Help with working this out please

SavingPennies_2

I can't understand why he can't text? His father, assuming the story is true, wouldnt know who he was texting he could say he is texting a friend, and surely he could text or call in the evening when his father is asleep?

If he really is living with his father he needs to speak to him and tell him the truth.This relationship is going nowhere as things are, what is his father lives another 20 years? I think you have to speak to him and know the truth now.

copier_guy

+1 Married. Sorry

Can you find him on facebook?

whitewing

I'm forgetful but if I were seeing someone I really liked, I would remember the little details like where they live. So on that basis, I think this is probably an unhealthy relationship for you. Sorry.

Saturnalia

Sorry but I got the same alarm bells as everyone else heard. He's married (or has an "official" partner of whatever stripes), or even if not married, he's keeping 90-odd% of his life a secret from you for some reason* and that's not good news either.

Surely his dad wouldn't stop him having friends or girlfriends?!? I'd be sneaky and suggest you and your fella cooking a family dinner round at his, or maybe that it'd be nice for you both to take his dad out for dinner? (Shame Father's Day has been already, that would be the perfect excuse!)

*Although what that reason could be if not a proper partner, I can't even guess.

belfastgirl23

If you asked him whether he was married he might be able to honestly say no, even if he's been living with someone for years and has three kids.

I take it you've never met anyone connected to him in any way - brothers or sisters, cousins, workmates, friends? If that's the case then I'd pretty much say he's with someone else...sorry. But I think you know this anyway you just need us to confirm.

I'd ask to drop into his work with something or meet him at lunchtime near work and see what he has to say. Surely he has no need to hide you from his workmates?

Zoetoes

darlyd wrote: »

Is he in a gay relationship? (the mans voice?)

I would ask him if he is serious you want to meet his Dad. See his reaction.

Very good point! I hadn't thought of that one.

dibuzz

Sorry but I agree with everyone else, he's married or living with someone.
I'd guess the reason he can't take calls is because he has a separate phone for you which he leaves at work or switches off and hides, that way he won't get caught out by his wife or whoever if she gets hold of his usual phone.

RichGold

darlyd wrote: »

Is he in a gay relationship? (the mans voice?)
I would ask him if he is serious you want to meet his Dad. See his reaction.

That thought crossed my mind too.

SavingPennies wrote:

I can't understand why he can't text?

He might be spending from 5pm onwards gagged in the cellar wearing a gimp costume. That's the thing, you just don't know.

Either way there is something very wrong here. I wouldn't even have asked about it on a forum, in relationships if it doesn't ring true the other person is usually lying to you. You've already had 2 goes at this previously and nothing has changed.

tod123

dibuzz wrote: »

Sorry but I agree with everyone else, he's married or living with someone.
I'd guess the reason he can't take calls is because he has a separate phone for you which he leaves at work or switches off and hides, that way he won't get caught out by his wife or whoever if she gets hold of his usual phone.

I was speaking to a chap in the pub the other evening, his brother found his wife's secret phone, complete with 120 images of her performing various 'acts'.

It was a terrible business.

jamespir

he could be telling th truth he could be telling porkies dont let your self be played get out.... if you dont feel 100%happy