The Matrix - Re-Evolution!!

Memory_Girl

Aesop wrote: »

If the school does not know how to teach and motivate and keep interested children with Aspergers or traits, they will not be able to keep DS motivated.

So the first thing is to talk to the Head, find out their experiences, etc and if they cannot help then I would go to the psychological services unit for help or SEN.

You do not want DS to get demotivated.

Can I ask how old he is please?

He is eleven years old.

MG

Helen105

Even if he doesn't have Aspergers he is going to find it difficult being a new and different kid in a school where everyone else has known each other for years.
I would do what you are doing ie speak to the school and make them aware there is a problem and then be as comforting and reassuring as you can out of school and try and make it easy for him to pick up a friend or two on his wavelength and then monitor the situation for a while.
It might be that once he makes friends things will settle down or it might be that it turns into a problem that needs more intervention.

Aesop

Memory_Girl wrote: »

He is eleven years old.

MG

Thanks MG, the SEN should be able to make a better diagnosis now. When they are 5 and under, they struggle to establish a diagnosis, but has he is older, and more verbal, and definitely knows what he is talking about, they should be able to help you.

Not all schools are equipped to ensure all children are able to be kept motivated and ensure their learning is kept up which is why you need to speak to the Head.

I agree with ThriftyScottlass about the dsylexia. DS may have a mild form of dyslexia, but even if he hasn't, you are going to get bumped up the list to get him assessed.

Good luck hun.

ClootiesMum

Re DS1 - I don't have children but my cousin's boy was kind of like DS1 in a lot of ways - he has joined karate & loves it & it has really upped his confidence. He enjoys the order & rules that it imposes and it is a "logical" activity - IYSWIM.
Also - is DS1 in a small school? it might be that the other kids in the class have known each other all their lives & if it's village mentality then you're an incomer until you've been there for at least 3 generations. I realise that this is of no help but it might help to explain to him that these other kids are a bit insecure and that's why they act the way they do.

just a couple of musings while I have a wee lunch break

but tell him - his matrix aunts know he's wonderful - & think how proud he'll be when he can show the class the magazine article on his Mum - or say - my mum was interviewed on Daybreak this morning !!!!

Aesop

ooh when are you going to be on daybreak and what mag please?

the reason I say speak to the head, some Schools have teachers that are trained in teaching kids with dyslexia and aspergers. They actually deliver their classes so it involves the kids, without anyone knowing that the class has been formatted differently and it really helps the kids, the other kids and the ones who need different tuition.

Memory_Girl

The school has doubled its roll in the last 18 months - so lots of "new" kids have arrived and TBH the Teachers are pretty darn hot on the whole bullying thing.

Head just been on the phone - Psychologist is in on Monday for a meeting so she will raise DS1 then as a concern to speed things up.

Karate not for him I'm afraid - physical contact is difficult for him ( apart from cuddles) and the tai-chi class is overrun with trendy pensioners - which although he found fun doesn't help him make friends of his own age LOL.

Band practice -again he is hanging out with grown-ups, ditto with his golf. See he is pretty social with adults!

MG

Memory_Girl

Aesop wrote: »

ooh when are you going to be on daybreak and what mag please?


NO telly yet - Clootie is pulling your leg. Women's Own is the 28th November issue which is usually in the shops the week before though.

the reason I say speak to the head, some Schools have teachers that are trained in teaching kids with dyslexia and aspergers. They actually deliver their classes so it involves the kids, without anyone knowing that the class has been formatted differently and it really helps the kids, the other kids and the ones who need different tuition.

Not his teacher I'm afraid - he is really at a loss of how to help DS1. He was so upset last night (his teacher not DS1)

MG

Aesop

Pleased Head has returned your call and it will be discussed on monday.

I don't think it is a bad thing that DS hangs out with adults, he is obviously finding their intellectual conversation better, than that of peers his age. I do think he will find his own friends though at this school but just may need some time to adjust and find them.

Will ask a friend for some info, he is pretty clued up on all this.

lionheartedgirl

Hi all,

Good luck to Marru for this afternoon - will be thinking of you.

coo-ee to Souk - hope all is going well.

MG, I'm so sorry to hear DS1 is struggling. My brother had a horrendous time at his secondary school with 'just' plain old not fitting in - as above 'just' doesn't really do justice to how big and painful that can be.

Fortunately he found a wonderful art teacher who believed in him and let him hide in the art room at lunchtimes

It took him until year 9 for everything that he had kept bottled up to come out as a quiet, sensitive, artistic soul he did not fit into a rugger !!!!!! school at all. As has been mentioned before, once he found a crowd of other similar souls he got on much better. He also reached boiling point one day and smacked someone so hard he was never bothered again, but even he admitted at the time that it wasn't the best way to solve the problem and he hadn't wanted to do it

I think school is hard for many, many people for a variety of reasons. The earlier you (and his teachers) are onto his struggles, the better he sounds a lovely lad and I was so hoping he would enjoy school.

I wish you all the best and I hope you can find some solutions

ETA - my dad suggested the physical stuff too - he tried Karate but hated it. He got quite good at fencing because he was small and light but when the rest of your class are into rugby, fencing was seen as a bit lame! (no offence to anyone who likes fencing!)

Aesop

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Not his teacher I'm afraid - he is really at a loss of how to help DS1. He was so upset last night (his teacher not DS1)

MG

at least it is not the trash mags! I belong to a support group and one of the members was approached by the trash mag, she gave information about the condition and her words were twisted and the story was told badly

ok, will put in diary to look out for it.

about teacher, teacher can be given teaching aids to help and if head agrees could go for extra training, that would benefit future kids.

got go, haircut free too