Silly Dating Q

ItchyFeet

Any wrote: »

If an adult person wants to invite another person for a drink, they ask them. As simple as that. No taking friends out and hope you somehow gather the info that he likes you.

I agree with this, however he and my colleague aren't friends as such, they just went out on this one occasion (i suspect perhaps to ask about me). We don't normally have call to contact him, he just visits so i have only briefly met him on two or three occasions.

And as an adult person i would like to go out with him therefore i don't want to miss out just through pride or shyness.

SandC

Bite the bullet and phone him then - that is easier than face to face at least.

Aaaargh, I feel your pain though.

ItchyFeet

Thanks everyone. I think i will phone him tomorrow. I'll let you know how i get on...

Any

ItchyFeet wrote: »

I agree with this, however he and my colleague aren't friends as such, they just went out on this one occasion (i suspect perhaps to ask about me). We don't normally have call to contact him, he just visits so i have only briefly met him on two or three occasions.

And as an adult person i would like to go out with him therefore i don't want to miss out just through pride or shyness.

I didn't mean him and your colleague being friends... That doesn't matter, either way either he wants to take you out or not, there is no "So it's my turn to make move", it's only between you and him and not someone else passing information - that is what I meant.

Bite the bullet and ring him if you like him. Good luck! Fingers crossed.

martinthebandit

ItchyFeet wrote: »

Thanks everyone. I think i will phone him tomorrow. I'll let you know how i get on...

Ah, the good old 'put it off till tomorrow to give myself more time to worry myself out of doing it' solution.

Just ring the bloke up now, job done.

spadoosh

Do it!!

I normally try and imagine devils on my shoulder convincin me to do stuff, you have a forum full of devils tellin you you should do it, no excuses!!

Dr pepper!

revpeachy

Phone the reception where he works, ask to be put through to him and when the receptionist asks "who's calling?" You say his wife if she puts you straight through then the receptionist is used to his wife calling or if the receptionist hesitates/coughs/chokes/laughs you know he may be single!!! lol I'm just amusing myself with this answer!

Don't be shy, go for it, follow your gut feeling/instincts when you speak to him you'll know if he's hitched. Good luck

ItchyFeet

martinthebandit wrote: »

Ah, the good old 'put it off till tomorrow to give myself more time to worry myself out of doing it' solution.

Just ring the bloke up now, job done.

:rotfl:Yes, that about sums it up!

Well, i got tired of thinking about it so did ring him when i finished work but it went straight to voicemail so i think it might have to be tomorrow now after all.

VfM4meplse

Why don't you share your coffee break with him the next time he pitches up? That will give you the opportunity for a chat, and him the chance to ask you out, if that's what he really wants. And for you to find out for yourself if he comes with a wife attached.

ItchyFeet

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Why don't you share your coffee break with him the next time he pitches up? That will give you the opportunity for a chat, and him the chance to ask you out, if that's what he really wants. And for you to find out for yourself if he comes with a wife attached.

Hi, he lives in the area but doesn't come to our office very often so it could be some time before i see him again.

God, when it starts to get like this don't you just wonder is it worth the hassle?