Depression

gillette147

Hi all, just read back.

I got back from brum about 45mins ago. House is freezing coz i left heating off for two days away. Brrrrrrrrr.

I had to rush on MSE to vent about the awful parents of the six kids on CH4 earlier (on DT). If anyone saw it you will know what I mean. I have rarely been so flabbergasted and angry over anything. Grrrrrrrrr.

My mood is quite high and I might/must get on with revision tomorrow. I better get to bed.

Night nite

xxxx

Tiff_2

EthelBloggs wrote:

Hiya peeps..

Thanks to QB for those wonderful hugggggggggggs!!! I look forward to them each day
Hope everyone's fine.. I'm ok.. just ordered some new wardrobes thanks to stenny, lol

struggling a bit with day 1 of me diet but I'll keep going.. I have to before my behind expands even more and ppl think there's been another solar eclipse, lol
Huggs to everyone xxxxxxxx

Hi ethel!:hello:
Now hun I know it's none of my business, but what are you doing in wardrobes with stenny?!:eek:
I'm glad you're well hun.
Good luck with the diet angel - hang in there - it gets better on the last day!;) I bet mine is bigger than yours! Greenpeace are monitoring me now!:rolleyes: :rotfl:
Have a great day ethel hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

gillette147 wrote:

Hi all, just read back.
I got back from brum about 45mins ago. House is freezing coz i left heating off for two days away. Brrrrrrrrr.

I had to rush on MSE to vent about the awful parents of the six kids on CH4 earlier (on DT). If anyone saw it you will know what I mean. I have rarely been so flabbergasted and angry over anything. Grrrrrrrrr.
My mood is quite high and I might/must get on with revision tomorrow. I better get to bed.
Night nite
xxxx

Hi gilly hun!:hello:
Welcome back.
Awww I missed it gilly! I really wanted to see that. Is it being repeated?
I was exhausted last night. I posted my fur off yesterday - see...


and at 8.20pm, I thought I'd lie down on the couch just for a minute - and then it was 11.45pm!:eek:
I'd left instructions with DS to make sure I was awake at 8.45, but he didn't. I don't know if he forgot or if it was because I'd have dragged him off msn and checked that the washing up was done - which it wasn't!
That's all right - he'll need feeding at some point today - revenge is sweet!:D
Flabberghasted...You made me laugh remembering one of Frankie Howard's mottos..." Never has my flabber been so ghasted!" :rotfl:
I'm probably the only one old enough to remember that.:rolleyes:
Have a great day and be a good badger now.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

learning_to_drive

Morning guys, another night, another dollar, things going ok, had a easier night, didnt overly exert myself last night, but tonight I have a bigger assignment to deal with, so probably will go in a bit earlier to get off a bit earlier, get the job done! Hope we are all well!

blinky

Miroslav wrote:

:wave:
One month on, I still see no future. I don't think i'll ever get involved again. I want too, but it always ends in tears.

It is great to hear from you Miro. :hello:

You are still hurting at the moment, it takes time to get over relationships. You're not ready at the moment to think about starting another one. In time you will be in a position to think about relationships again and you will find someone special.

You are a wonderful person and you deserve to be happy.

lostsoul25 wrote:

Im doing alot better today. One day I can be so so down on everything and within the blink of an eye, feel moderately ok.

I have that too at times, I don't think it's that uncommon. Are you sure you don't mean within a blinky of an eye ?

Sorry guys, wasn't around much last night. I think most of you will guess where and who I was with.

Hope you are all well and you all have a good day.

Big hugs to all

Tiff_2

Hi lostsoul!:hello:
Saz and the gang have given you excellent answers hun.;) Sorry for not replying before now. It's brave of you to share it all with us :T and I hope that's been a bit of a release for you angel.

lostsoul25 wrote:

I have just made this Post. What do you guys think in relation to Depression...
Lost soul
Im a regular poster on MSE but wanna protect myself from what Im gonna say as Im feeling very vulnerable.
I am suffering from
lonliness
depression
unfullfillment
lack of motivation
I feel like Im on a one way ticket to nowhere and the Trains not stopping.
Okay ls, this is what it feels like when, as another reply told you, you can't see the wood for the trees hun. It all turns into a big mountain that we don't think we can climb. Here we go with Tiff saying that you have to break it down angel.;) I'm sure you've thought of that. The catalysts just bring everything rushing to the front, so you're bound to feel bad hun.
Well done though ls, there's not many people that can say that they've stuck at the same job since school.:T

It's natural to feel that you feel stuck when you've had no experience of changing jobs and maybe you're unsure as to how to do it. Maybe you don't feel very confident hun but future employers will look at the fact that you've been in the same job 7 years as a real positive.
Ok, so you've decided that you want to move on.
Paper and pen time hun.;)
Write down in short sentences what each problem is, eg.
1. I want to get another job.
2. I have low self esteem. etc.

The idea is that by breaking it down like this, you separate each problem and then you can write ideas and plans underneath each one.
For example under 1., you'd write down what you think you are good at and the things you like to do, even things at home.
Then I think if you're under 25 years old, you can go to Connexions for free careers help and advice and also look at other vacancies. Show them your list and they can look at what you've written and discuss your various options. Obviously, I'd say don't leave your current job until you've got a new one angel.;)

When I feel down, which is alot, I suffer from very poor self confidence, I always have and this stops me applying for other jobs. A huge chunk of the problem is that I dont know what I want to do, how to do it and where. I dont think there can be anything worse than having absolutely no clue or direction. People can handle not succeeding, I dont know what I want to succeed at and it seems I waste all of my Time plodding along.
You've identified that you feel low and have poor self-confidence hun.
Once you've had some advice from the careers people, this will be one big problem off your list and may boost your confidence.

Ol' Tiff thinks that everyone feels like this hun - we're always at the right point of our lives at the wrong time. I've not met anyone who has been able to get their life all mapped out or going as perfectly as we'd like it to, when we want it to, all of the time. If I knew at 20 what I know now, life would have been easier. But that's not how it works hun - it's a journey for all of us - even the most confident of us - and things come clear slowly. Try and be glad hun that at least you know you're on the train - some of us don't find that out until we're much older. So, if it helps angel, time is on your side.;)

Common thoughts these angel, that you'll never find enough friends. Your network will probably widen in a new job. Be reassured that at least you do have some friends hun - you are appreciated.:T And well, love is a law unto itself. There's no reason for it not to find you.

Almost two years ago, I got into a complicated relationship and I was happier than I had ever been in my life. Ultimately it had to come to an end. Then off and on I would see her, also worked in same building. More recently we had zero contact for months. This is not an exaggeration, but everyday since she left me (Nov 05) I have thought about her. I could also watch movies, tv, listen to music and it would all remind me of her. Infact writing this Im overcome with such strong emotions. I loved her so very much and still do and miss her terribly, scrap that I still love her.. A week or so she has got back in touch, only very lightly, she told me she was ok but had some hard personal problems which just set my mind into overdrive on what they could be and Im worried about her. I almost texted her last night telling her how I felt still (after some alcohol) butdidnt.
I don't know what caused you two to end the relationship hun, so this is harder.
I get the impression that she left you? It seems that you must have been very hurt because you say you loved her & then take it back. Did you
scrap that 'I loved her so much and still do' because of the pain she caused you hun? Is that what stopped you?
Right now angel, I think you need to look after yourself first before getting into anything further. You need to build up your confidence and feel more settled in yourself. It would be very inviting right now to look for that port from the storm hun, but the storm would still be there when you looked out. And if you do want a good relationship with her, then I'd say wait a while until you're sure of what your heart wants. Don't do alcohol-fuelled impulses angel.;)

For the last 9months I have been living in my own place... You said it yourself angel - you do have friends! Maybe you could spend more time with them or maybe start an evening class or salsa or sports at night? Also, you've got your own home - that's a good achievement at your age.:T Hun, if you need a holiday, take one. Just don't look at it being the answer to everything angel. Enjoy it for the break it is.

The odd thing is, I was very unhappy for a long time and eventually sought help from the doctors, getting Tablets and also some counselling which did make me feel so much better. After this ended, I met her and it was like Fate and my Reward, putting me on such a High. Everything is getting to me at the same time, I cant go on living like this, infact I would say I live life.
I know nobody can give me the answer, its all down to me, Ive got to do the work I simply have no motivation for any of it anymore and need something to happen to kick me. thats what happenend last time, when my babe came along.
Im not even sure what im expecting anyone to say back here.
Im thinking I should go back to the doctors and unload again, maybe get the tablets and see if they perk me up again.
You speak very clearly and it sounds like you went from a great high to a great low when your relationship finished.:o I think going back to the dr is the best idea, ls. You've been in pain before and you got help that worked, so do it today - make that appointment angel! Why put off doing something that you know works? You're only delaying your recovery hun.;) You've survived before hun and you can do it again. :T Post any time you feel like it hun. Good luck.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
Sending huge Tiff hugs - and in no particular order - to saz, gilly, miro, elona, ethel, stenny, cm, blinky, pumpkin, qb, l-t-d, beer, gem, glad, cb2, natty, goldy, twinny, alex, s-hh, tevangelynne, rose, cc, feelie, lexi, edinburghlass, aase and lostsoul.
to our new friends. Sorry if I've left someone out.:o

Hoping you're all well guys and that you have a good day. I'm off now - think I've got a touch of post-itis after yesterday.:rolleyes: All the fluff has gone out of my fur!:eek:
Not feeling to brilliant right now so off for a catnap.;)
Don't worry cb2 - Auntie Tiff will be back later!:rolleyes: :rotfl:
Look after each other guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Horasio

It's my son's 19th birthday today

Going out tonight and concentrating on having happy thoughts to enjoy today:)

blinky

CCStar wrote:

It's my son's 19th birthday today

Going out tonight and concentrating on having happy thoughts to enjoy today:)

Have a great day and an even better night out.

aase

CCStar wrote:

Hi and welcome - don't be shy to post, there are some very wise and caring people on this board.

That sounds an interesting book - I have eaten more spuds this week:)

Thank you very much for taking the time to reply, I appreciate it.