Depression

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Please you are ok kronoas and miroslav! :hello:

Tiff_2

Hi l-t-d!:hello:
I was thinking of you and your new job hun and wishing you well. Tiff's a bit all over the place at the moment angel :rolleyes: but for what it's worth, you will be all right.

You've made a lot of big changes and are trying to manage your finances on top of being depressed - is it any wonder hun that it catches up with you? The counselling can't hurt - it's good to vent. If you feel really bad angel, please see GP or call the Samaritans or pm someone.

CAB would do a good job of negotiating with your creditors. Maybe you could open another account for your pay to go into so that it isn't going to be swallowed up before you can use it and then put £X's into your current bank account. You must leave yourself enough money to be able to live for the month hun - £20 ain't gonna do it.
Opening another account will allow you to relax a little and will stop the overdraft - and charges - from growing. We've all been in debt hun, but the pressure will go if you remind yourself that it's a temporary debt, that it will all be paid off in the end and that it's not worth your health! And this will be done if you can look after yourself enough to stay in the new job. You'll give your self-esteem a huge boost if you can stick it out. But please, see the dr if you're unable to cope hun - there's no shame in it. There's always an answer angel - ALWAYS!!!

You're trying to save the world all at once hun. You've got to break everything down into Tiff-sized bites. When you look at all that's going on hun, it's bound to feel formidable and impossible. And of course, this is a favourite trick of our friend Depression - it shows you a bit of light and then closes the curtains.;) It makes everything seem black and white and all-or-nothing and that's not the way it really is. You've done so well in getting the job and you got very excited so it's only natural angel, that you come down a little bit. Don't be so hard on yourself. Plus your body has to deal with the time changes and the exhaustion of working a long night shift.

You will settle in angel. It's a case of taking it a day at a time, hour by hour hun and making sure that you look after yourself properly. It must feel that everything has blown up to you but Tiff's grabbing your ankles and pulling you down to earth and telling you that it's ok to be feeling the way you are. I'm sorry about your ex hun, and when you're ready, instead of thinking about the ex, you'll be thinking about the next!;)

Open up to your counsellor. While you're feeling like this, write it down to show them - better still, print off your post because that says it all! That's the best idea.
Now hun, Tiff orders you to be kind to yourself, to stop trying to solve everything at once and to concentrate on the immediate needs. And if you want to cry and add to the flood levels hun - go for it - it's good for you! Take a deep breath and feel proud of yourself. You're a survivor! We're all here for you hun - well done for posting how you are!:T You will get through this hun - you've done it before!;)
Much Love,
Tiffxxx

blinky

Miroslav wrote:

Just a quick hi, to basically say i'm still alive.

Not going into details on here right now, need some time.

Hope everyone is okay. Sorry I don't have the strength to read all the thread, but I wish you all the best until I am ready to return and spill my guts out about what has happened (Please don't fear it!)

Best wishes to everyone :wave:

Good to hear from you Miro. :wave:

Like many of the others I was getting worried. Feel free to PM me if you want - I'm away this weekend though.

blinky

Tiff - how are you doing, hun?

Thinking of you

Tiff_2

Hi Guys!:hello:
Sorry I've not done much input over the last couple of days. Tiff stuff going on.:rolleyes: I'll just try and manage a few mini-Tiff mutterings for now.:rolleyes: But I have been thinking of you all and appreciating the hugs - thank you. From the sound of the thread, Tiff's ordering a for us all.

Careful blinky - too much hugging is probably what gave me carpal tunnel syndrome!:rotfl: It's lovely to see you posting hun - good advice as usual.
I was really suspicious when I saw 'blink' in the Big Brother intro flashes and thought you were in there.:D But they wouldn't allow you to post so I'm reassured now. I hope you and r have a wonderful weekend hun. Did you not want to tell us where because you were afraid we'd all turn up?:eek: Don't worry hun - you're safe...well, you're safe with the agoraphobics - they won't follow you anywhere! Take care hun.

Sazzy Saz - good luck with the meeting hun!;) Where would we be without our Sazbomb and her great advice and kind thoughts?:T


miro - thinking of you angel - thanks for posting and letting us know you're well. Look after yourself hun.

ethel - hi sweetheart - how are you? I guess things aren't too good for you hun or we'd be having our ethel posts. Feel free to pm angel.

qb - thank you for the great hugs - always appreciated. Hoping all is well with you angel.

To the wonderful rest of the family, gilly, fg, stenny, carol, ltd, elona, gemini, bunnie, n-m-a, pumpkin, rose, betty, ruby, beer, flis, et al - I wish I could give you all separate replies but Tiff's stuck in the catflap right now.:o I'm thinking of you all and sending Tiff hugs...

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Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

blinky wrote:

Tiff - how are you doing, hun?

Thinking of you

Hey blinky!!!
How are you hun? Tbh, needing a lot of hugs right now angel.:rolleyes:
You're a blessing to the thread blinky. Thanks for thinking of me hun. Have an amazing Friday - counting down to r-time I bet!;) Enjoy your break sweetheart.
Much love,
Tiff xxx

queensway_boy

Good Morning Everyone

Sazbo

Good morning QB! I can't help it - everytime I look at those super elastic hugs it makes me laugh! Worth it just for that hun! Hope you're doing ok today xx

Morning all you lovlies :wave: It's Friday - hurrah! Gonna be busy again at work today, but having dinner at a friends house tonight so looking forward to that. Have a good day everyone. Take care, Sazzyxxx

Tiff wrote:

Tbh, needing a lot of hugs right now

Aww, Tiffy hun. Hope you don't mind, but I've sent an extra-large consignment of Sazzy Special Hugs along with Elona's saucer of milk for you.

Much love,
Sazxxx

EthelBloggs

Hiya peeps..

Sorry I've not been around.. just needed a bit of time really.. still do I think

Got a lot of things to deal with and i'm trying to unfuddle me feeble old brain a bit, lol

Hope you're all ok

*huggs* xxx

Sazbo

Hiya hun. Good to see ya. No worries re brain - I have the same problem LOL!:D

You take care,
Sazbombxxx