any longer angel. It sounds like you've been a real rock hun.:T Go and get the help you deserve. Let us know how you get on hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

stenny wrote: »

I'm back will that do ok for u hun?
(trying to sort MSN again hun but working on it as we speak, it went loopy again, been away the whole day so not long back)

Hope everyone's well, been away for a bit, had a little time out.

:A

Hi stenny!:hello:
Welcome home hun!
I was worried in case that blinky badger had gotten you!:eek: How are you angel? Good to hear from you hun.
Gotta go now - got hospital appt in 45 mins - can't remember which part it's for :eek: so I'm prepared for anything!;) :rolleyes: Take care angel. Catch you all later guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

EthelBloggs

Morning everyone

Hope the appointment goes well tiffy.

I'm feeling really grumpy today.. went down to the kitchen for me cuppa and son has cooked himself a midnight feast and just left everythng.. not even soaked the dish he burnt :mad: I know it's trivia but at the moment stupid things are really getting to me, I know i shouldnt let them but I can't help it.

Had a go at b/f this mornign too.. he set his alarm fro 5.30 when he doesn't even get up til 7.. why?????? it wakes me up and I'm one of them who can't go back to sleep once awake.. grrrrrrrrr!!!!

Horasio

A quick hi

Not slept well, woken by the birds in the eaves again.

Horasio

EthelBloggs wrote: »

Morning everyone

Hope the appointment goes well tiffy.

I'm feeling really grumpy today.. went down to the kitchen for me cuppa and son has cooked himself a midnight feast and just left everythng.. not even soaked the dish he burnt :mad: I know it's trivia but at the moment stupid things are really getting to me, I know i shouldnt let them but I can't help it.

Had a go at b/f this mornign too.. he set his alarm fro 5.30 when he doesn't even get up til 7.. why?????? it wakes me up and I'm one of them who can't go back to sleep once awake.. grrrrrrrrr!!!!

If I had to face a dirty kitchen now on the amount of sleep I had - I would flip big time.

((((Big hugs))))

geminilady

EthelBloggs wrote: »

Morning everyone

Hope the appointment goes well tiffy.

I'm feeling really grumpy today.. went down to the kitchen for me cuppa and son has cooked himself a midnight feast and just left everythng.. not even soaked the dish he burnt :mad: I know it's trivia but at the moment stupid things are really getting to me, I know i shouldnt let them but I can't help it.

Had a go at b/f this mornign too.. he set his alarm fro 5.30 when he doesn't even get up til 7.. why?????? it wakes me up and I'm one of them who can't go back to sleep once awake.. grrrrrrrrr!!!!

Morning Ethel,I am still reading the thread even though i have not posted for a while.Teenagers! got one myself he will be fifteen next month but so far he hasn't given me a minutes worry,his brother however is another story lol.If you have not already washed up i would leave the dishes until he comes home from school he has to learn you mission in life is not to clean up after him all the time.As to the bf i would be more than grumpy if i was woke up at 5.30 every morning!I would hit him with the blumming clock .You are stressed out with all you have been through so pamper yourself! you deserve it.It does not have to cost much,an hour with a good book and a bar of chocolate(or a bunch of grapes if you are still watching your weight),give yourself a makeover,anything really that relaxes you and makes you feal good.

learning_to_drive

New mattress has arrived!! Lovely, coughing and sneezing at the minute though because of the dust However its on and done, so I can carry on my recovery with my back, Osteo's again yesterday, got some exercises and im continuing to do them, its helping and I've had no pain touch wood for a while

A rejection letter from Yorks Water today, I applied ages ago, so i can cross that off my list, not overly fussed, no news on asda yet, 7 days is today so who knows?

Winky,_The_House_Elf

Hi Guys,

Did something really silly. My ex-called on Sunday night whilst I was at a very low point, and I burst into tears. He insisted on coming over to walk the dogs. He came in and took control. He cleaned up, even did all my laundry. Brought me a cup of tea in the bath. And he's stayed here since then.

I don't want him back. I could never trust him again. But it felt so safe. He feels partly responsible for the state I'm in. I know its just a crutch, and its not real. I know that its false out of a sense of obligation. But I found myself coming home from work last night to a clean house for the first time in weeks, the dogs walked, and a chicken roasting in the kitchen. Something went click in my head- I relaxed and felt as if everything was right in the world.

But I am setting my self up for a fall. He will be gone again soon. I tried to talk about it. I asked how long he was staying for. He said until you are back on your feet., you've had more bad news and should't go through this alone. How can I get back on my feet if he is here? I am beating myself up. I am torn. I don't want to come crashing down when he moves out again. I don't want to be on my own. He's a good man. He just doesnt love me.

I am so confused.

Winky X