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Becles

I did mean MS work. I do a bit of merchandising and auditing work too.

However, I wouldn't say no if something else popped up :rotfl:

Mazcabs

Chance would be a fine thing with us... I was going to go out for local pub quiz tonight but after starting with a bath at quarter to 7 DS has finally gone to sleep and that was after me singing to him...he was so tired but wouldnt give in, constant screaming and crying for no reason and would keep opening his eyes to check he wasnt missing anything.
OH is knackered and I'm just not in the mood now except for coming on here and havinga moan. I wouldnt mind but had about hour and half nap today...

New research says more prone to PND with boys and I can see why!!

Sorry needed to moan at someone not involved

Lu_T

Moan away Mazcabs! Have you tried just letting him cry it out? I know it sounds mean but it worked really well for us. We would very rarely pick her up either, just place a hand on her chest or patted her so she knew we were there. Just a thought...

JillD_2

hi
I haven't even lurked on here, normally am over on OS board (hi Michelle :wave:) but wondered if any of you can help.

I have a 5 month old baby, she's my 3rd so I should know what I am doing by now but I am struggling with her nights.

She is breastfeed, we have started solids as well but very slowly so I wouldn't expect those to be helping in terms of sleep.

She is in a cot in her own room, in a grobag, and has a dummy.

This week she's been waking avery hour or so and settles either with a feed or the dumy. She also hasa nasty cold and a bit of a cough. She had been ok at night - waking for one or two feeds and then settling back down quite well.
I can't work out if she's waking more cos she isn't well, or is she just addicted to the dummy and waes up in light sleep cos she becomes aware of having lost the dummy ? We are totally shattered from getting up at night, its like the first few nights all over again.
I don't want to just leave her, I think she's too young.
I don't feel ready to commit to controlled crying until she stops being ill, but medium term I'd like to do CC to get her off the dummy.
As she is BF I dont have the confidence at night to not feed her as I havent a clue how much shes had in the day.

Should I just let things go as they are til she is over the cold, and then do CC to get her off the dummy ?

Does anyone have any ideas ?
Thanks
JIll

SusanCarter

I'd probably wait till the cold's gone. We've ended up with Alice in the sling for all daytime naps thanks to a cold. Have you tried Medised/Night Calpol/Calcold? We've been using it at night and it's really helped as she's still sleeping okay for night sleeps.

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I'd wait for her to feel better too, CC isn't recommended if they are ill. Have you read Toddler Taming by Christopher Green, its my bible and recommended to me by my HV. Its for 1-4yr olds but a lot of it can be adapted to under 1's which we have done. Your library may have a copy or you can get a cheap one off ebay.

I went to the docs on Wednesday as I was getting so weak and he took a sample as Jack was with DH's parents I spent the rest of the day on my parents sofa. Arrived home with DH and Jack did and went to bed. At 1.30am I was still having D&V and thought I was going to faint. So DH called Susdoc and a doc came out to us at 4am and sent us to hospital. They put me on a drip and kept me in until last night. I feel so much better for it, finally the D&V stopped, I'm eating again and have more energy. I can't believe that a day on a drip can make such a difference. DH reckons its because fluid was getting into my blood stream and being absorbed rather than my stomach and being elimiated.

No signs of her arriving yet apart from 2 very small red shows and that was 48 hours ago, get period pains but that is nothing new and braxton hicks but again had those for months, so we are still waiting. 40 weeks on Tuesday!

Right must go, dinner to see too. Have a good weekend all.

Becles

Glad to hear you are feeling better bailey. You sound more positive today.

Charlotte has learned to say "dadadada" and has learned a really evil sounding laugh :rotfl:

She's currently playing with her new "toy" - sitting banging a wooden spoon on a Roses tin. Why do we bother buying toys? :rolleyes:

Js_Other_Half

DS had his optometrist appointment this week - no problems so they'll see him again in another 4 months. Anyway, that prompted me to mention it on here.

Both DH and myself have lazy eyes, hence them keeping an eye on DS. We only got him into the system because we (OK - I!) made the HV aware of it at his 7 month check. I just thought I'd mention it here - if you've any reason to be concerned about their eyesight - either family history, or something you've noticed, ask your HV for advice or a referral.

Apparently a lot of squints don't appear until around 18 months, but the sooner they're dealt with, the less likely they are to cause problems in the long term.

Bailey - glad to hear you're feeling better

cha97michelle

thanks for mentioning that about the eyes. I have been wondering about charlie recently. I have a lazy eye, but only mild and when i am tired or indulged in too much alcohol. I have noticed charlie's seems a bit lazy when tired, but i debated with myself whether or not to mention it to the health visitor. I think i might next time i see her, but that might not be for a good few weeks yet as i will be at work and unable to get to baby clinic.

I suppose it is worth it just from the point of view that there will be a note of a concern in his baby book and if it gets worse as he gets older he will be referred quicker.

Jill, Nice to see you here. Sorry - no advice about dummys. Charlie had one for a bit, but i took it off him when he started nursery at 10 months because we felt he was getting too attached and wanted it all the time. It was the best thing we did, as so many of the other kids have them on the floor, and it seems really unhygienic how they pick each others dummy's up and use them until the staff notice. Rather not thank you. It depends on how fussed your DD is really. Charlie is so laid back that he has gone through lots of swaps like type of mil and changes in routine without fuss. We tried to get him off the bottle when he turned one and he wasn't willing to do that then, but then we tried him again this week as we didn't want to be sorting out two lots of bottles with the new baby, or have him wanting the baby's bottle. This time he did it without any fuss. Nothing stranger than children is there.

Bailey someone else recommended that book to me. I may have to try and get hold of a copy of it if i can. Particularly for any advice on how to stop sibling rivalry.

Anyway, off for my dinner now.

Michelle, x

tsstss7

i I used to be a regular on the pregnancy boards but had to give it up for a while as I had a few mares with my lo (mostly to do with bfeeding as my lo was in scbu for just long enough for feeding to not be properly established when he was newborn).

I now have a beautiful 3 1/2 mth old and finally get some time to myself! (although I am still working on the bfeeding - mixed feeding at the mo.)

JillD wrote: »

hi
I haven't even lurked on here, normally am over on OS board (hi Michelle :wave:) but wondered if any of you can help.

I have a 5 month old baby, she's my 3rd so I should know what I am doing by now but I am struggling with her nights.

She is breastfeed, we have started solids as well but very slowly so I wouldn't expect those to be helping in terms of sleep.

She is in a cot in her own room, in a grobag, and has a dummy.

This week she's been waking avery hour or so and settles either with a feed or the dumy. She also hasa nasty cold and a bit of a cough. She had been ok at night - waking for one or two feeds and then settling back down quite well.
I can't work out if she's waking more cos she isn't well, or is she just addicted to the dummy and waes up in light sleep cos she becomes aware of having lost the dummy ? We are totally shattered from getting up at night, its like the first few nights all over again.
I don't want to just leave her, I think she's too young.
I don't feel ready to commit to controlled crying until she stops being ill, but medium term I'd like to do CC to get her off the dummy.
As she is BF I dont have the confidence at night to not feed her as I havent a clue how much shes had in the day.

Should I just let things go as they are til she is over the cold, and then do CC to get her off the dummy ?

Does anyone have any ideas ?
Thanks
JIll

I think it is likely that the cold has disrupted your lo feeding and so she is needing to feed more frequently to make up for it. This happened to my lo at 5 weeks and was the main reason why lo is still mix feed as I had gone to pure bfeed and his cold stopped him being able to bfeed properly and took us to hospital with weight issues.

He now has another cold :mad: and the same problem has occured but the one at 5 weeks did enough damage that I had to stick to mixed feeds anyway so this time I just upped the formualr feeds to compensate (easier to get bottle down him when he has a sore throat).

If this is not the problem and it is the dummy popping out as you suggested I 'm not sure how you would go about solving that. My older ds did this at 18mths and I didn't hesitate to get rid then as he was getting way too old for it anyway. It is a right pain fishing around under a cot at 3am for a dummy!! :eek:

so I bribed him to get rid of it. (new toy bought with dummy currency) and after a week he had forgotten all about them (he's not so easy to [STRIKE]con [/STRIKE]manage now I can tell you!).