Anyone feel sad because their kids are growing up?

Gillyx

pigpen wrote: »

My son is 19 and been seeing this girl since February.. it isn't ideal..

I'm sure he will be delighted but will worry about you for the next 100 years! lol.

I think he already does, every phone call is "look after yourself" not sure what he thinks I get up to here...

Me and my OH have been together for a while too, I'm not even that young!

I am his baby though I suppose I'm sure I'll be the same one day!

Gillyx

NearlyHadEnough wrote: »

I think you'll find that as soon as he lays his eyes on his grandchild, he'll be absolutely besotted. It's a grandparent's JOB to spoil their grandchildren - I for one am looking forward to being a Granny, though hopefully not for another while yet!

Congratulations, by the way.

Thanks Ah I know he will be, he spoils me rotten, so I wouldn't expect anything less from him. He's my favourite person in the whole world.

mrs_marty

OP I get moments like this, mine are only 8, 5, and 9 months. Eldest DD is blooming into a stunning young lady and I really would like to know where she came from, Im sure she was just 4 and cute the last time I checked, my son starts school this year and Im really not sure how we got here so quick and as for little boo, well she has gone from being my tiny babei in my arms yesterday to trying to work out this walking malarky.

I have a step daughter of 17 who goes to uni after this summer and her Dad is NOT handling it at all.

If anything this gives a kick in the necessary place to go get the several memory cards in various things developed

Thanks

NearlyHadEnough

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Every time when I look at them playing.

Now I try to organise my life a little more consciously - plan more great memory's. Have yu thought about the marble exercise?

http://itcanbesimpler.com/2011/06/time-is-fleeting/

MG

It's a wonderful idea though I in present weepy state maybe seeing how small the pile of marbles is will set me off again!

I love the idea of creating more memories though.

Bitsy_Beans

NearlyHadEnough wrote: »

As for Toy Story 3 - cried my eyes out (in the cinema) at the boy leaving for college. And him giving away his toys. I've kept some of my kids' toys, they are in the attic waiting for the grandchildren.:)

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:rotfl: My kids were watching this yesterday and oh my I wanted to sit and sob at how heartbreaking it was that he'd grown up and was saying good bye to his toys and his childhood and moving on to becoming a man. I blame having the kids.......I swear I was hard as nails before having them :eek:

NearlyHadEnough

Ada_Doom wrote: »

Its very bittersweet them growing up, isn't it? A while ago I was talking to a group of other mums and they were saying that they all had little momento boxes with their kids first tooth, babygro and stuff like that in. I felt really bad, as I have never done anything like that. I am not very sentimental over objects and so never thought of doing it. But I felt like a bad mother, although only for a bit. As someone else has said, I have lovely memories and photos.

I would add that my dear Mam died two months ago, and my unsentimentality meant I had not kept any cards she sent me, which I now bitterly regret. I would love to have some of her writing still.

For some reason, I am great at keeping cards and things. I've kept a lot of school reports and bits of writing and other things like that as well. I always keep cards from my Mum - I'm a sentimental and nostalgic sort of person I suppose.

I was NOT very good at keeping a diary of when my children walked, talked, got their teeth etc.

What I do know is that I spent as much time as possible with them when they were growing up, I always took them to school, picked them up, was always here after school and gave them as many fun times as I could. I think they would say they've had an idyllic childhood.

I'm just sad it's gone really. I would love to go back and do it all over again.

NearlyHadEnough

affordmylife wrote: »

the others are 20 21 and 22. i miss everything about having them all at home. even washing and folding millions of pairs of socks and cooking for england. id do it all again in a heartbeat.

Me too. I'd even repeat the times when they were driving me mad, squabbling, and failing to toilet-train according to my specifications.

balletshoes

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

:rotfl: My kids were watching this yesterday and oh my I wanted to sit and sob at how heartbreaking it was that he'd grown up and was saying good bye to his toys and his childhood and moving on to becoming a man. I blame having the kids.......I swear I was hard as nails before having them :eek:

Pixar films generally just destroy me - my DD goes to the cinema with me to watch them, and knows to look at me instead of the screen at the sad bits - so she can see me cry :eek::rotfl:. I was sniffling through quite a bit of the end of Toy Story 3 - and was bawling my eyes out near the start of Up! Good job the cinema only had about a dozen folk in it that time!

Sweet_Pea_2

I'm so glad that it's not just me. All my friends can't wait for their kids to leave home, they go on about how they are in their twenties and show no sign of moving out. Mine are 15 and 12 and I want them to stay with me forever, lol (just joking, I would like them to move out and produce grandchildren, but not for a while yet) For the last two days they have bickered and given me attitude and been general pain in the bums, but life will be so quiet when they move out. I suppose I should count myself lucky that DD1 at 15 still wants to come shopping with me and DD2, I suppose she will be too busy going out with her mates instead soon. Only they wont carry the bags and pay for the stuff.
I also suffered from a terrible bout of runny eyes at toys story 3.

NearlyHadEnough

Sweet_Pea wrote: »

I'm so glad that it's not just me. All my friends can't wait for their kids to leave home, they go on about how they are in their twenties and show no sign of moving out. Mine are 15 and 12 and I want them to stay with me forever, lol (just joking, I would like them to move out and produce grandchildren, but not for a while yet) For the last two days they have bickered and given me attitude and been general pain in the bums, but life will be so quiet when they move out. I suppose I should count myself lucky that DD1 at 15 still wants to come shopping with me and DD2, I suppose she will be too busy going out with her mates instead soon. Only they wont carry the bags and pay for the stuff.
I also suffered from a terrible bout of runny eyes at toys story 3.

I guess I might be a bit peeved if I still had a house-full when they are in their twenties. Even now sometimes I dream of living entirely on my own, so that when I walk into the sitting-room, it's exactly as I left it - not scattered with shoes, socks, assorted cardies/hoodies, empty yogurt pots, and glasses of water. I have raised a family of very nice slobs.

Both DDs come shopping with me but we do tend to split up for a while and do our own shopping then get back together for a Starbucks (guess who pays!).