i need help i am upset please
in Over 50s Money Saving
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hi everybody i will rant on as i am so upset an probably dont know the correct terminology,my mum has stage 2 altzeimers,some days fine other days in cuckoo land..we have just winded up my late fathers estate which has taken 9 month.WE an i mean my sister i am the eldest by 10 years,we are both married.My shock came when we went to the solicitors to end my dads estate an everything has been left to mum,but i found out that my sis an mum have been going to the solicitors for the last 5 month to put poa in place for mum with my sister been the attourney.I HAD NO IDEA SIS HAS BEEN INVOLVING MUM WHO IS ONLY A LITTLE CONFUSED AT THE MOMENT ,SIS TOLD HER (SORRY CAPS)that she could take charge of her shopping an pay her bills an mum who had never heard of poa,thought this would keep my sis close...I FOUND OUT FROM MUM YESTERDAY AFTER VISIT TO SOLICITORS...KEEP KJNOCKING CAPS)that so i wouldnt be notified on the notification list as i would be worried about this so told mum not to tell me!!!!!to keep it a secret from me,the solicitor who is a good one told me i had no need to be informed as mum had said not to tell me,no other relative was informed....sis has been granted lasting power o both medical an finances,an it is in mums will to say this.I WAS SO UPSET THAT THE SOLICITOR told me he was the other attorney an that sis would not be able to sign checks e.c.t without his signiture.they both have to sign together, it will be granted in 3 weeks time as i can gather,as far as i understand with taking advice it has all been done correctly.However my mum is wealthy an my sis has told me that she has the power not to let me in or even see mum if i upset her so id better be carefull,she has the POWER her words.MUM trusts her completly an doesnt realise what all this means,she just thinks sis can be trusted to see to her.MY PROBLEM IS I HAVE TO BE CAREFULL NOW NOT TO UPSET SIS she says,she has power to do anything she wanys all her medical care her decisions,money.I dont trust her but reading others storys tell me as we all know it will be all too late,when money starts drifting away,i find she prob cant sell house without other signiture,but she could give it away!!to her husband,is this correct i am worried an cant sleep.rant over thanks for your help
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