Do you feel as if your treated as second class?

poppyjay

Hi ive allways rented do you or have you ever felt like you are treated as second class by neighbor who own their homes ?
I have one neighbor who likes to cut his grass at 5am with a petrol mower informs other home owners but not us .

Barny1979

5am?! I'm sure there are laws about doing things like that between 7am-11pm.

poppyjay

There a law to themselves around here next door like to start Diy at 9pm I don't mind what people do but when I'm getting little sleep due to a teething baby who also being woken it's really winding me up .

abankerbutnotafatcat

Ignore them (i know it's tough) - they are idiots. All sorts of people rent for all sorts of reasons.

People may be renting due to a relocation with work for instance and if your company has relocated you to another (part of the) country then you are probably quite a high income earner. Other people may actually, god forbid, not aspire to the added workload and stresses of home ownership and prefer to spend their weekends enjoying themselves rather than up a ladder applying white emulsion as I was until a few minutes ago!!

I would have thought there are a lot of additional renters at this time in the economic cycle as people bide their time before taking the plunge in these uncertain times. So even less can be deduced from one's home tenure than normal.

As we all know, in many parts of Europe renting is quite normal and home ownership is not such a goal as it is here. I lived in Denmark and the rules and conventions regarding renting are quite different there as a result of renting being viewed more favourably than it is here. For instance it is normal to have to sand floors (wooden floors are the norm over there) and whitewash walls when moving out of a place so that it is 'like new' for the new tenant. It is also completely normal to drill holes in walls to put up shelves in a rental property - no landlord permission required. You just have to 'make new' when you leave. Again because a rental property is still considered a long term home for the resident.

These are just small minded, judgemental, inconsiderate people - rise above them.

Eton_Rifle

No, neighbours have always treated us equally - but we are sociable sorts who get involved with the community.

I've had one landlord who clearly regarded us as serfs and strutted around our house and land like a Lord of the Manor. He even gave us orders about our own possessions and suggestions about our lives.
Now I insist on meeting landlords to assess them before I sign anything.

With neighbours, you get out what you put in.

You have to go the extra mile as tenants because neighbours suspect you're probably temporary and not really interested in them - so you have to be the one who does all the legwork.

Barny1979

poppyjay wrote: »

There a law to themselves around here next door like to start Diy at 9pm I don't mind what people do but when I'm getting little sleep due to a teething baby who also being woken it's really winding me up .

On the flip side, it's not the neighbour's fault that you've got a teething baby.

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abankerbutnotafatcat wrote: »

Ignore them (i know it's tough) - they are idiots. All sorts of people rent for all sorts of reasons.

People may be renting due to a relocation with work for instance and if your company has relocated you to another (part of the) country then you are probably quite a high income earner. Other people may actually, god forbid, not aspire to the added workload and stresses of home ownership and prefer to spend their weekends enjoying themselves rather than up a ladder applying white emulsion as I was until a few minutes ago!!

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As we all know, in many parts of Europe renting is quite normal and home ownership is not such a goal as it is here. I lived in Denmark and the rules and conventions regarding renting are quite different there as a result of renting being viewed more favourably than it is here. For instance it is normal to have to sand floors (wooden floors are the norm over there) and whitewash walls when moving out of a place so that it is 'like new' for the new tenant. It is also completely normal to drill holes in walls to put up shelves in a rental property - no landlord permission required. You just have to 'make new' when you leave. Again because a rental property is still considered a long term home for the resident...

After the war, it was like that here in the UK too. Being given a council house, for example, was seen with pride! There was a programme about it on in recent months and it was fascinating watching actually

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Barny1979 wrote: »

On the flip side, it's not the neighbour's fault that you've got a teething baby.

Agreed.

But, I know from experience, a crotchety teether can leave a mum feeling not only tired, but a bit stressed in a "at-wits-end" sort of way and all energy is focused on staying calm with, and for, the baby. Everyone else (husbands, relatives, neighbours, silly shop assistant encounters) simply cannot be afforded the same degree of patience

DIY at 9pm is not exactly neighbour friendly.
Mowing the lawn at 5am is totally selfish! Even if the other neighbours are told in advance. If the OP were told in advance, it would still annoy and grate on the nerves.

In those circumstances, I think I would be tempted to politely speak to them and ask if they would be kind enough to rethink when they do this, explaining the teething baby/lack of sleep (and suggest the compromise could be for a few weeks to get over the hump/nub of it). Most reasonable people, if approached politely, usually will.

kiki*_2

I have to admit I'm one of these people who has always wanted to own a house instead of rent. Why don't you want to buy?

poppyjay

I would love to buy and I'm trying to save to .Lucky it's a detached house or I would feel really bad if my baby was waking others .
We go and help at all village events litter picks and things like that we have helped others but minding there animals while they are on holiday we get on very well with people and it's only a handful of people who make me feel this way .
The thing is if they said to us we want to get a early start on something in the morning I would have no problem and my oh I's the sort of person who would offer a hand .

Caroline73_2

Poppyjay - do you think all homeowners treat you as second class or just this one particular neighbour?