money_penny_26 wrote: »
MUM trusts her completly an doesnt realise what all this means,she just thinks sis can be trusted to see to her.
alanq wrote: »
If Mum was competent when assigning POA then SHE decides who has to be informed. Relatives have no right to be informed.
money_penny_26 wrote: »
hi everybody i will rant on as i am so upset an probably dont know the correct terminology.
My mum has stage 2 altzeimers, some days fine other days in cuckoo land. We have just winded up my late fathers estate which has taken 9 month. 'We' are my sister and I. I am the eldest by 10 years and we are both married.
My shock came when we went to the solicitors to end my dads estate and everything has been left to mum. I then found out that my sis and mum have been going to the solicitors for the last 5 month to put POA in place for mum with my sister been the attourney.
I had no idea that sis has been involving mum, who is only a little confused at the moment, sis told her that she could take charge of her shopping and pay her bills, and mum (who had never heard of poa), thought that this would keep my sis close.
I found out from mum yesterday after a visit to the solicitors, that as mum was told not to tell me I wouldnt be notified on the notification list as I 'would be worried'. It has to be kept a secret from me.
The solicitor - who is a good one - told me I had no need to be informed as mum had said not to tell me, also, no other relative was informed. Sis has been granted lasting power of both medical an finances, and it is in mums will to say this. I was so upset that the solicitor told me he was the other attorney and that sis would not be able to sign checks ect without his signature. They both have to sign together.
It will be granted in 3 weeks time as far I can gather, as far as I understand (with taking advice) it has all been done correctly. However my mum is wealthy and my sis has told me that she has the power not to let me in or even see mum if I upset her so I'd better be careful, she has the POWER (her words). Mum trusts her completely and doesnt realise what all this means, she just thinks sis can be trusted to see to her. My problem is my sister says I have to be careful not to upset her, she has power to do anything she wants - all mums medical care and finances are her decision. I dont trust her but reading others stories tell me, as we all know, it will be all too late when money starts drifting away, I find she probably can't sell house without the other signature, but she could give it away to her husband!! Is this correct? I am worried and I can't sleep.
Rant over thanks for your help
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