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MadDogWoman wrote: »

Hi Everyone,

BTW I'm thinking of either the Quinny Buzz or ICandy Cherry - any opnions welcome.

MDW

Hi i have got the quinny buzz and i think its really good but i cant see how it becomes rear facing? my DD is just younger than yours and loves to go in it!


but the cheapest place i found it was Mothercare and it was £150 (ish) her dad paid half, but it will last up till she is 4 so i mustn't grumble!

HTH

Js_Other_Half

MadDogWoman wrote: »

Hi Violetta,

That's a brilliant idea! I received a catalogue full of baby/kids skiing gear in it from with my Gymbabes magazine - I'll have to hunt it out though as my mum has been round tidying and organizing me today.

MDW

We have babybanz for DS - he was great about wearing them when he was younger, but fights a bit now...

http://www.babyzoop.co.uk/gear/babybanz.htm

Violetta_2

Think I saw the baby banz in Boot's but might not have them this time of year , I bough my dd's pair for 50p in Primark so I wasn't too bothered if she didn't wear them, glad you didn't think I'd lost it MadDogWoman.

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Hi everyone, haven't got long as jack going to wake soon.

quick post i think, sorry not read anything beforehand so apologise if this has interuppted a flow of posts.

Just need to vent as I am really upset this morning. Crap weekend, my nan died last night, found out a week ago she had cancer when she went to hospital for something else and went so downhill in a week so quickly. I'm trying to be strong for mum but i feel low in myself.

DH and i weren't getting on for a few days then we talked on sat and got down to the real problem. He was in tears and said he hates life at the moment, hates his job, feels really low and like me is unsure about how we are going to manage another baby. But he has been bottlin things up and is now quite depressed.

I managed to get him to agree to go to the docs and take anti--depressants if they are prescribed, but I am worried he will play down how he feels once there and put his usual front on things. I offered to go with him but he's "unsure" which means no thanks.

He doesnt like the winter anyway, i've often wondered if he has a mild form of SAD, and i've been giving him St Johns Wort since September, but its not worked obviously.

Fortunately jack has been sleeping at night lately, so that is one thing. I haven't i am so uncomfortable at night now, so I am tireder and tireder.

I feel so down and low in myself today and trying to hide it as trying to be strong for DH.

He wants to change his job, but there is nothing closer, (less travelling is what he needs) that pays the same, we can't afford a drop. I've looked at how we can reduce our outgoings etc and done as much as I can. I've offered to sell the house and get something smaller to elimate the mortgage, but he says he loves our home, a great location, 2 mins from my parents and close to town. He doesn't want that. I've offered to get a job, but he prefers me at home until I want to go back or until the children are a bit older.

He needs to get his CV up to date, but due to how he feels he hasn't got the momentum or inclineation to do so, not something I can do for him, as I don't understand IT etc. I just want to make it all better for him and I can't.

Unless this newborn is super baby, we are just going to get so tired and that makes us all feel worse. I reckon she will come at 37 weeks, i'm getting braxton hicks all the time, uncomfortable and she is head down ready to go like Jack. We have got to be ready for that but we are not. Weekends just dissappear and i haven't packed a hospital bag yet. I am waiting for my newborn/0-3 clothes to be returned so I have some clothes for her. DH is leaving all the preprations to me as he doesn't know what needs doing, it happens around him, like it did last time. Meanwhile we have xmas and new year in between and a funeral possibly on the 27th.

Vent over.......sorry.

Snaggles

I am so sorry about your Gran, Bailey. xxx

My hubby went to the doctors for exactly the same reason - I really thought he would get there and say 'everything's fine', but in actual fact he was really honest with her. He has been described anti-depressants, although I have to push him a bit to take them. But they HAVE helped him, which in turn has helped me, because I'm not constantly having to try and pull him up out of a mood, when I'm already stressed out myself.

Have you got a list of what you need in your hospital bag? I can post mine if it would help?

Lu_T

Hi Bailey

So sorry about your Nan. My grandma died a couple of months ago and it was a difficult time. I'm sure your mum would be fine with you showing some emotion, even though she will need your support. Big hugs to you. :grouphug: :grouphug:

Sounds like you're having a pretty rough time, although talking about it with OH is the first step to making it better. I hope you can both sort things out. Have you got someone to talk to? My HV has been great and I've had a few home 'listening' visits to get stuff off my chest. She said it's what they prefer to do before sending you off to the GPs (I know you can't take your anti-depressents at the mo'). Perhaps another perspective will help and someone neutral & outside the family to vent to without any consequences might help you feel things are more manageable?

If there's anything else we can do? I am sure I could rustle up some template CVs for OH to PM you if that would help?

What about other ways to earn like mystery shopping? There's a good forum on here about what to do. When you're in a routine with the 2 LOs it could be a good way to get out and earn some pin money. It doesn't pay much but might just help supplement stuff and give you something to be doing. Just an idea.

SusanCarter

So sorry to hear about your nan Bailey. :grouphug:

I think men aren't as good at talking about things so they wait until they feel really bad before they say that anything's wrong. My OH keeps talking about getting a different job (just last week he was on about Royal Mail as he's enjoying the change of working there at the moment) but I'm sure it's partly just the "grass is greener" so I just remind him about the things he likes about his usual job. Having said that, he's been talking about finding something else ever since I've known him (about five years) so may be different to your husband.

If you are concerned about the GP appointment, you can write to the GP although I would suggest it would be best to get OH's agreement to this first. Also, if he finds it difficult to talk, he can always write a note to hand to the GP when he goes for the appointment rather than having to explain it verbally. I know my OH once did that when he felt he needed help but didn't feel he would be able to explain it when he got there.

Glad that at least Jack is sleeping better. :T

Becles

Sorry to hear about your Nan bailey. I know it isn't any consolation, but at least it was quick and she didn't suffer much. Will be thinking of you over the next few days xx

You sound like you could do with some couple time. Is there anyone who could have Jack for a night and give you some space just to chill out and talk?

You'll be all over the place with the hormones and it's natural to feel like you're not going to be able to cope with things. I did when I was expecting Charlotte and I can remember going through a short phase where I didn't want to have James at all! Hubby will be having similar feelings and also be worried about being "pushed out". I know you won't intentionally do this, but it will be a worry for him.

Hope things work out xx

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

Hello all....unfortunately i havent had the chance to read all of the posts (too many for my little amount of time at the mo)

My heart goes out to you bailey. Keep strong and know she is watching over you in comfort and is no longer suffering. Cry if you need to though as you should never bottle it up, i still cry about my nan after so so many years!
I know it doesnt sound like it at the mo - im sure hubbie will pick up once he sees his little bundle of joy. You really need to get him to turn his thoughts around to be a little more positive - even if it only with little things at first, once he realises things are maybe not so far out of reach as he thinks he will gradually pick up....( haha, this is coming from someone who suffers from depression, seems to run in my family, but i dont take the medication, i just wake up every day with the intention of beeing positive all day - it works for me but i do still have my bad days - like when i wish i could just run away and no longer be a mum and ''wife'' and just start afresh, but it soon disapears as i have learnt how to get over it myself). Im not saying its easy in the slightest but it can be done.

As for his CV you could sit with him and together write all the details that need adding in brief on a peice of paper - then he just needs to merge this in on his CV. At least it will be a start as it can all seem daunting to begin.

Big hug sweetie!!!! x

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Thank y ou everyone for your replies, wasn't expecting so quick!

Thanks Snaggles, I do have a list for the bag its just making a start, by 26 weeks I was all done with Jack!

Lu T, thanks for that idea about mystery shopping, its something I did pre-Jack with Gapbuster, but i found their site not very user friendly and the choices were very limited. Maybe the thread you mentioned might be different, I could certainly bear it in mind when I get 5 mins to look through. DH started to update his CV a few months ago, but then it got put back in the drawer. TBH, he just needs to get his finger out and get on with it, he is procrastinating, which is not much I can do about really. He is admits he is doing this because even though he does want another job, its better the devil you know where he is, basically scared of change! In case he walks into something worse, I guess and I can understand that fear.

Susan, your idea about a letter is a good one, I might mention that to him this evening. DH has also been talking about changing jobs for the last 2-3 years, we've been together over 5.5 years too.

Becles, I find myself thinking along similar lines to what you've said at times. I'm sure its fear of the unknown. My parents did actually have Jack for us Saturday night. The original plan was for them to have him from 3.30pm as we were going to the cinema at 4pm, then home for a takeaway and cuddle up on the sofa before I go to bed at 9.30pm. Then they were going to keep Jack until after his lunch on Sunday. Due to my parents visiting my nan on saturday, we didn't go to the cinema, but Jack did go at 6pm, and I popped around to advise on a couple of things so it was 7pm when our evening started and boy, did it go quick. Went to bed at 10pm. But because I'm not sleeping well now, I didn't get the benefit like DH did. Jack came back home early so we could take him to DH parents so we could all visit my nan, unknowingly for the last time.

Even though it wasn't quite the time out we'd planned, it was better than nothing and was the last chance we got before this baby is born. DH parents can't have him overnight due to their disabilities and I don't want my Mum coping with Jack on her own, my dad is away on and off during January.

I am currently waiting for Mr Pickle Pants to fall asleep then I will do the same, I am so tired, my eyes are stinging me.