Depression

feelinggood_2

I'm getting better thanks.
xx

tevangelynne

thank you for taking your time to reply i feel low myself whilst trying to stay strong i also have two young children to deal with . he said the house is noisy but i try to have kids settled in bed and everything done by the time he gets in . he works long hours . last week i was getting working up as it feels like he hates me but he says he still loves me but it doesnt feel like it .. he is adament he wont go to doctor . sorry about my spelling im not very good

tevangelynne

he is saying he wants to pack his stuff and go but wouldnt he just go do it ? he just sitting there twiddling saying it wont get better but if i wanted to go i woul just go pack my stuff and go

tevangelynne

he is saying he wants to pack his stuff and go but wouldnt he just go do it ? he just sitting there twiddling saying it wont get better but if i wanted to go i woul just go pack my stuff and go

tevangelynne

he is saying he wants to pack his stuff and go but wouldnt he just go do it ? he just sitting there twiddling saying it wont get better but if i wanted to go i woul just go pack my stuff and go

tevangelynne

sorry i didnt mean it to post three times

geminilady

tevangelynne wrote:

Hi i feel silly posting this on here but i need help .
My husband is depressed he has been on ant depres before but this time he wont go see the doctor , he made apt but wont go . last nite he tolod jme he is not happy here with me and wants to go .. he said some awful awful things.
i am in bits i dont want him to go what can i do do i need to let him just go please help me im sad and dont know what to do .. i asked him to stay said i will do all i can to suport him ?

Hi,There is no need to feal silly posting this is a support forum for depression and you need support.Have you offered to go with him to the doctor? did ad's help him before?I think some people think they are somehow "weak" to need medication but depression is an illness like any other.Try not to be upset when he says hurtful things and remember he also said you are the best thing that ever happened to him so he DOES care.If he is set against taking tablets the doctor can offer other help as feely has said,councelling,talking therapies ect so try and persuad him to go with or without you.

feelinggood_2

Leaving someone is very hard - it isn't as clear cut as "I want to leave, so I'll leave" - he is probably very confused and upset - try and not force his hand though, or you risk pushing him in to a descision that he wouldn't otherwise make. That said, if things are affectig you, then maybe you need to confront him and tell him how it is affecting you and your children. Would he consider private counselling instead of seeing a doctor?

geminilady

tevangelynne wrote:

he is saying he wants to pack his stuff and go but wouldnt he just go do it ? he just sitting there twiddling saying it wont get better but if i wanted to go i woul just go pack my stuff and go

Yes i think the same as you if he really wanted to go he would just go.How have you reacted to this? have you said you want him to stay?maybe he just wants reasurance that you care.

tevangelynne

thank you im crying i think he just wants my aproval and for me to say its o u go .. i dont want him to i wont be able to cope with out him. he did take tabs before and they worked he stopped them when he met me .. is it my fault he is depressed. i offered to go to docs with him