Anyone feel sad because their kids are growing up?

tanith

My family are grown and have lives of their own but it doesn't stop me hiding a tear in my eye everytime my grown up son who lives and works abroad comes to London for a few days and always comes home on Sunday for mum's roast chicken . If you let them go they always come back.. I'm lucky that both my girls have given me wonderful grandchildren that fill our lives with joy..

Jinx

I'm not sad my daughter is growing up as each stage is different and I see it as a result of all mine and my familys hard work... That said I blub when I leave her (she at uni miles away) after visiting and she sighs and gives me a row - but I know that she secretly likes the fact shes loved and missed! lol

tankgirl1

My dear DS is only 5 (and three quarters as he keeps reminding anyone who will listen!) at the moment, but I too already miss my teeny tiny prem baba sleeping all snuggled in my top kangaroo style, miss his funny words that he got upside down and back to front when he was learning to talk - it sends him into fits of giggles now to tell him that he couldn't say orange - he said inj-onje instead

I don't take enough photies of him - will have to rectify that! We do have a very special door jam(?) though, where we measure him every few months, mark it with a sharpie pen and date it - its scary how much he has shot up! We also have the rest of the family on there, and if we ever move I'm afraid I would have to risk the landlords wrath and pull it out and take it with us:o

Anyway he promises, and has put it in writing (lol) that when he is growed up and married with babies he will look after his old mama and come and see her every single day to give her monkey hugs and kisses:D

Can I keep him at 5 and three quarters forever please?

mum24boys

Iv just dropped my 3rd son off at pre-school for his last day as he is starting reception in September. Im sitting here crying my eyes out because i dont want him to start school. They change once they have started school and i feel i have lost my baby. I want to go back to the start and do it all again. Iv still got my youngest at pre-school for another year but he has severe health problems so is deferring a year so wont start until 2013 but im still upset. I feel iv spent too much time wishing they would hurry up and get older when they were very little and hard work (i had 3 boys under 4) that now its here and they are growing up i want to start again. Iv kept every painting, picture and cards they have ever made and our loft is full but will make a lovely trip down memory lane in 20 yrs time for me and DH. I wish i could keep my boys the age they are now 6, 4 and 3 because iv got a 15 yr old and know what is coming. My eldest is not the same lovely little boy i had but a smelly teenager with a bedroom that resembles the tip and an attitude to match.
Being a mum is the most wonderfully frustrating, exhausting, funny time that covers the entire spectrum of feelings and emotions over the years. I love it and never want it too end. I think im going soft.

affordmylife

ok thanks everyone. im weeping silently into my coffee now. i miss my kids so much im having a really hard time accepting that they are growing up.

those of you whose babies are still small enjoy every moment cos its is over so much faster than you ever imagined. much love xx

minimacka

I have two gorgous boys 14 and 18, and i so miss making plans for things to do in the holidays and at weekends, we used to do lots of things when they were little, parks, beach walks etc and now they are busy doing there own thing and i find it really hard. The 14 year old will still come down to the beach and walk the dog with me but the 18 year old is busy with g/f and doing his own thing. I say to everyone with small children to make the most of them whilst they are young, because they soon grow up.

x

rachbc

I've been thinking about it and you know what - no I'm not sad that they are growing up - its right and good and proper that they are growing up, turning into their own people, stretching their wings and all those other cliches. It would be way worse if you didn't get to see them grow up.....

My Ds is 13 and though a total PITA !!!! sometimes he's a great kid. DD is 4 and off to school in spet - I may well blub on the day but she is more than ready for the next exciting stage in her life.

LittleMissKitty

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Every time when I look at them playing.

Now I try to organise my life a little more consciously - plan more great memory's. Have yu thought about the marble exercise?

http://itcanbesimpler.com/2011/06/time-is-fleeting/

MG

Thanks for that Memory Girl! You've just made a grown-woman cry like a baby :rotfl: I'm a complete mess when faced with these kind of discussions. I have four between 6 and 12months and I'm not sure I've stopped yet but I cannot handle the idea of them growing up at all. I'd get a bowl of marbles but every time I saw it I'd be useless until I'd had a stiff drink and I don't want to risk alcholism! Someone needs to invent a pause button......

zaksmum

Soooo...is it only me, then, who was quite happy to see the kids grow up and leave home so I could finally have a bit of peace??????

gratefulforhelp_2

NHE I am sitting here with baby on knee, feeling sad that DH has said three is enough...even though I know he's right.

There's one thing though, about the kids growing up...the alternative is unthinkable. xxx

eta also blubbing over marbles!