Depression

blinky

feelinggood wrote:

Just want to say a big hello to RBK if she is reading, welcome to the thread, hope you like it and decide to stay

just for you

Great to hear from you feely. Big hugs to you

Tiff wrote:

Hi blinky!:wave:
How are you angel? You're late posting this morning!:D We need our blinky and qb hugs in the morning to set us up for the day!:T
Is everything ok in your corner hun? Hoping your weekend was a good one with r.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

We had a fantastic weekend :j Lunch with my parents went great, will get the full report from the when I go home tonight. You know it's love when you go out to do her shopping and then clean her kitchen and bathrooms when she is busy . Still nervous about meeting her mum on Wednesday.

No need for a hat this year though...

Tiff - good luck with your procedure. Big hugs to you

Ethel - kick the (_|_) in the (_|_) if you feel the need. Hope your DD is better soon. Big hugs to you

Miro - post back soon. It's always great to hear from you.

To everyone else - hope you are all well and hope you all have a good day.

Remember:
There is hope.
Things will get better - but it will take time and it probably won't be plain sailing. Try not to get disheartened by the setbacks.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel - unless some (_|_) has nicked it again.
You are all wonderful and special people.

Big hugs to all

furby-2003

hi, i wondered if you could all point me in the right direction of someone who may help me.

I feel like a bit of a hypercondreac but here goes!

I'm off work at the moment, i've had a week because all my problems are getting on top of me. My doctors note says until the 5th feb. So not only am I worrying about going back to work but i'm also not sure when i should go. and just haven't gone today!.

I don't feel i have depression and though i think i should with all my problems. but I don't know if i'm just masking the fact i have and constantly putting a brave face on all the time.

i have issues with the tax credit(oweing several thousand pounds)
a solicitor on at me because my ex wants contact after 4 years.
i have weight issues. I know i look fine but it surfaces now and again and i tend to compare myself with my freind whos extreamly thin and thats when these issues raise thier head again.
i've had relationship troubles. on the brink of seperation due to my general not thinking about anyone else attittude
i have problems with my son at school and his behavour.
I can't seem to tackle any of these issues such as calling the solicitor of writing to the tax credits it all seems like hard work.
I'm dreading going back to work to face the music.
i don't even want to go out and get an envelope for my tax credit letter, but i'll take my son to school. (so i'm still carrying on as such)

sorry if i'm going on!

I think far to far ahead like, what if my partner gets a job i'll lose my solicitor and tax credits and i'll still have to pay half the bills but with less money!. and the tax credits will want more of the overpayment back but my partner will end up having to pay and it's not all to do with him.

my heads spinning but i never seem to want to do anything about it. I still smile and i still carry on does this mean im ok?

thanks

learning_to_drive

It sounds like you have anxiety / depression caused by the situations in your life, the general feeling itself is feeling down and generally meaning many things are too much effort, the fact you have posted on here means that you are facing up to your problems well done for that!

I would make an appointment with your GP, there's nothing wrong with being on anti d's or indeed admitting you have depression, the anti d's will help settle your mind so that you can focus on the tasks in hand and deal with the m in your stride!

furby-2003

I feel guilty about telling work. They know all my personal problems which probably wan't the best thing to do but i always spill everything out. People see me as a smily happy person 99% of the time until i have to make a phone call (i'm petrefied of phones and i work in admin). It makes me think that they think i'm making it up!

I went to the doctors last week and he gave me till the 5th. but i had to hint to get that week off. I don't want to seem like i'm just asking for it

learning_to_drive

I think with depression, because we cant see it, we assume that people may think we are making it up etc. The depressed mind is very good at making us think things that arent necessarily true.

You need to do what is best for YOU, if that means taking more time off, then so be it, with regards to work, id be wary, first direct (god bless them) were absolutely outstanding and really cared for me, was told to take my time and not rush back, and they paid me too for my absence which meant a lot. The tax office however decided to bully me out by using my illness as a stick to get their absence figures down, what did you put on your application form etc. Basically I just resigned there and then as I wasn't having that pressure put onto me.

Pumpkin_Pie_5

Tiff wrote:

Hi pumpkin!:wave:
How are you hun? Did you manage to make the train journey to your sister? I haven't seen you posting this weekend so I assume you probably made it, bless you.:T Let us know how you got on ok hun. Hoping that all is well pumpkin.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Aw thanks Tiff!
I dunnit I dunnit! OH took me to the station and I plugged myself into "the history of ancient Rome" for 2.5 hours and my sis met me at the other end. We had a lovely weekend - Bought the bridesmaid dresses!:T :j And I didn't cry once:j
I had a horrible journey back - Packed train so no room to relax:(
Am home safe now.

many many hugs to all - I hope you are all having a good morning. I haven't read the whole thread yet so I don't know what happened over the weekend but I hope you all made it through


Much love to all
Pumpkin xxxx

Alex_Galt

Hugs to all, and thanks for your support.

Ted, some really interesting posts there from you.
I suppose it wouldn't be difficult to take a couple of those cod liver oil capsulse daily.
It was also an interesting read about magnesium

Thank you

Tiff_2

Sazbo wrote:

Good night lovlies. Sleep well. :wave: Tiff that includes you hun.

Sazzyxxx

:eek: Quick Saz - Anyone! hit my thanks button please - look at my post count - 666! :eek:
I nearly fell off the keyboard when I saw it!
It's all because I told ethel about the Forum Fairy isn't it? It's a sign I tell ya - a sign!:rotfl:
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Horasio

Hi to my REAL mates - you know who you are:)

One's that stand by you when you feel scared and not acting so sweet and nice.

Been a mixed week. Felt good at the beginning, the house looked tidy and felt ready for viewers - we have had a couple yesterday. But that is not to last, the feeling good feeling, there is always something(s) and some people to chip away at it.

I want to live my life and mind my business but no, they have to attack me til I snap, then blame me for being angry, yet if I offend them, I am the bad guy too. Always wrong - I can't be arksed tbh.

It is our son's birthday tomorrow and I have to be happy for that, and I want to be but, no they keep pushing me till I snap, yet I have to keep smiling despite the sh*te I have to endure. Yes, they say, don't let them get to you, and to a point I don't but everyone has limits and I reach mine and I'm the bad guy for saying 'enough'. I'm told I say things badly, yet I have to take other peoples badly worded comments without complaint. double standards or what? I'm sick of taking it!

Why can't they leave me alone?

Tiff_2

[clipboard2]Hi Tiff
Thank you for your welcome (2/2//07). Alas - I am an imposter here!
I suffer from excessive :j :j :j which could be contagious..
Tiff, you are indefatigable! What is your secret?
How about a separate thread: "TALK TO TIFF"/"DILEMMA OF THE DAY"?.....here's your starter..

Dear cb2!:wave:
Awww - no need to hide hun - you're with friends.
First of all, you're completely barking - you shouldn't encourage me!:D But you asked for it...:rolleyes:

Dear Auntie Tiff,
I have a dilemma. A man I last had contact with over 30 years ago wants to see me again. (Friends Reunited). He wanted to marry me and I guess I broke his heart. He's now married with kids and I'm happily married. He tells me he cannot explain his feelings in email...
Auntie Tiff, I'm a go for it girl! But should I go for it?
Love
CB2
Dear cb2,
Hun, if you go for it, you'll get it and then you'll discover that you don't want it! Your friend seems to be implying that he still has feelings for you if they are too private to be in your Inbox.
"So many people will get hurt" is the standard reply and that is worth remembering. But what's as important to remember, is that you say you are happily married!Do you really want to open that Pandora's box - especially as you're happy as you are? And if you do pursue this, there's always going to be the "if he did it to her, he'll do it to me" thought niggling away in the back of your mind - and his! He deserves a smack with a wet fish - allow me! Or is it that you're curious about what exciting things he has to say about you?
Auntie Tiff says forget him hun. After all, you know what curiosity did to the cat...and also to more than a few OHs!:eek:



-P.S. Your indefatigableness has inspired me to get out of my comfort zone and start giving back again...thank you!
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There ya go angel!:o I'll have to check your conjugation, (it won't hurt a bit!), but thank you for the nice thoughts. Huge hugs.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx