Anyone feel sad because their kids are growing up?

sock-knitter

i was happy for my sons to move out, as its what they wanted, and there was so much fighting between them, i looked forward to the peace.
i loved doing all the days out with them holidays etc, but much easier now, that i can spend time with one, then another day spend time with the other, as they still dont get on and like doing different things to each other
the house is too quiet now tho, and i miss them both so much, they've only be gone a month, so still early days

*max*

pigpen wrote: »

no, my mother hated her children as well

Offensive, and frankly, idiotic answer.

LandyAndy

*max* wrote: »

Offensive, and frankly, idiotic answer.

Is it? It just looks rather sad to me but I don't know pigpen.

zaksmum

*max* wrote: »

Offensive, and frankly, idiotic answer.

Thank you max. Couldn't agree more. Just somebody trying to be clever and failing miserably.

shopaholic2

I feel exactly the same op, my daughter is 15 next month, and she is so lovely! She is kind,sweet, helpful,patient,caring...gets on with everyone, never says anything bad about anyone, and she has always been like this.
When she was at primary school there were many times the mother lioness in me came out, and i would almost rip off the heads of the witches at school who upset her!! Thats her only down side, if it is one, she is NOT a !!!!!,and simply cannot understand nastiness.

When she was born, my GP said,"treasure every day with her, they growup very fast and it's gone before you know it". I feel like that conversation was yesterday :-(
Sadly, when she was 17 months old i was diagnosed with Non -hodgkins lymphoma and spent 6 weeks in hospital, away from her, and almost 2 years fihghting the illness and subsequent infections etc, so i feel i missed out on alot.

Anyway, here we are, she's almost 15 and i swear i can't remember what happened?!!

My son is 9, and he is, of course, my baby, BUT he is a different type of lovely!!
If i could go back in time i would have her as a baby again, but not him, cos he NEVER slept!!!!

jess1974

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

The older my son got, the better I liked it....I don't really enjoy doing things with small children.

Phew thank goodness for this post i feel exactly the same .......

*max*

LandyAndy wrote: »

Is it? It just looks rather sad to me but I don't know pigpen.

It was clearly a dig at Zaksmum (whom I don't know either!), as if her being glad to have some peace after her kids have flown the nest means she hates them. I found it completely out of order, couldn't help saying something.

zaksmum

Thanks max. As if I could ever hate my kids! What a ridiculous thing to suggest.

SallyUK

I had my son first (almost 19 now) and I cried my eyes out as soon as he was born, because I dreaded the moment he had to start school! I was the same with my daughter, now 15, I wanted them with me all the time.

Even now, I would give anything to go back and do it all again. I wish they were small again.

My son wants to go to Uni in September too and has never lived away from home before (not for long anyway, just a week or two here with school) and I'm dreading it, even though I'm trying to put a brave face on for his sake. Deep down though - I'm heartbroken. I can hardly bare to think about it and especially when the moment comes for us to drive him there and leave him!

Sal
x

FatVonD

I have lots of pics and a bag of baby clothes, first tooth, etc, etc but then nothing much from when my DS started school. I have a few pics from the last couple of years (since DH bought me a new camera) and, like you, the missing years make me sad

DS will be 14 this month too and, even when he's at home, I only really see him at mealtimes and I miss him even when we're in the same house! We try to do something together one night a week (cinema or meal out.) I waited a long time for him, I wish I could go back to day one and do it all again

*another that cried at Toy Story 3*