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Doormouse, I could never dreamfeed Jack either. I know we are different as he is bottle fed, but I had a friend who baby would dream feed but I could never ever get Jack to suck a teat whilst asleep, so your not alone.

Re weaning I waited until the recommended 6 months to wean Jack and he still wasn't waking in the night for food (he dropped his night feeds by 4 or 5 months). He just wasn't that bothered at all and would refuse anything I offered him. By 7 months I was getting worried as he was still getting anzy about food and I was being told I'd lose the window of opportunity (9 months) if I didn't get him to start eating more of a variety, he'd only go for fruit and yog. So I stopped the blue pot slop and started giving him our food mashed up with a lumps but slightly runny and then we were off. Now he has our food, finger food or our dinners and its just a knife and fork job through them. He eats well and generally enjoys feeding himself. I haven't been brave enough to let him loose with a spoon but I know I must soon. Anyone else braved this yet. I want him to start feeding himself but I don't want bowls on the floor or spoonfuls of food in his hair or on the walls......inevitable I know. I have got one of those tommy tippee magic mats but have found i can't make anything stick to that. even the non slip bowls do move, Jack is very strong.

I'm waffling sorry.

Jack's diahorrea has cleared up now so I guess is another bout of teething without anything to show. He still has a runny nose and today I feel like I've got a cold, runny nose etc.

I can't get over this tiredness I feel, sometimes I just cry because I feel so tired. I thought it would pass by now as I'm in the mid trimester but I just feel that this is it now until well after the baby is born and in a sleeping routine. Other people seem to be coping much better than me or so it seems on the surface. I am not anemic as i've been tested for that. I am sure its just the combination of Jack being very active and asserting himself and starting to get a slight case of seperation anxiety and being pregnant.

Did anyone else feel like this with subsequent pregnancies?

Night all,

Bay

daphne_descends

Hello mums!

I wonder if I can ask for advice - I'm 37 weeks pregnant and trying to get ready for the baby - and I'm having a dilemma as to where to put the baby's moses basket - I know this sounds so trivial but I just don't know where is best.

I was planning to put it next to my side of the bed, but this is very close to a wall and I've read that it shouldn't be next to a wall (any idea why?!)

What did you do?

Thanks for any advice you can all give

purplepatch

fac73 wrote: »

Hello mums!

I wonder if I can ask for advice - I'm 37 weeks pregnant and trying to get ready for the baby - and I'm having a dilemma as to where to put the baby's moses basket - I know this sounds so trivial but I just don't know where is best.

I was planning to put it next to my side of the bed, but this is very close to a wall and I've read that it shouldn't be next to a wall (any idea why?!)

What did you do?

Thanks for any advice you can all give

At first I had my DD in a moses basket by my side of the bed... by the wall! And then when she outgrew the basket, we moved the cot in until she was six months, also by the wall... and window! Not sure what the no wall rule is about, that's a new one on me. I used to love having them so close to me that I could just reach out and touch them in the night... very reassuring.

purplepatch

Bailey, I didn't get the tiredness thing in either of my pgs, obviously very fortunate. I think it helped that DD1 was 3 when I was preg for the second time though. I'm sure if I was pregnant again this soon after having Izzy, I'd be a complete zombie, I feel knackered enough without being pregnant!! Hats off to you girl...

Becles

SusanCarter wrote: »

A question about weaning for those who've done it: When they need to be weaned, does it happen suddenly with no warning or do they show gradual signs of needing to be weaned? Just wondering as we're away visiting my husbands parents the week before Alice turns six months and I have visions of her suddenly waking in the middle of the night while we're away.

I've just started weaning Charlotte and she's 20 weeks old. She's started crying and wanting to be up at the table when we are eating, and is very interested in the food on our plates, and also started waking slightly earlier.

I've only been doing it a few days, but she has a bottle around 5pm and then a few spoonfuls of baby rice and fruit puree. She's really enjoying it and even wanted to hold the spoon herself tonight! She's back to normal sleeping now - 8.30pm-7.30am.

It's hard to say why, but you just feel it's the right time to make a start.

Becles

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He eats well and generally enjoys feeding himself. I haven't been brave enough to let him loose with a spoon but I know I must soon. Anyone else braved this yet. I want him to start feeding himself but I don't want bowls on the floor or spoonfuls of food in his hair or on the walls......inevitable I know.

Sorry to bring bad news, but you have to let him feed himself and put up with the mess. They need to expermiment with textures and sometimes that does mean squashing a bit of banana through your hair!

Best thing to do is to buy a cheap shower curtain or a plastic tablecloth and put the highchair in the middle of the floor on that. That should save your walls and floor. Make sure you have plenty of wipes or flannels handy, then just let him get on with it!

My HV mentioned a child who would never play with playdough, paint or sand/water etc., at nursery. This was because at weaning age, anytime he got a spot of food on his face etc., it was wiped off immediately. He then thought it was naughty to get dirty or sticky, and wouldn't join in the messy activities.

Snaggles

I haven't heard that you shouldn't put a moses basket by a wall, but i wondered if it came from the days when houses weren't heated and the exterior walls were extremely cold?

SusanCarter

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I can't get over this tiredness I feel, sometimes I just cry because I feel so tired. I thought it would pass by now as I'm in the mid trimester but I just feel that this is it now until well after the baby is born and in a sleeping routine. Other people seem to be coping much better than me or so it seems on the surface. I am not anemic as i've been tested for that. I am sure its just the combination of Jack being very active and asserting himself and starting to get a slight case of seperation anxiety and being pregnant.

Did anyone else feel like this with subsequent pregnancies?

I've only had one pregnancy but I was tired throughout the whole pregnancy. I was sleeping about 14 hours per day and still felt absolutely exhausted. They checked my iron and it wasn't that low (although later on it did get low enough for iron tablets) so they just told me it was probably something I would have to put up with (not really that helpful). The only thing I can say is that even if it does last throughout the pregnancy (and I hope it doesn't), it will go pretty quickly when the baby is born. I improved so dramatically when Alice was born that I actually did more household jobs in the week after she was born than in the month before she was born.

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Another bad night Jack kept waking up with his cold and I found it hard to sleep too due to a runny nose, my back being strapped by the osteopath to help my sciatica and generally being uncomfortable. Spent quite a lot of time awake tossing and turning. :-(

We are the snot house at the moment, I'm blowing my nose every few mins and wiping Jacks in between, although he hates me doing it and whinges, wriggles and protests. I'd have thought he would appreciate having the snot tramlines removed but apparently not.

Had a bit of spotting overnight and into this morning too, so off to see the MW this afternoon. Trying not to get too worrried as its eased up now but I didn't have spotting with Jack this far into the pregnancy.

Re letting Jack start to feed himself is he the right age to do so? Some people have said to me he is a bit young yet, but I'm thinking if he has 4 more months of practice he would hopefully get quite good at it before No.2 arrives. I also read yesterday that babies should be given a baby knife and fork after 1 years old, so now i'm wondering if I have left it too late. Its so confusing I am sure rearing a child wasn't this complicated and full of do's and don't in my mum's day.

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Another question I have for parents of 2+ children. Last night in my state of wakefulness I was mulling over how to change and feed the baby without waking Jack up. He is a light sleeper and does stir with noise even though we've tried not to tiptoe around him. Some people say once their child is asleep they could poke them or move/lift them up and they wouldn't wake. Jack has never been like that from the word go.

So I am thinking how to deal with this scenario. Its 2am, baby wakes and needs a change and feed, Jack is in the room next door. Do I change the baby who will be crying the whole time till the milk is served, which will inevitable wake Jack, leaving me 2 children to sort out (how?) and then do the milk? Or do the milk first and then the change, by which time the baby is most likely to have fallen back to sleep and be woken up by the change.

I think we stopped changing Jack in the night when he was about 3 months old as I thought you had to change a newborn nappy at least every 4 hours day and night.

I know I sound like a right worry guts but not having done this before and Jack is really my first experience of childcare, I want to get it right to be as undisruptive to Jack and DH during the night. I know its because the age gap is so close it worries me, whereas if he was 2+yrs, I would be able to reason with him to go back to bed or feed himself etc.

PS. I am sure there will be plenty of what do I do if questions in the next 4 months too.