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He's decided he's going to cry and not settle, i've had to turn off the monitor and turn up eastenders as I struggle to hear him cry, been up once and calmed him down, but as soon as i left he started again. Typical he normally goes down so well in the evening, its the daytime he's awkward, he's waited until he knows DH is out all night and i'm on my own with him and tired too.

Sorry about all the moaning, got to offload somewhere.

Js_Other_Half

If its any consolation Bailey, I'm sat on the pc trying to ignore my DS frantic screams from his room...
I've gone back in twice to rescue him from being wedged sideways in the cot, face down - the sheet was soaked with his tears...

I think he's ready to give up now!

cha97michelle

bailey - i know exactly where you are coming from. I am feeling shattered too, and i know it is from going back to work too, but i think mostly from the pregnancy.

Charlie has been ill since Friday with a chest infection, and started throwing unbelievable paddys. He keeps throwing himself back and i am nearly dropping him, so i am trying not to react and just put him down on the floor at the minute as i am hoping he stops doing it when not ill.

You have made me think about the self-feeding. He's done finger foods for ages and that is messy enough, but i think i should do a spoon soon too, as i will want him to feed himself well by the time the baby is here.

I was thinking about your nappy changing through the night dilemna. With young babies, particularly breast fed ones, they tend to have a bowel movement at every feed, so i found with charlie i changed him when i 1st got him up, and then fed him and would often need a 2nd change. This time i will probably go for after feed only.

As for not disturbing anyone, i seriously suggested to DH that we have separate rooms for a little while after the birth as we were both like zombies for the 1st few months, whereas we could take it in turns sometimes to have a bit more sleep.

And dream feeding - a whole new one on me, i hadn't heard of it before but i think i will be trying out that one some point soon.


I really hope you feel a bit better soon. I am just hanging on for not feeling/being sick. That is the hardest bit at the minute as Charlie was trying to climb up the toilet to see what i was doing so i was stopping him doing that while trying to look after myself. And i briefly fell asleep on the sofa while he was playing, and he came up to me and whacked me on the face.


I don't remember it being this hard last time and it must be harder us having to do so much for the little ones, and i am in the same boat as you as DH works long hours - so rarely there for bedtime. And it will only get worse between now and xmas.

Anyway, take care, and feel free to PM me if you want to whinge to someone in the same boat.

Michelle, x

purplepatch

Are we all watching Bringing Up Baby on Channel 4?

:eek:

Close the bedroom door at 7pm and that's it until morning, if they cry ignore them. Well, there we are ladies, that's where we're going wrong! :rotfl:

That woman must have seriously good earplugs!

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And a heart of steel!!! I can't do it for too long, i've got better but i'm still getting anxious when I hear Jack getting to that hysterical pitch and i know his face is wet with tears.

Thanks Michelle and to everyone else who responded this eve. Eventually I had to go up and cuddle him to almost sleep, it was 8.30pm and i hadn't eaten and no chance until he was asleep. I just feel like i am not coping.

I called DH at 9pm and asked him to come home, he said he would so hopefully he'll be here soon as i've spent the last hour crying and sobbing about how inadequate i feel and how its only going to get worse when there is 2 of them.

I've made myself cry again typing this so i think i'd better stop as i don't know whether my runny nose is the cold now or crying so much.

Tomorrow we try again.........?

PS just turned over to channel 4......"leave the baby in the garden for 3 hours with the back door shut" (!!!!!!) and "I don't see why anyone should want to pick up the baby all the time, they should be left alone to grow!!!" Glad i'm not in the 1950's raising Jack.

purplepatch

Awwww, hugs Bay, don't beat yourself up. As you say, tomorrow is another day...

You will manage with 2 - it won't be easy, but you'll get there and find what works for you. Try not to worry, I know easier said than done, but you've got to look after yourself and not stress yourself out too much.

And as for that coldhearted Claire mentor on that programme, well, really, what is the point of having babies if you're only going to pick them up to feed them every 4 hours, make no eye contact, hold them away from you when feeding so they don't get too cosy and fall asleep. Ooooooh, I wanted to punch her :mad:

Snaggles

OMG if I left Natasha in the back garden someone would steal her pram - they obviously don't live where I live....lol....well, not lol really, more like :eek:

purplepatch

Her name's Claire Verity and if you google her there's plenty of irate people ranting about her! Funnily enough, she's not a mother herself. I think she's missing the point that people who have children generally want to love them as well as raise them :rolleyes:

For those who didn't watch, she advocates no cuddles or eye contact, plenty of fresh air, including sticking baby out in the garden in the middle of winter, on their own and a strict regime of feeding every 4 hours, waking them if necessary. She makes Gina Ford look soft!

Anyway, I'll watch the rest of the series with interest to see which mentor's method gets the best results. Basically there are 6 couples with newborns, 3 experts with different parenting methods, each of them mentoring 2 couples for the first year of their baby's life.

System

Hi! New to this thread, ds born on 11th sept. Was wondering if anyone can advise about sticky eye pls? He has had it for i think at least a week and shows no sign of clearing up. Washing it regularly with cotton wool but don't know at what stage I need to start worrying/ask advice from hv/gp?
tia rachel

SusanCarter

Congratulations rachel! If you're concerned about it, I'd take him to the doctor as they're the experts. We've taken Alice to the doctors twice (once for a non-blanching rash and once for her eye) and both times it turned out she was fine but the doctors were fine about it and said that we'd done the right thing to check.

That woman on Bringing Up Baby was scary! I haven't seen all of it as I taped it but caught a little bit and I was quite shocked. I know that everyone has different ideas about how to do things and am quite happy that other people use methods which I wouldn't use but that is about ten steps too far. It's like why have a baby if you don't want to cuddle it or let it have any influence on your life whatsoever?