Depression

EthelBloggs

Hiya peeps..

Thanks to QB for those wonderful hugggggggggggs!!! I look forward to them each day

Hope everyone's fine.. I'm ok.. just ordered some new wardrobes thanks to stenny, lol

struggling a bit with day 1 of me diet but I'll keep going.. I have to before my behind expands even more and ppl think there's been another solar eclipse, lol

Huggs to everyone xxxxxxxx

Horasio

Why do people endure cr*p relationships in the belief it will get better? Split up to make up then it all goes back to cr*p within a short time.

Why do women turn on each other and are not supportive when it matters most, just accepting the status quo of this f*ked up male dominated world? Why are women so pathetic when they should stand up for themselves against men, so many women walk around like they are so apologetic or they go totally the other way to other women?

Why do men seem to be hell bent on undermining and attacking women and we come back for more? There are decent chaps out there but it is a general observation. It really makes my blood boil!

Horasio

learning_to_drive wrote:

Hugs CC, we are all here for you, recovery will happen, its a hell of a nightmare riding the storm until that happens though.

Thank you - it is like 1 step forward and 75 backwards

Nothing ever changes, you think it will different but no, it's just the same.

:mad:

EthelBloggs

Could it be that people persevere with less than perfect relationships because of love? Circumstances can make people behave strangely at times, sometimes it just needs a bit of understanding from both people to make things work better.

Me personally I don't really go in for all that sisterhood malarkey.. I can't go along with a woman who I know to be wrong just because she's female against a man.. maybe I'm weird but that's just me..

I'm not keen on manbashing either.. there are some bloody awful women out there too!

Tiff_2

Hi - furby!
Come on in hun and pull up a chair - the guys here are amazing.:T I bet they've already given you all the advice you need. Please forgive me if you've already done these things or if another poster has said it.

furby-2003 wrote:

hi, i wondered if you could all point me in the right direction of someone who may help me.
I feel like a bit of a hypercondreac but here goes!
We all help each other here hun and don't worry, we don't judge anyone and a problem shared ... and all that really applies here. Well done for being brave enough to post furby!;)

I'm off work at the moment, i've had a week because all my problems are getting on top of me. My doctors note says until the 5th feb. So not only am I worrying about going back to work but i'm also not sure when i should go. and just haven't gone today!.
Let's break it down hun into smaller pieces - they're easier to chew.:rolleyes:

-Firstly, you are not a hypochondriac angel or your dr wouldn't have given you a week off work. Mental ill health is as valid an illness as any other.

-Did dr say to go back and see them if there was still a problem? I would say to you to go back and see gp tomorrow hun. The drs are the experts. You obviously felt too unwell to face work today so maybe you need a little more time? Your gp will be able to reassess your situation furby and advise you further.

I don't feel i have depression and though i think i should with all my problems. but I don't know if i'm just masking the fact i have and constantly putting a brave face on all the time.
- There are many different kinds of depression angel and because we're all individuals, we can all have different symptoms. The very fact that you're doubting yourself may show that you are depressed.

- Find some time and try and relax a little and write down in short separate sentences exactly what's going on, and how you are feeling and behaving.
(eg. 1. I cry a lot.
2. I can't sleep properly. etc.)

- When you see your gp, give it to them - this will be a great help because we can get confused and let's be honest, we go to them in the 1st place because we don't know what's wrong. Lots of people do this hun.

- Your gp will be able to refer you if necessary for a mental health assessment. This may be able to tell you if you have depression or anything else and then you and your gp can work on any health care options.

- There are many different online depression tests you can do hun and most vary, so I'd say don't bother with that - just wait until you see your gp. A professional is always better than a computer furby.;)

i have issues with the tax credit(oweing several thousand pounds)
a solicitor on at me because my ex wants contact after 4 years.
i have weight issues. I know i look fine but it surfaces now and again and i tend to compare myself with my freind whos extreamly thin and thats when these issues raise thier head again.
i've had relationship troubles. on the brink of seperation due to my general not thinking about anyone else attittude
i have problems with my son at school and his behavour.
I can't seem to tackle any of these issues such as calling the solicitor of writing to the tax credits it all seems like hard work.
I'm dreading going back to work to face the music.
i don't even want to go out and get an envelope for my tax credit letter, but i'll take my son to school. (so i'm still carrying on as such)
sorry if i'm going on!
No need for sorry hun and you're not going on at all -you should see my posts!:D :rolleyes:

Right, again let's break it down into small pieces hun. The longer you leave it, as you know hun, the worse it gets. It's completely obvious that you've got an awful lot of problems angel. The good news here is that generally speaking, they are all practical problems and practical problems can have answers!;)

- Tax debt & your ex - go to CAB. They will help you put everything down on paper in a financial and personal statement,and they will contact them and negotiate on your behalf if you explain to them that you can't cope with talking to them and that you're avoiding the problem because of this. They will also have the expertise to advise you on your rights about both the relationships furby.

-Relate will also talk to you about your relationship problem and also the one with your ex hun. They deal with all kinds of relationships and you can se them alone if your OH doesn't want to go. The amount of stress you must be feeling is bound to stretch any relationship hun.

-It sounds like your weight problem may not be a problem hun - maybe imho, it's more about a lack of self esteem? Your gp can also refer you for counselling hun - please tell him about this and everything else. You can only get the help you need from any of these people angel, if you're completely honest with them.

- For your DS, I'd say contact the boy's school and ask to speak to his form tutor. They will be able to look out for him and any problems that he may have, and may give him a little breathing space if they're aware of his situation at home and school. Also, they should have a counsellor within the school, that he can talk to and who can then work with the rest of the school staff to help him all they can.

- There is no set in stone formula for what you can or can't do when you're depressed angel. As I said, we're all individual and there are different levels of depression. I hope that by seeing the dr, they will set your mind at rest by saying no, you don't have it or yes, you do and here's what we'll do. it's a win-win situation furby.

I think far to far ahead like, what if my partner gets a job i'll lose my solicitor and tax credits and i'll still have to pay half the bills but with less money!. and the tax credits will want more of the overpayment back but my partner will end up having to pay and it's not all to do with him.
my heads spinning but i never seem to want to do anything about it. I still smile and i still carry on does this mean im ok?
Well sweetheart, you've answered your own problem right there.;) We all tend to look at the big picture and try to solve everything at once and that's impossible. Neither can you predict the future so I'd give that up hun - we've all been guilty of that!:rolleyes:
Your head is spinning hun because your body is telling you 'Whoa! That's enough!' You're only human angel and it's the worrying that does the most damage to you. Try and make your mind switch off for a while and be kind to yourself hun. As soon as that brain kicks in with all these thoughts, say to yourself - 'You know what? I'm not going to think about this any more tonight. There's nothing I can do about it all right now and I'm making plans to deal with the problems. Worrying tonight is pointless so, I'm going to have some me time.' And you deserve it hun - you're a survivor!:T

It's really good that you have good friends and that work is aware of your situation angel. Don't feel bad or give yourself a hard time ok? People can be really kind - so let them be.
I'm so sorry to you and the board for such a long post!:o I bet you're sorry you asked!:D :rolleyes: Seriously hun, once you've got a plan in place, you'll feel so much better. Peace of mind is a wonderful thing! Huge Tiff hugs furby.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx
thanks

Tiff_2

EthelBloggs wrote:

Could it be that people persevere with less than perfect relationships because of love? Circumstances can make people behave strangely at times, sometimes it just needs a bit of understanding from both people to make things work better.

Me personally I don't really go in for all that sisterhood malarkey.. I can't go along with a woman who I know to be wrong just because she's female against a man.. maybe I'm weird but that's just me..

I'm not keen on manbashing either.. there are some bloody awful women out there too!

Bravo ethel! Well said!:T Every one of us has a heart - and it can be broken by anyone, no matter what their gender is.:o
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

blinky wrote:

Great to hear from you feely. Big hugs to you

We had a fantastic weekend :j Lunch with my parents went great, will get the full report from the when I go home tonight. You know it's love when you go out to do her shopping and then clean her kitchen and bathrooms when she is busy . Still nervous about meeting her mum on Wednesday.

No need for a hat this year though...

Tiff - good luck with your procedure. Big hugs to you ...

To everyone else - hope you are all well and hope you all have a good day.

Remember:
There is hope.
Things will get better - but it will take time and it probably won't be plain sailing. Try not to get disheartened by the setbacks.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel - unless some (_|_) has nicked it again.
You are all wonderful and special people.

Big hugs to all

Hi blinky!
So glad you had a great weekend hun. It sounds like it went really well.:T Good luck for Wednesday blinky! You'll be fine hun.;) Thank you for your best wishes angel, bless you.:A
Oh no - you're not going to catch me and sazzy out like that! We're going hat-buying - you just give us a good excuse to do it!:D Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiffy xxx

blinky

No relationship is perfect. I suppose we each have to decide on how much imperfection we are prepared to put up with.

CC - it's clear that you are upset and somebody close has hurt you. Is there anything we can do to help.

blinky

Tiff wrote:

Hi blinky!
So glad you had a great weekend hun. It sounds like it went really well.:T Good luck for Wednesday blinky! You'll be fine hun.;) Thank you for your best wishes angel, bless you.:A
Oh no - you're not going to catch me and sazzy out like that! We're going hat-buying - you just give us a good excuse to do it!:D Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiffy xxx

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Won't be this year - definitely. Too soon. Maybe next year

queensway_boy

Tiff ,your box is full.......................................:D



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