Help with working this out please

rachbc

If he was telling the truth I can't see why he couldn't call/ text later at night when his Dad is sleeping....or in fact at anytime -his dad wouldn't automatically assume his was in a relationship if he sent a text to someone would he - presumabl he has friends etc he also texts?

If I'd been seeing someone for 2 years I'm fairly certain I'd know their address by now...have you met any of his friends?

nickyhutch

I'm sorry, chick, but I think he's married/living with someone. My now OH was married (I knew) and he did come over just for coffee sometimes, and he also managed the odd sleepover. You've been seeing him for 2 years and don't know where he lives, haven't met any family and friends? Ask yourslef why.

Good luck (and a hug).

huxley

Hi, if you are unsure walk away, take care of yourself and your family first. Sorry if that sounds harsh but I watched my daughter go through this, he wasn't married he did have a steady girlfriend when he asked her out and was going out with my daughter for over a year even took her to meet his parents!! Only came to light when one of her friends met someone who knew him with a different girlfriend. He could only ever see her at odd times due to work or because his dad was ill being used like this has really affected her outlook.
Good luck what ever you decide.

tod123

Now said man doesnt answer texts after 5pm or at weekends

so basically, he only answers texts at work!

of course you are being played, the trouble is, you dont want to believe what you know is true, love does that to people.

CH27

Your intsinct is telling you something is amiss.
Trust your instinct.

JadedAngel88

I havent been with him for 2 years, it has been 2 years since we first met, The first time we were together was for about 6 weeks, I was in quite a bad place at the time and had bad depression and told him I couldnt handle the infrequent contact and I needed time to sort myself out, second time was for about 3 weeks, still was feeling crap so ended the 'relationship' again. I have asked him directly to his face if he was married and he said no, and I did look for the usual body language sign if someone is lying, but if he does this regularly he probably has that down to a fine art. I am always honest with people and expect the same from everyone else, this he knows, I prefer the truth to some sugar coated bull, hurts but get over it quicker. So I suppose I just have to wait till tomorrow now see what that brings, thanks everyone for your thought and opinions, it has helped me alot.

tod123

do you even know where he lives? have you ever been to his house?

Darlyd

Is he in a gay relationship? (the mans voice?)

I would ask him if he is serious you want to meet his Dad. See his reaction.

onlyroz

Whether he's married or not, I can't see this relationship going anywhere. If, after 2 years, you're no closer to settling down together than at the very start then I'd just let it go and move on.

Wilma33

Presumably you know the area he lives in. Put his name into 192.com and see if there is a house with just two men in with the same surname in that area. It often gives you an age range too so you should be able to work out if it's his dad or a gay partner. If you know his middle inital then that would help. Maybe bring up the topic of middle names next time you meet

Edit: In fact, do you know his dad's name? If not, ask. Then check on 192.com if there is a house with just those two people in with those names.

For what it is worth, it sounds like he is lying.