Broody when your kids are older?

lisa_75

I am 31 and my kids are 10 and 12. Recently I have been feeling very broody, which is crazy as I am just about to finish my degree and get back into the job market after 12 years of not working. My kids are great, but are reaching those terrible teen years! I have been longing for a cute baby, who won’t answer back! I would also love to be pregnant again as I did not appreciate it first and second time round as I was very young.

Money wise, we could cope on one wage (we do now) but it would mean any hope of buying our own house would be put off for at least another 10 years.

My husband has always wanted another child, but I have always said no, mainly because of money. I am so confused about these feelings. Is it natural to get broody when your kids are growing up?

in_my_wellies

Go with what your heart says or you will always regret it. You are still young enough to have another two children who will grow up together. You will only be about 44/45 when the youngest goes to secondary school. If you started work then you would still be able to work 25 years till you get your pension so lots of time. (and by then the pension age might be 80!)

If you don't have another you might spend the next 35 years working and regreting it.

Good luck!

Becles

I'm 31 one and my children are 10 and nearly 8. I too felt broody and I'm currently 5 months pregnant!

Little different for me, in that my ex-husband walked out so I never got the 3rd baby I always wanted with him, and I've since married again to a man who loves my boys, but is desperate for one of his own.

Have a good think about what you really want. You're still young so still plenty of time left to own your own home etc., if you do decide another baby is what you really want.

vippymini

Your still young enough to do what you want i five kids with the youngest being 16 weeks and im soo broody plus im 31.

Follow your heart as you may regret it when your older !

Rachie_B

you have age on your side,women are having babies older and older these days
so even if you finished your degree and went back to working for a few years you could then still,if you wanted to ,try for another babba

otherwise i find working with children helps me stop being broody ,great thing is you can hand them back at the end of the day

I am 27 and have a 10 yr old and a 4 yr old,i dont think i want anymore,am happy with the 2 we have ,they are trouble enough lol

I can cope with looking after other peoples but wouldnt want all the sleepless nights and other downsides of a newborn,no matter how cute they are

IF we did have another I would want at least a 6 year gap again pref more lol

Savvy_Sue

I would still be having babies (I've got 3 boys) IF they didn't grow into two year olds. Babies I love, two year olds are not so great ...

I also wondered if I would like a two year old better once I didn't have a baby as well. I didn't.

And now I've got 3 teenagers. The older two really aren't so bad, but the younger one is turning me grey ... and it's not even as if he's done anything rebellious yet! He just has attitude oozing out of him, and as never hears a word anyone says because he's always listening to music, communications are strained!

I'm not saying don't do it, but remember they're not really babies who don't answer back for long, are they? PLUS with the example of teenagers to inspire them, just think what a two year old might be capable of! :rotfl:

Funnily enough, I felt broody right up until DS3 arrived. After that, no. Other people's babies - lovely. More of mine? No way.

skintas_2

i am but back at work, im fed up with being so and so mum back to myself while im at work. maybe another if i meet someone else, at the mo im 27 loving having some freedom back. my friends think im joking, no i like me time again...........

chinagirl

I am feeling broody, I have 3 boys, 17,11 and 7. Husband would love a girl, but I have never felt the need for one until now. My cousin has just given birth to twin girls, and gosh, they are so cute - all pink and cuddly. I find myself imagining having a little girl now, and thinking of names etc. I am shocked with myself, as I have always been happy with my sons, but my husband's theory is that I would feel threatened if we had a girl - competition for me. What rubbish!

*Louise*

Lisa_75 - all you can do is ask yourself 'Am I going to regret it in 10 yeas' time?'

Think of the pros and cons - which is higher?

I hope I don't feel broody again at 31...I'm having my 3rd at the moment, and as far as I am concerned, the last.

Chrismojam

I can see where you are coming from...:rolleyes:

I've alway been one to think about the fiscal/financial matters first....no kids yet but alway thought ...how on earth would I cope....but you know....when you 'let go of it'... you realise that other people manage pefectly fine...without the 'perceived' hardships....

People manage...and when I get MY head around that fact....I too will be willing to give 'life' a try rather than trying to plan everthing:rolleyes: ....:o

jopsey

I had my first ... and last at 34, love him to death but don't want anymore !
never felt the broody thing ever ,oh tell a lie can't walk past a yorkie puppy without cooing !!!!