Broody when your kids are older?

kellywelly_2

I have 2 boys 19 and 17 and a gorgeous little girl nearly 3, she is my angel, totally spoiled rotten by all around her and I am so so glad she came along she was not planned, but needless to say fits in as if she was planned from day one.
As to the whole financial thing with kids never really been an issue for me, mine have always had the best that I can afford, sometimes that has been from a charity shop, sometimes a boot fair and sometimes free from friends, but they also have never had brand names just for the sake of it. I am not saying that we have no money we are probably an average family with an average income whatever that is supposed to be these days, but I like to shop cleverly this is what led me to MSE in the first place.
Having children has to date never restricted me in anything I wanted to do in life, I am fully educated, have had a great adult life, ( not the best childhood, but that's another thread ) and I think the best is still to come, I adore all 3 of my kids they are to date my best achievment and the greatest gift I have ever been given. I am thinking about a brother or sister for the yougest, no plans just going with the flow.

jembie

I have been broody for the past 12 years but you need 2 to make a baby (Unless you have the cash) LOL
I love the 2 I have and am so proud of them that if I never get the chance to have another baby I won't mind too much.

silverbirch_3

I have 4 aged 15, 13, 10 and 6 and thought that was it but for the last year i've been really broody, its a constant in my life, I see babies and cry, At 35 I feel time is running out, i'm a stay at home mom but my kids are already 2 to a room and i feel it wouldn't be fair on them to expect them to squeeze in another. Besides which my husband says no way. His words 'you can have as many babies as you want, just not with me' so what do i do, i can't switch off this feelings, believe me i've tried, and yes, i've even picked names for the baby i know will never happen. Then i feel guilty because i've been blessed with 4 wonderful children and i know others can't have any.

mophead

Ok i'm 33 with 4 children ages 14,12,4 and 11months.. I just followed my heart

flufff

just a suggestion.....how about fostering?

Rachie_B

silverbirch wrote:

I have 4 aged 15, 13, 10 and 6 and thought that was it but for the last year i've been really broody, its a constant in my life, I see babies and cry, At 35 I feel time is running out, i'm a stay at home mom but my kids are already 2 to a room and i feel it wouldn't be fair on them to expect them to squeeze in another. Besides which my husband says no way. His words 'you can have as many babies as you want, just not with me' so what do i do, i can't switch off this feelings, believe me i've tried, and yes, i've even picked names for the baby i know will never happen. Then i feel guilty because i've been blessed with 4 wonderful children and i know others can't have any.

you say you are a SAHM ? could you go out to work for a while and save up a bit so you can "afford" another child ?

all your kids are school age and i dont know about where you are, but here there are always lots of jobs on the job centre website, offering retail work during school time 9 - 3pm or 10 - 2pm so you wouldnt even need childcare before & after school ?or even cleaning / ironing / babysitting work etc

or what about childminding ?

do you rent or own your own home ?

I am a believer in you make the money / room if you want another child they dont HAVE to cost an arm and a leg,and it sounds in your particular case it would be the housing that would cause the issue ?

but a newborn could sleep in with you for the first 6 - 12 months anyway

whats putting your OH off ? the cost / the space or does he just really not want anymore / happy with the 4 you have ?

lisa_75

Thanks for all your replies. Thanks to the bombshell my husband dropped last night......
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=344034

a third child is definitely off the cards

Penny-Pincher!!

Im really sorry to read your other thread. I was going to post on it as I was just reading, but didnt know what to say

OH & I met at 13. We seperated for nearly a year when we were 16/17 and I slept with another person but OH didnt. I have regrets but from the other side and wish I hadnt slept with the other person but I cant turn back time though. God....I sound like a right slapper:o

Would counselling help do you think?

Hugs

PP
xx

Rachie_B

you have slept with 2 people in your entire life!

you are soooooooooo not a slapper

sharronloves2spend

Hi there new 2 the chat rooms, so here goes!! im 30 in march and have four kids three boys aged 12, 10, 7, and a girl nearly four , she goes to school in september and im soooo broody!! unfortunatly husband had a vasectomy three years ago so no more babies just got a new puppy!? see if that fills the gap . I hope so . otherwise ill be booking the reversal! what i will say is that you never regret having a child but you will always regret NOT having a child, they are truly precious. To the lady who wants a girl buy the book called choosing the sex of your baby the natural way by hazel chesterman philips, i did and it worked for me we already decided that we were having another baby so we might as well throw the odds in our favour of having a girl.bye for now sharron: