Depression

gillette147

Tiff wrote: »

Hi stenny!:hello:
Welcome home hun!
I was worried in case that blinky badger had gotten you!:eek: How are you angel? Good to hear from you hun.
Gotta go now - got hospital appt in 45 mins - can't remember which part it's for :eek: so I'm prepared for anything!;) :rolleyes: Take care angel. Catch you all later guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Me and Blinky never touched him!!

Hi folkes,

I have been lurking every day but I just don't have a voice at the moment.
I don't know what mood I'm in. I had a great weekend followed by a 3 day arguement with g/f. I've backed down but am hurt by it.

My new coursework arrived yesterday - just waiting for the girl to come back from lunch with the password to unlock the software.

I followed round a Health and Safety Auditor yesterday. I was up in the Gherkin and also in the offices to be for the running of the 2012 Olympics - opposite the Dome, 21st floor. Quite exciting IMO. Also he had finished by 1pm - so not that hard a job. He wants to move department - so I'll keep my eye on if they need a replacement.

Had couselling earlier today. I stll feel it's going no-where. She has a pretty good handle on me but.......I just don't see how talking will change what's in my head. I analyze everything anyway - so knowing where stuff comes from won't change me feeling it IMO.

I'm starting to get nervous as my sick note lasts til begin of april. By then i'm out of counselling, my back's fine, and my tonsils, even my headaches are infrequent. I'm just hoping depression alone will get me a sick note. We'll see.


Big hugs to Ethel, CC, Tiffy, RBK Rose, Carol xxx
I have been reading about your troubles (gosh what alot of them) and my thoughts have been with you all.

LtD - You'll get sorted soon mate. And glad the back's on the mend.
LRS - Hope you are doing ok mate.
Blinky - Glad "R" is all three of your likes. Awww
elona, gl, Sazzy and other regulars - hugs and kisses to you all xxx
Winky - Hello xx
Nice to see stenny back.

I've been on a diet 10 days and I've lost 5lb. But it is hell.

Cya

Tiff_2

Hi guys! :hello: Tiff was just passing through - good to hear from you guys:j - hopefully be able to get back on later.

Hi Guys,
Hi winky!:hello:
Did something really silly. My ex-called on Sunday night whilst I was at a very low point, and I burst into tears. He insisted on coming over to walk the dogs. He came in and took control. He cleaned up, even did all my laundry. Brought me a cup of tea in the bath. And he's stayed here since then.
Bless you hun, don't be so hard on yourself. you've had a really hard time and anyone in your position would have done the same and been grateful for it. It's good of him to be there for you but it seems like it's hurting more than it's helping.

I don't want him back. I could never trust him again. But it felt so safe. He feels partly responsible for the state I'm in. I know its just a crutch, and its not real. I know that its false out of a sense of obligation. But I found myself coming home from work last night to a clean house for the first time in weeks, the dogs walked, and a chicken roasting in the kitchen. Something went click in my head- I relaxed and felt as if everything was right in the world.
Once trust has gone in a relationship angel, then so has the relationship generally speaking. You were desperate for some help and a clean house, walked dogs and a cooked meal can be impossible when you're so low. Take it for what it gives you hun. Maybe let him stay till the weekend, when the house is all up and running and you've had some rest and then say thanks, I can manage from here. He's achieved what he said he was there to achieve then hun.

But I am setting my self up for a fall. He will be gone again soon. I tried to talk about it. I asked how long he was staying for. He said until you are back on your feet., you've had more bad news and should't go through this alone. How can I get back on my feet if he is here? I am beating myself up. I am torn. I don't want to come crashing down when he moves out again. I don't want to be on my own. He's a good man. He just doesnt love me.
I am so confused.
I understand hun. Sensibly, you are recognizing the dilemma. What's it going to be - short term pain or long term heartache? He's part of the reason you're in the state you are angel. Equally, who wouldn't want someone - anyone! - to love and comfort them? It sounds like he's just confusing the situation more for you if you are trying to get over him.

Breaking it down, the practical things are nearly in order. Now comes healing you hun. Is him being there going to help that? Sweetie, I can pretty much guarantee that you will not end up on your own. This is the stress and depression speaking.
If I'm wrong, then ethel will date you!;) Sorry ethel (love you muchly).:o

Seriously though hun, you are about to start finding your feet and getting things moving for yourself to get well. It's going to take time angel. If you start thinking about the future now when you're at your lowest, you won't be in the best state to make good decisions, and the future will become " T H E F U T U R E ". Depression forces us into this all-or-nothing thinking.

I know you want your happy ending angel and it will come - but first you need to heal so that when that person comes, you'll be completely well enough to enjoy it.
I'm so glad you posted winky - not just sat there fretting hun. I think that a lot of us here can sympathise with not wanting to be alone - I certainly can. It's only human angel. I think that for right now hun, just try and focus on getting the basics stable and then you can move on step by step.

Did any of that make sense? (Am I Bovverred?! - always wanted to say that!:D :rotfl: )

Be kind to yourself hun, you can see what the situation is and only you know the answer but imho, the sooner you can see that "yes, I think I can manage on my own, thanks very much", the quicker your self-esteem and confidence will grow and the better you'll feel.

It takes time sweetie I'm afraid. Maybe for now, you don't need to solve all your problems at once. You've got to put you first this time hun. Don't forget hun, you're still in shock over all the things that have happened to you. Give yourself some time hun. You know the fantastic guys are always here for you if you need an ear angel. Sorry if this hasn't helped hun but I will be thinking of you. Take care hun and to the rest of the family too.
Tiffster's off before lovely ethel sees what I wrote!:eek:
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Let_Robinson_Sing

Hey Folks

I am in the pub trying to do my English coursework. It is literally impossible i cant think of what to write for it, its doing my head in.. The reason i came down here is that if i was at home i wouldnt do any of it

Horasio

Let_Robinson_Sing wrote: »

Hey Folks

I am in the pub trying to do my English coursework. It is literally impossible i cant think of what to write for it, its doing my head in.. The reason i came down here is that if i was at home i wouldnt do any of it

What is it about? Maybe we can help

Let_Robinson_Sing

Well i am analysing a piece of spontaneous spoken English and putting across evidence that the male speakers dominate over the female speakers.

Horasio

Let_Robinson_Sing wrote: »

Well i am analysing a piece of spontaneous spoken English and putting across evidence that the male speakers dominate over the female speakers.

So how do you think it happens? - I think men's voices can reverberate louder than women's. Something to do with the depth.

I feel most women speak with apologetic or angry tones, men can come across more authorititive.

If someone is trained in acting or public speaking, either sex can come across well.

There are exceptions.

Do you have to have examples of who has more dominant voices?

Let_Robinson_Sing

CCStar wrote: »

So how do you think it happens? - I think men's voices can reverberate louder than women's. Something to do with the depth.

I feel most women speak with apologetic or angry tones, men can come across more authorititive.

If someone is trained in acting or public speaking, either sex can come across well.

There are exceptions.

Do you have to have examples of who has more dominant voices?

I have only got the example on my mp3 but i've got the transcript on my PC if you want to see it

beer2006

Let_Robinson_Sing wrote: »

Well i am analysing a piece of spontaneous spoken English and putting across evidence that the male speakers dominate over the female speakers.

Mostly.

But you should meet my sisters :rotfl:
They just talk louder until everyone else gives up........

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Hi Tiff

I am sorry to hear about your experience with the taxi firm owner.

Having one's kindness betrayed is not nice.

If you'd like to PM me your contact details (c/o whatever), I'll send you
a 'little suprise'.

Because you're worth it.

CB2 x

learning_to_drive

Bless CB2, can you let us in on what it is?

LRS, surely the library is a better place for such study? I dont think the pub is a good environment!

Thanks Gilly, we all over analyse, I think thats why some of us are here, dwelling, thinking on the past, you will get sorted soon, as will I hopefully. Thanks for your kind words!