i need help i am upset please 11 August 2011 at 8:35PM in Over 50s Money Saving 32 replies 5.6K views

money_penny_26

hi everybody i will rant on as i am so upset an probably dont know the correct terminology,my mum has stage 2 altzeimers,some days fine other days in cuckoo land..we have just winded up my late fathers estate which has taken 9 month.WE an i mean my sister i am the eldest by 10 years,we are both married.My shock came when we went to the solicitors to end my dads estate an everything has been left to mum,but i found out that my sis an mum have been going to the solicitors for the last 5 month to put poa in place for mum with my sister been the attourney.I HAD NO IDEA SIS HAS BEEN INVOLVING MUM WHO IS ONLY A LITTLE CONFUSED AT THE MOMENT ,SIS TOLD HER (SORRY CAPS)that she could take charge of her shopping an pay her bills an mum who had never heard of poa,thought this would keep my sis close...I FOUND OUT FROM MUM YESTERDAY AFTER VISIT TO SOLICITORS...KEEP KJNOCKING CAPS)that so i wouldnt be notified on the notification list as i would be worried about this so told mum not to tell me!!!!!to keep it a secret from me,the solicitor who is a good one told me i had no need to be informed as mum had said not to tell me,no other relative was informed....sis has been granted lasting power o both medical an finances,an it is in mums will to say this.I WAS SO UPSET THAT THE SOLICITOR told me he was the other attorney an that sis would not be able to sign checks e.c.t without his signiture.they both have to sign together, it will be granted in 3 weeks time as i can gather,as far as i understand with taking advice it has all been done correctly.However my mum is wealthy an my sis has told me that she has the power not to let me in or even see mum if i upset her so id better be carefull,she has the POWER her words.MUM trusts her completly an doesnt realise what all this means,she just thinks sis can be trusted to see to her.MY PROBLEM IS I HAVE TO BE CAREFULL NOW NOT TO UPSET SIS she says,she has power to do anything she wanys all her medical care her decisions,money.I dont trust her but reading others storys tell me as we all know it will be all too late,when money starts drifting away,i find she prob cant sell house without other signiture,but she could give it away!!to her husband,is this correct i am worried an cant sleep.rant over thanks for your help

Errata

it will be granted in 3 weeks time as i can gather

I've tried to pick out the most important point; your post is a bit difficult to read and make sense of so thought this was the best thing to do.

You can lodge an objection if you wish to, but you must do it now before the POA is granted in 3 weeks time.

dzug1

Your sister cannot legally give away your mum's money - the power of attorney does not allow this.

That's not to say that it's easy to stop her doing so illegally or doing anything about it if she does.

Mojisola

You really need to put a stop on this. Apart from any other problems, the solicitor will be charging every time there is any work involved.

Get your own solicitor onto this immediately.

McKneff

You post would be much easier to read and much easier for us to help you if you can edit it.

Please put some paragraphs in it.

You could also go back and take out the caps.

money_penny_26

so sorry to upset you mc kneff i am just beside myself desperate for help an didnt expect an english lesson...no calm lass here now eh? not used to the computer,none of you have give me much response so far ..are there any compassionate folk on here.I will have to watch my grammer if i need help it seems. Now maybe some will come back to me that have been in this situation an be a little more less rude,whats the point of having a forum for help here???

Mojisola

You need to see a solicitor asap. This all sounds very dubious. Of course you have to be informed about a possible POA.

If your mother has Alzheimers, she may not be capable of understanding exactly what power she is putting in your sister's hands.

money_penny_26

please mind my grammer,i just have to say to the gentleman(sorry you could be a lady) please forgive me.I have just had an horrendous day an you have just made me cry i suppose it is the dam that burst just the last straw,the way you posted to me.I notice you have a lot of stars in your signiture,i imagine you post to people many times,how many have you made cry with cruel words,I have been hurt today with family members an i didnt expect that someone i cant actually see could hurt me again,but you have an i dont deserve that at the moment.I am a first time poster on this forum.I hope you sleep well tonight but you probably will.

money_penny_26

hey mate i am the ladys husband you have just upset she is hysterical in the bathroom how dare you upset someone like this.Yes she is a sensitive kind lady.I have watched my wife of 35 years go through hell today,you should be ashamed of yourself mate. Wish i could say more but i am not rude like you

alanq

Mojisola wrote: »

You need to see a solicitor asap. This all sounds very dubious. Of course you have to be informed about a possible POA.

If your mother has Alzheimers, she may not be capable of understanding exactly what power she is putting in your sister's hands.

If Mum had mental capacity when assigning POA then SHE decides who has to be informed. Relatives have no right to be informed. If Mum is still has mental capacity then she can cancel the existing POA and register a new one.

If Mum did not and does not have mental capacity, under undue influence or whatever then you need to object to the proposed POA. The permitted grounds on which to object are limited.
http://hmctscourtfinder.justice.gov.uk/HMCTS/GetForm.do?court_forms_id=2331

giraffe69

I am a first time poster on this forum

A first time poster with 337 posts! All you were asked to do was make your post readable so people could read it easily and perhaps offer advice. If you don't like a post (includung this) then put me or anyone else on ignore and you won't have to read them again.
Meanwhile have you got a solicitor? If not have you tried the CAB?