should i let my ex take the children abroad

ambemakasa

that is a fair comment but surely it wouldnt be difficult for him to ask her seeing as they live together and to let me know

lazer

ambemakasa wrote: »

that is a fair comment but surely it wouldnt be difficult for him to ask her seeing as they live together and to let me know

No it probably wouldn't be, but you have probably annoyed him now by going tp the partner behind his back, so he is being stubborn

Anyway do you not have the information now - I thought his partner give you the dates?

Mrs_P_Pincher

Bottom line is this.

You only find out what you lived with all that time when you are not with them any more...Fact.

If you trust him, let them go.

If you don't trust him, don't let them go.

I have to say I trust Mr P implicitly, but he is !!!! at dates and won't use a diary, so I would have to factor that in.

Only you can call this one. If you say 'no', he can go to Court and get an order to say he can take them. To get that he will have to produce all his booking details. Then you'll have some protection.

If you say 'no', you will be the baddie, but you have to act in the best interests of your children.

Mrs P P

Make-it-3

I think OP you are allowing your ex to wind you up. Due to the nature of your relationship, he's being deliberately vague about dates and places because he is in control of this trip and is letting you know. The fact you went behind his back to check the date with his new partner has probably riled him. I don't think there is anything really sinister in the difference in dates you have been told. Most of the children who get taken abroad and not returned are done so by ex partners with overseas connections.

That said, I think its entirely appropriate that you know the address and contact number of where they are saying so you can get in touch in an emergency. And the dates from a purely practical standpoint.

Just be straight with him, furnish the necessary details or the kids won't be going and he can explain to them why he is spoiling their summer.

elsien

Maybe it's also to do with how you asked/checked up on him?
I have a relative who is in the process of splitting up from his wife - they are currently still in the same house and having 50/50 time with the kids over the holidays. He has always been a very hands on dad.
The wife takes the kids away, doesn't say where they're going or when they'll be back, and manages a couple of 5 minute conversations from them to him over the space of a week.
He has the kids for a week and is expected to provide a detailed itinerary, address and contact numbers (after he declined to allow her to go along to look after "her" kids) and she thought it reasonable to expect to speak to the kids for 1 1/2 hours morning and night every day.
It does seem to me that there are some double standards going on in this debate depending on whether you are the mother or father.
Now I realise that your situation is different, but my relatives back was put up by the way the demands were expressed and deliberately chose to be less co-operative than he might otherwise have been. He is their dad, he is a responsible adult with his kids, and resents the implication by the mother that he might be otherwise. Your ex may be feeling the same so you might get further if you bear this in mind.