The Matrix - Re-Evolution!!

Horace

Greenbee - it is horrid feeling bleurghh but it will pass. As for friends then they will come and they will go, I tend to cut myself off from people too. Why should it be me that does all the contacting? I have learnt now not to let it bother me.

MG - you go girl. People can be quite fickle. My dad had is own business in the late 60's and during that time he and mum also managed an R&B band that did very well on the University circuit. We lived in a 3 bed semi (my parents still live there) and life was grand. We had loads of friends who would pop round - usually on the offchance if they saw a jag, mustang or whatever parked outside our house because they knew that some rock star or other would be paying us a visit. Not many people can say that Jimmy Page played guitar at their 10th birthday party or that Long John Baldry read them stories - such was my life at the time yet I never associated these people with their records or songs on the radio. This all changed one night - both mum, dad and the band were coming home from a gig in Winchester when my dad's car was involved in an accident - caused by two people racing leaving my dad nowhere to go but swerve to miss them. The car rolled end over end and my dad was flung out - he ended up 400 yards down the road. To say it was odd waking up in the morning to find my mum still in the clothes she went out in and her telling me that there had been an accident and dad was in hospital.

As dad was self employed and mum was his employee - all monies stopped coming in and I had to have free school dinners - that was my one hot meal a day (which I moaned about because in a snobbish way I thought I was like the poor family up the road) and mum worked on farms to keep a roof over our heads. Our neighbours would cross the road rather than speak to mum because how dare she lower the tone by wearing a dirty duffel coat. Some of the rock stars disappeared too unsurprisingly. I can remember one of dad's friends coming around every fortnight - he would bring bags of delight, he worked at Cadbury's and each fortnight he would bring around a couple of small brown paper bags filled with chocolate waste for me:cool: As for the band, mum continued managing them until the early 70's when they were sacked for not learning new songs and when you are spending the summer season in Jersey, you don't want to be hearing the same songs in the same order night after night. Although they were tough times, they were good times too because I learnt a lot.

Today, some frogs have been swallowed - my kitchen is a lot cleaner and I have gotten rid of a load os stuff. I have also listed some stuff on gumtree and re-done the advert that I did the other day. I need to clear the bank overdraft so that I can then have access to my account and maybe start earning some money because until that is cleared I am stuffed.

I have been trying to use twitter to get a job too but so far that hasn't worked but I am not giving up. I have decided to tell the jobcentre that I am keeping my business running as I have work coming in for next year which I do as I am being involved in something called Party for the Podium.

groatie_queen

Bravo, MG for speaking your truth, words which needed to be said, that kind of truth just bursts out and is like the Universe speaking! Truth can be harsh but necessary. And just maybe this particular woman may be shocked into re-evaluating her mindset! And you were the vehicle to maybe bring this about.

I'm in the 4th year of a tough experimental treatment, which totally flattened me for the first 2.5 years, had to go p/t at work, life became 3 days work/4 days recovery from work. Income dropped by 40% :eek:. As recommended by people already on my treatment, I wrote to friends explaining what I was facing and that I would be very grateful if they would be part of Team Groatie to give me encouragement. Two particular friends have been stalwarts, true friends in need, and others never responded and have faded out, there were some surprises. I often think of Mrs Moo's 'friends for a season, a reason' etc., and I have learned to bless these people and acknowledge to myself at least, that our time as friends had come and gone and passed its sell-by date.

I know from looking after my Mum when she had cancer, that different people have different capacities for dealing with life's slings and arrows. If you fit comfortably into their comfort zone, it's all well and good, but if not, they can't cope and they slide away. My sister was one of these - absent for the decline of my mother, my step-father, my step-mother, and my father. She just doesn't do caring for ill people - she hasn't got the capacity for it. It's like expecting the proverbial fish to ride a bicycle - it's aint going to happen!

Then there's the whole social thing of fitting people into pigeon holes, well my feeling is that we're about to undergo profound changes due to the passing of Peak Oil and economies based on petro dollars and funny money becoming more unstable. Much of the world's financial foundations are currently rocking, and who knows? In 20 years time, living a patchwork of local jobs and working co-operatively may be much more the norm, and what you know about MSE, OS and Matrix ideas may be seen as much more important than who you know, or which socio-economic boxes some daft eejit wants to squash you into!! :rotfl::rotfl:

Souk08

Lovely post Groatie X

Firewalker

groatie_queen wrote: »

changes due to the passing of Peak Oil and economies based on petro dollars and funny money becoming more unstable. Much of the world's financial foundations are currently rocking, and who knows? In 20 years time, living a patchwork of local jobs and working co-operatively may be much more the norm, and what you know about MSE, OS and Matrix ideas may be seen as much more important than who you know, or which socio-economic boxes some daft eejit wants to squash you into!! :rotfl::rotfl:

Groatie, the funny money you mention is technically called 'fiat currency' - but it is rather funny. It only means that most of our currecies don't have much behind them then political will and authority (or the lack of it as the case may be). Rather funny though, you are right.

As to the rest, I have been saying for couple of years now that traditional capitalism was damaged beyond repair. Two effects will be (very likely) the rise of cooperation (to replace competition) and the way of organising will be more lose networks (to replace strict corporate hierarchies.

We are already starting to see to 'return of spirituality' in its different manifestations so...no joke. The world may be going out way (or to be less 'big headed', we may have caught the front wave of an immense change). Let's run with it!

Firewalker

clairewop

Does anyone have a simple hat pattern, no ribbing just plain knit, beanie style?

tellmeitsfriday

try ravelry x

greenbee

Thanks everyone, I guess I've just been feeling a bit sorry for myself. Had a lovely day out - two friends came for a quick lunch of soup and bread, then we went out and met up my brother, SIL and nephew plus a few other friends for a couple of hours. I had a nice time but am totally exhausted!

Pea soup and stewed apple have been frozen. I really need to eat from the freezer again... Both of them appear to be full. Both loads of washing done today have been dried and are in the airing cupboard. Two more loads are sorted for the morning. I have a list for tomorrow, and will focus on tidying so that the cleaner can clean on Thursday. Must remember to send my dad's birthday card and tax my car.

Just finishing my glass of wine, then must have a bath before bed. I have lots of work to do tomorrow as well

MrsMoo2U

Great posts today. Souk with you on the organising. When I realised that was why it was Me doing all the contacting and why others weren't deliberately ignoring me it helped me to accept it a bit more. Greenbee, exactly I was feeling sorry for myself at the time. Nothing wrong with that sometimes. Especially as you are still recovering. Remember the Kubler Ross Change curve - where are you at on that following your treatment? Might help you to cope with how you are feeling if you understand that.

Gemmzie

Interesting posts today. I've been thinking a lot about friendships lately, particularly "friends" on a certain popular social networking site. Do I really want to be in contact with these people? Do they actually give a c*** except to nose around my life? It's really bugging me lately and I can't put my finger on what's caused the change.

milann

Yup - people cope in many different ways with their own and others fortune or indeed misfortune. I am lucky to have a couple of 'true' friends since my primary school days and I started secondary school in 1970 :eek::eek: we have shared many happy, sad, skint, sick and bereft times together usually surfacing with laughter after the tears I also have many acquaintances, but I know my true friends and they know me.

Wish I'd have been a fly on the wall when you told your so called friend some home truths MG.

The sewing from the charity shop sounds fantastic. When my dd was a teenager she 'needed' designer this and that - I used to give what I was willing to pay for non-designer and if she wanted brands she saved up the extra. Then........ she went to uni to do fashion design, and is now a designer in her own right. But it tickled me to bits - once she saw the costings behind 'designer' brands - she refused to buy them - she'd buy from charity shops and re-vamp all the clothes - not wanting to pay the prices!! LOL but it would have been ok when she was at home trying to get mum to pay :rotfl: