Neighbour Problems!!

Errata

Woody39 wrote: »

Where the ball goes over it is an area where the old lady doesn't sit. She has a garden bigger than mine and sits on the patio outside her house which is lower than our house! I do care if the ball hits her and will be very upset if it does. She just wont compromise. I have tried to talk to her twice now and just end up walking away as she is rude. In a period of 11 months approx 5 balls have gone over. Its not that many. I want to be neighbourly but I cant win. Quite happy to put a net up and we do move the goal round the garden. I have as much right as she does to use my garden and will not be dictated to by her.

I wonder how many of those have been hoofed over by adults? This is something that you will have to tell the nice police officer when they call round because they will want to talk to you before they talk to your neighbour.

poppysarah

Woody39 wrote: »

Any suggestions on how to put the net up! We already have 3ft retaining wall with 1ft kickboard and then a 6 ft fence = 10ft. I dont want it to be a permanent fixture as it will be a complete eyesore and the neighbour will only complain that it is interfering with her trees and nesting birds/bats. We cant fix it to the fence as she put the fence up and paid for the fence (before we moved in) but it is my boundary! That is another issue. The whole thing is driving me potty.

Get your kid signed up with the local junior football team if he can kick them over 10ft fence. (Didn't you say he was little?)

Woody39

poppysarah wrote: »

Get your kid signed up with the local junior football team if he can kick them over 10ft fence. (Didn't you say he was little?)

He does play for our local Under 8 team already

moneysaver

Errata wrote: »

Have you kept a careful note of how many balls were kicked into your neighbour's garden and kept by her, and who kicked them?

The OP said only a few in 11mths;)

angelsmomma

I agree, I have tossed many balls back from the kids next door.

I can't complain though as my lurcher ran up the wall last month at a cat that had tormented him for over a year by sitting just out of reach and watching him jump up. Well last month enough was enough and he ran so far up the (6 foot) wall he ended up in next doors back yard. I had to ask "please can I have my dog back"

pararct

Woody39 wrote: »

Any suggestions on how to put the net up! We already have 3ft retaining wall with 1ft kickboard and then a 6 ft fence = 10ft. I dont want it to be a permanent fixture as it will be a complete eyesore and the neighbour will only complain that it is interfering with her trees and nesting birds/bats. We cant fix it to the fence as she put the fence up and paid for the fence (before we moved in) but it is my boundary! That is another issue. The whole thing is driving me potty.

How was it fixed before? There must be some fixings where you took the other one down!!

hethmar

jojo1964 wrote: »

Bloody hell, we are talking about a 7 year old having a kick around in his own back garden, the neighbour has obviously had a problem with previous residents, and if elderly is probably a grumpy old woman, ignore and carry on.

When i first moved into my house, the first and only thing our neighbour said was "this is a nice quiet area and we would like to keep it that way"

One way to put ones back up.

I think a lot of posters are missing the line in the OPs post that its normally "adults who cant resist having a go" that put the ball over a 10 ft fence into the old ladys garden.

When you are old, alone and vulnerable it must be very worrying that a ball kicked with force could hit you.

Bogof_Babe

I know I'm practically in the old fogey age bracket (despite my ill-chosen username!) but I view the whole issue of other people making demands on those who don't wish to participate, in the same light as trick or treaters.

Why should anyone answer their door to someone they haven't invited to call? We have a principle of privacy and our home is our castle in this country, and unwelcome intrusions are ill-mannered at best and a damn nuisance at worst. If I indicate that I want to play trick or treat I will display something to that effect in my window, otherwise please leave me alone. It's your game, not mine.

If I want to play with a football I will buy myself one and keep it to myself. I have no interest in engaging in throwing balls back over 10' high fences - I doubt I could manage to get it over anyway.

Why is there this assumption that people who have no relationship to you have to drop what they are doing to attend to your needs, and with good grace at that?

melancholly

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

I know I'm practically in the old fogey age bracket (despite my ill-chosen username!) but I view the whole issue of other people making demands on those who don't wish to participate, in the same light as trick or treaters.

Why should anyone answer their door to someone they haven't invited to call? We have a principle of privacy and our home is our castle in this country, and unwelcome intrusions are ill-mannered at best and a damn nuisance at worst. If I indicate that I want to play trick or treat I will display something to that effect in my window, otherwise please leave me alone. It's your game, not mine.

If I want to play with a football I will buy myself one and keep it to myself. I have no interest in engaging in throwing balls back over 10' high fences - I doubt I could manage to get it over anyway.

Why is there this assumption that people who have no relationship to you have to drop what they are doing to attend to your needs, and with good grace at that?

had the next door neighbour just ignored them, that would be one thing. i think swearing instead perhaps means that they don't quite share your outlook.

manners are required from both sides..... plus once in a while things happen that you can't control. i can see your point to a degree, but i'd also think that picking up the ball, putting it by the door and giving it back when the doorbell rings (assuming that the doorbell isn't too much of an intrusion - in the same way as phonecalls can interrupt other activities - the world won't end) would make sense. you can politely ask them to be careful without causing a massive rift.

life isn't all about what other people want; but it can't always be about what you want either.....

wageslave

I am a tad confused.

You bought a house with a large garden so your small male person would have tons of space to do what small male people do.

So far so sensible.

There was some kind of net erected between your neighbour and yourself (obviously erected for a reason. DOH).

At her request, you dismantled the net. Something to do with bats not balls.

Every now and then a ball goes into her garden.

Who kicks it doesn't seem particularly relevant as your neighbour believes it is all down to the evil boy.

The evil boy who (and I must have imagined you wrote this) she suggests you take to the park to play, thus rendering your garden and possibly your entire house unfit for the purpose for which you purchased it.

BTW what size is your mortgage and how many hours do you work, and how many Radley handbags do you do without, to pay for it?

Large gardens generally mean large houses. Large houses generally mean large families. Next door has four and I suspect they aren't finished:)

The auld biddy, and I do mean this with the greatest respect, has chosen to stay in what would probably be termed a family home and is now kicking up because she is surrounded by ummm families.

I'd tell her, in the nicest possible way, to get...........

...well at least to the nearest gated community where her plants could grow undisturbed by the newest generation

I certainly wouldn't curtail the small persons less than quiet enjoyment of his garden for five minutes.

Unless he starts holding raves in the garden shed