Depression

geminilady

EthelBloggs wrote:

I went out with a guy once who was 6' 5" and my friend is same height as me and her hubby is 6'9"!!! it's lovely when he cuddles you tho cos he's so big you just get completely wrapped in it.. really cosy and comforting

try those links when you can be bothered, there is some really useful stuff on there.. promise

I love crusty bread too but I can't cut it proprerly cos I'm left handed so it ends up having big chunks ripped off it - we're peasants in my house, hehehe

I dunno much about counselling.. sazzy's got you covered there tho

Hope the head's better xxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Ethel,just popping in before i get a bath.I am a lefty too .Can manage to cut bread but lots of other things are a problem,my x couldn't stop laughing when he first saw me pealing potatoes lol.Hope you are taking things easy you deserve it after what you have been through lately.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Hello flis21 *waves*

Hopefully you will feel better once you've had your hair done. Any idea what style you want yet? Are you getting it colored as well?

How about treating yourself to a couple of new items of clothing just as a pick-me-up. It might make you feel better about yourself. You don't have to spend very much money.

Have you tried anything for your skin?

Are you planning on returning to the gym once your ankle has healed?

(((HUGS))) xxx

EthelBloggs

geminilady wrote:

Hi Ethel,just popping in before i get a bath.I am a lefty too .Can manage to cut bread but lots of other things are a problem,my x couldn't stop laughing when he first saw me pealing potatoes lol.Hope you are taking things easy you deserve it after what you have been through lately.

I have been.. just finding stuff to wash and playing with that spin dryer, lmfao.. I love it!!! ph and I can' barely walk on account of sliding across the floor doing the splits yesterday, I look like a creaky cowboy getting about the place, hehehehe

yeah... ppl cringe when they see me with a knife in my hands.. I'm perfectly safe but it just looks dodgy, lol

hows you gem? I can't have a bath at night, keeps me awake unless it early-ish, hope you're gonna have a lovely one with lots of bubbles n stuff xxxxxxxxxx

geminilady

flis21 wrote:

Thanks Twinny and Ethel, it is nice to know that there are kind non-judgemental people here to talk to.

I hate myself for feeling this way, I know compared to some people I am very lucky, have a job that I enjoy, a husband who I love and who loves me and a loving family. I also have a roof over my head and food in the cupboards etc. But I still can't help sitting around concentrating on all the things that are wrong or that I want to change.

The main one probably being the way I look. I am very overweight and every time I try to deal with it something happens. For instance joined the gym after Christmas, was going 3 times a week, then fractured ankle on 22nd Jan and can't go for at least 4 months now!! Am going to get my hair cut on Tuesday and am going to have a completely different style, so maybe that will help me feel a bit better. All my clothes are dowdy and tatty, so I know I don't look very good, but I don't want to spend a lot of money on clothes at my current weight, when I am so desperate to lose weight. Also suffer from spots and my skin looks horrid at the minute. All in all just don't like looking in mirrors at all!!

Hi Flis,I can empathise with the weight problem.I have had one for most of my life,15 stone at my heaviest and i am only 5ft 2! I have lost a lot a couple of years ago and am now about 10 and a half,this is the longest i have gone without putting it back,i am the queen of yo yo dieting lol.The thing is although i feal better in one way and definately feal fitter now i worry about other things like my wrinkles lol.I am nearly 50 but look older proberly down to smoking since i was 16 and i used to sunbath most of the summer.I suppose worrying about our looks are down to low self esteem,wish there was somewhere you could buy it lol.If i could afford it i would have a face lift but then would proberly find something else to worry about lol.

EthelBloggs

flis21 wrote:

Thanks Twinny and Ethel, it is nice to know that there are kind non-judgemental people here to talk to.

I hate myself for feeling this way, I know compared to some people I am very lucky, have a job that I enjoy, a husband who I love and who loves me and a loving family. I also have a roof over my head and food in the cupboards etc. But I still can't help sitting around concentrating on all the things that are wrong or that I want to change.

The main one probably being the way I look. I am very overweight and every time I try to deal with it something happens. For instance joined the gym after Christmas, was going 3 times a week, then fractured ankle on 22nd Jan and can't go for at least 4 months now!! Am going to get my hair cut on Tuesday and am going to have a completely different style, so maybe that will help me feel a bit better. All my clothes are dowdy and tatty, so I know I don't look very good, but I don't want to spend a lot of money on clothes at my current weight, when I am so desperate to lose weight. Also suffer from spots and my skin looks horrid at the minute. All in all just don't like looking in mirrors at all!!

Flis.. I sympaathise with you about how you feel about your looks atm.. my weight has fluctuated between 5 stone and 22 stone.. not good. Right now I need to lose about 4 stone to be happy with myself but I'm seriously lacking the motivation to do it. Drinking lots of water is very good for your skin if you can do it.. I know it's hard to get it down sometimes but it does work, you will glow.. it helps cleanse your system and keep you hydrated. If I'm slack on the water for a few days someone will always say I look tired or run down, back on the water and I get compliments on my clear skin!! Also fruit.. try and eat lots of fresh fruits and veggies.. broccoli and clementines are my definite favourites at the mo, some nights i sit here typing away and munching on clementines instead of sweeties or crisps and easily get thru 3 or 4 in an evening.

The new hairdo will help too.. those small changes will be a big boost to your self esteem and mood and then you can start tackling the bigger things

Just take baby steps and you'll get there xxxxxxx
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gillette147

Hi folkes,

Had a good evening. I can go either way when in a social environment - but I had a lovely dinner party with a few ex-workmates. Felt very at ease and we had a laugh.

Twinny
LtD is right - there is no right or wrong way in loss. I wouldn't lie if you don't want to - anyone who judges grief is not worth worrying about xx

Flis
Hiya and welcome (back) xx
All my clothes are cr ap too and I don't want to buy any at this size either lol.

sps
Welcome. There's loads of help on getting your bank charges back - but be quick, I think judgements are about to be made which will mean less potential to get stuff back as they seek a compromise. Good luck.

Ethel
Yes I can hug someone 360 degrees.

RBK
Yes I don't know if I should try harder to contact feelie or not xx

Carol
Have a lovely time i your hotel room xx

gl, ltd, sazzy, tiff, cc, rose, stenny, elona, beer, phew..., QB, Blinky, lexy.....

xx

Horasio

I am lucky to be alive tonight and I feel really jittery

We were on the way home at 8.50pm from shopping and our car hit something (a lorry differential - about the size of a head - solid metal) on the line on the motorway - 2 lanes. We were travelling about 50-60 mph, clear visibility. There was no-one else around at the time thank heavens.

There was this loud bang, we went everywhere and OH managed to get us onto the hard shoulder in a controlled way. It happened so fast.

Our two tyres on the driver side burst and the sill was scratched and lord knows what happened underneath.

We called the police to get it cleared and the RAC to take us home. I first thought it was a blowout but it was us hitting this object.

The police protected us from being hit on the hard shoulder and about an hour later a carrier took us home and the car to the pound, then going to a garage tomorrow.

We should hopefully get a car first from the RAC for three days and a courtesy car afterwards. Hopefully as it isn't a fault accident (the police said it was an accident even no other person involved) we could keep our NCB.

You cope at the time but the shock is making me jittery now:eek:

Sazbo

Heya my lovlies! :wave: Hiya Flissy hun! Not heard from you for a while, but have been wondering how you are :wave:

EthelBloggs wrote:

Have fun, ya dirty stopout

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

LOL Less of the 'dirty' :rotfl: Just back home. Feeling a bit....erm tired! :rotfl: Guys I gotta crash, will read back tomorrow morning I promise:)

Love you all.

Sazzarooxxxxxxxxxx

Sazbo

P.S. My name is Sazbo, and I am a leftie too.......

Sazzyxxxxx

Sazbo

CCStar wrote:

I am lucky to be alive tonight and I feel really jittery

We were on the way home at 8.50pm from shopping and our car hit something (a lorry differential - about the size of a head - solid metal) on the line on the motorway - 2 lanes. We were travelling about 50-60 mph, clear visibility. There was no-one else around at the time thank heavens.

There was this loud bang, we went everywhere and OH managed to get us onto the hard shoulder in a controlled way. It happened so fast.

Our two tyres on the driver side burst and the sill was scratched and lord knows what happened underneath.

We called the police to get it cleared and the RAC to take us home. I first thought it was a blowout but it was us hitting this object.

The police protected us from being hit on the hard shoulder and about an hour later a carrier took us home and the car to the pound, then going to a garage tomorrow.

We should hopefully get a car first from the RAC for three days and a courtesy car afterwards. Hopefully as it isn't a fault accident (the police said it was an accident even no other person involved) we could keep our NCB.

You cope at the time but the shock is making me jittery now:eek:

CC that must've been a real shock, just glad you're ok hun... Sxx