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Bitsy_Beans wrote: »I don't know the in's and out's of your life BUT the key word here is highlighted. Your PAST. Not your present or your future. Is dragging past baggage with you helping you at all? Perhaps friend from 6th form didn't know what to say and took the chickens way out and ran. Who knows. Are you going to add this to your baggage to carry around? As for no work, family or relationships......so what. The fact that you've got none shouldn't be a reason to be an emotional vampire. there isn't any need to change your looks, but it might be worthwhile changing your outlook.
Sorry to pop in when I don't normally post here, but I felt that I had to reply to this...
Reverbe, I have read your posts over a number of years and I have to agree with Bitsy Beans. Whilst I can sympathise with the circumstances you have described, in all of your posts I have never, ever read a positive comment from you.
Perhaps now is the time for change? Could you find one positive thing to post about tomorrow? I am sure that the lovely people on this thread would welcome it and support/encourage you to find other positives in your life.
This isn't a criticism and I hope that you'll take it in the way it was intended. I wish you all the luck in the world in finding a happier life.
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pink winged then you are clearly not reading the countless posts I post in daily pleasures etc etc..What Would Bill Buchanan Do?0
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I dont think comments against Reverbe are justified personally. I sometimes find it difficult to "get my mind around" how things must be in Reverbe's life - but it IS her life and her decision as to how best to deal with the circumstances in it ultimately. The one thing that is clear to me from the other side of a computer screen is that we (none of us) can see the full facts as to how things are.
We only get a glimpse of someone/anyone else's life from the other side of this bit of glass called a computer screen and there WILL be huge gaps in understanding sometimes. If someone has lived a very different life to ourselves - then we often won't "get where they are coming from". I know I find this myself sometimes - ie that though I am woman I have (had to) lead a more "masculine" lifestyle in many ways....not my choice...but thats how its been and I've got on with it. From that - men usually understand me better than women do in SOME respects.
We have all led such different lifestyles - and it IS very often the case that we have different opinions and do different things in similar circumstances because of things to do with our lifestyles that arent our choice (but we've done our best to make the best of them...).0 -
Ceridwen did you read the rest of the discussion here? Reverbe was feeling down about the fact that she didn't feel able to be honest with people in her personal life about her circumstances, and invited comment on that. Sometimes people on here astound me. Particularly you.
Reverbe, I know you are very matter of fact about how your life has turned out, but there is no shame in wanting more than you have, sometimes its the journey to our goals which shape our lives, rather than what we find when we reach them.It's what is inside your head that matters in life - not what's outside your windowEvery worthwhile accomplishment, big or little, has its stages of drudgery and triumph; a beginning, a struggle and a victory. - Ghandi0 -
I think that comment about "particularly you" was unwarranted personal comment...and not acceptable fair comment.
The fact that I have made a comment sticking up for a particular poster does NOT mean that I have gone "Open season - make a comment against me back".
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I think that comment about "particularly you" was unwarranted personal comment...and not acceptable fair comment.
The fact that I have made a comment sticking up for a particular poster does NOT mean that I have gone "Open season - make a comment against me back".
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oh i would say that you have gone"Open season - make a comment against me back
reverbe posted knowing she would get advice and she choose to ignore. nobody is being nasty. no need for anyone to be sticking up for anyone.
please note"I have learnt that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one""You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”Maya Angelou0 -
I think it is fair comment. People on here astound me sometimes. Particularly you. I am not saying anything offensive, just stating fact. Please noteIt's what is inside your head that matters in life - not what's outside your windowEvery worthwhile accomplishment, big or little, has its stages of drudgery and triumph; a beginning, a struggle and a victory. - Ghandi0
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Late one from me - suitcase packed; Chinese takeaway eaten; power cut lived through (no need for candles but we had them ready!); white wine drunk; bull**** ignored and thanks be to higher powers given.
Night all0
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