Neighbour Problems!!

clarkey888

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

Also bemused by the poster suggesting that the time to complain is when you've already been hit by the ball. You might be a bit too concussed by then!

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concussed? who the hell is kicking this football like? unless this ball is being hit full on by someone pretty decent at football (wouldnt b going over fence if thy were) i very much doubt concussion.

what world do some people live in?

moneysaver

Some people move in to houses & think they can do what they like in them, they cannot. People must consider neighbours. How would the OP like it if the neighbour was a diy fanatic & started drilling & hammering at 6am & this went on until late in the evening, beyond her little boys bed time. I am sure she would be the first to complain.

This shows that you cannot do what you like in or around your house. Good neighbours will always consider others when in or around their home. Just because you buy a house does not mean to f*** with anyone else.( I have bought it so I can do what I like)


Moneysaver

poppysarah

moneysaver wrote: »

Some people move in to houses & think they can do what they like in them, they cannot. People must consider neighbours. How would the OP like it if the neighbour was a diy fanatic & started drilling & hammering at 6am & this went on until late in the evening, beyond her little boys bed time. I am sure she would be the first to complain.

Even seb coe at his fittest wouldn't run from 6am to the nighttime.

Half an hour mild noise is not OTT.

BornAtTheRightTime

moneysaver wrote: »

Some people move in to houses & think they can do what they like in them, they cannot. People must consider neighbours. How would the OP like it if the neighbour was a diy fanatic & started drilling & hammering at 6am & this went on until late in the evening, beyond her little boys bed time. I am sure she would be the first to complain.

Moneysaver

Making excessive noise at 6am is an offence and the OP would be well within their rights to complain.

On the other hand, kicking a football in one's own garden with it occasionally straying over the boundary, is not an offence.

Do try to be a bit more objective.

clarkey888

moneysaver wrote: »

Some people move in to houses & think they can do what they like in them, they cannot. People must consider neighbours. How would the OP like it if the neighbour was a diy fanatic & started drilling & hammering at 6am & this went on until late in the evening, beyond her little boys bed time. I am sure she would be the first to complain.

This shows that you cannot do what you like in or around your house. Good neighbours will always consider others when in or around their home. Just because you buy a house does not mean to f*** with anyone else.( I have bought it so I can do what I like)


Moneysaver

comparison between a drill at 6am till late in evening, and a young lad having a kick about? have a think before you post please.

well, i certainly do as i please in my house whilst respecting neighbours, a young boy playing in his own garden is far from disrespectful.

2bFrank

I cannot believe some peoples post on here. I am sooo glad that the kid playing football is not my neighbour, playing football...at all hours (well between 4-7pm weekday) accidently kicking a ball over a fence every now and again, Christ I would be on anti depressants’ by now. Makes my ex neighbours look angelic in comparison. I mean all they did was a spot of daily drug dealing, abuse and we had the odd knifing and shooting now and again, f**k all in comparison.

Seriously, if the only problem you have is a kid of 7 playing a bit of football in his garden, then the people complaining really need to know what bad neighbours are. Some people love to complain, and most get a kick out of it, don’t give them the satisfaction. Back when I was a kid, when we kicked a ball over the fence to the left, we would go round and get it, the neighbours had more important things to worry about, and more often than not, they would throw it back anyway if they were in the garden and they would often have a friendly chat. If it went over to the right, we were not allowed to get it because of all the crap such as rusted car parts, fridges and used needles in the garden.

Some people really are so petty.

wageslave

Woody39 wrote: »

Just measured the fence it is 5 ft high sitting on a 1ft kickboard. But because we are on a hill we have a small retainer wall 3ft holding back her garden as our garden is much lower than my neighbours. So the height between the bottom of my garden and the top of the fence is approx 9 Ft .... if that makes sense.

It makes perfect sense:)

It is the total height of the structure that matters.

If it was me, I would go to the auld biddy and tell her you are extremely upset. In fact you can hardly sleep for worrying about the position she is in

I would tell her that you had approached a local builder about erecting a net and he had informed you that the fence, as it stands, requires planning permission and therefore certainly can't be added too.

I would explain to your neighbour that she could apply for retrospective planning permission for the fence but you (extremely reluctantly off course) would have to object and she would, in all probability, have to lower or remove her fence.

You realise this would cause her both expense and problems with her dog but you don't feel you have a choice. A fence that height could make your house difficult to resell.

Not that you want to sell but there have been all these problems with your son and his ball games........

However in the interests of neighbourliness you hope you and she might be able to reach a compromise.

You have searched your conscience. You have possibly taken spiritual advice. You have certainly thought long and hard.

Though condoning illegality of any kind goes very much against the grain. You might, in this instance, be able to ignore the height of the fence if she could similarly ignore the occassional ball in her garden.

Ummm that's what I'd do anyway:cool:

PS My book "Machiavelli, A Neighbours Guide" is available at all good booksellers;)

Errata

It is the total height of the structure that matters.

Of course it does, and it's only 6' high at the neighbours side ! The fact that the OP's garden is sunk 3' lower isn't the nighbours problem.

moromir

pararct wrote:

Its all about reasonableness. Its reasonable for a 7 year old to be able to kick a ball about in their garden. On the other hand it is reasonable for the next door neighbour not to have their plants damaged by low flying footballs...

Erect the net/trellis whatever on YOUR side of the property. If her trees/plants are growing across then prune them back as you are entitled too. Unless a conversation order exists regarding bats other wild animals then ignore it and erect what you want anyway. Their welfare albeit a consideration is not really your concern and the neighbour is forcing you to take this action.

I suspect the neighbour just doesn't want the child out in the garden full stop, some can become quite cantankerous in their old age. Put the barrier up and ignore any further rants from her.

I don't know the exact legislation but I'm pretty sure bats are a protected species and doing something to knowingly cause harm to them (ie erecting a net which you've been told traps them) is a proscecutable offence which may miraculously come to the attention of the Council's animal welfare department if the OP shops the old lady to the police over some balls that their son (or their friends.. I can't keep up with the story anymore) couldn't manage to keep within the confines of their garden..

The neighbour is NOT forcing the erection of a net... the son's inability to respect his neighbours property is!

moromir

clarkey888 wrote:

well, i certainly do as i please in my house whilst respecting neighbours, a young boy playing in his own garden is far from disrespectful.

Except he isn't playing in his own garden when he's kicking the ball into someone else's property.

If he was only playing in his own garden, the OP wouldn't be in the pickle they're currently in!

Having broken my nose thanks to a netball... I can certainly understand why an older lady is terrified of being hit in the face by a football shes not expecting!