To alll marrieds (smug or otherwise)

GracieP

I guess two and a half. I had my first boyfriend at 16 and another at 21, both of whom I was certainly "in love" with. The first guy was in retrospect a deeply unhappy person who used to take his insecurities out on me and made me into a very insecure person by the end of our relationship. The first was a really nice guy and we're still vaguely friends (facebook, send birthday/christmas cards, etc). We're less so since he recently got drunk and indicated he wishes he could turn back time and have us stay together. He looked so sad and wistful that in spite of being pee'd off on behalf of his wife and child, that I felt very sorry for him. Mainly as the suggestion that I might share the opinion that our lives would have been better together was so off-the-wall to me.

Then there was "the half" when I was 20. I'm not honestly sure what the deal was with this relationship. I don't really feel like it happened to me, more like a relationship I read a book about, and I doubt I'd recognise him now if I sat next to him on a bus. I just barely remember any of it, or more correctly I remember it intellectually I know it happened, many of our dates and little jokes, I remember that we told each other we loved each other and I remember crying myself to sleep when we split up. But I can't feel any of it as I have very little memory of him. :huh:

I also had a number of boyfriends that never went anywhere. We dated for a few weeks/months but never especially clicked and then split up. There was also a guy who I was mad about and we kissed once and it was incredibly romantic, a real "film" moment, but he was emigrating so nothing more happened and by the time he got back I was living with my husband. Though I'm very, very glad about that as I still know him and can guarantee we'd have been one of those couples who never fully clicked and would have split up sooner rather than later.

I met my husband at 23 and we've been together for almost 10, incredible years. The last few especially have been the making of us as he was seriously ill for almost the last 3 years and very nearly died 18 months ago. It's been a huge strain and there were honestly a few times that we both feared that even if he recovered our marriage might not. But he (and we) have gotten through it and are looking forward to the next 10/20/80 years ahead.:D

patchwork_cat

Quite a few boyfriends as a teen, only 1 serious, before met DH at 20, been together 25 years and married 23 years now.

*Louise*

Famale, age 32

Dated a couple but nothing serious: met OH at 17, got together when I turned 18, engaged at 19, been together for 14 years now and have 3 children. Didn't get married until just after my 30th birthday.

Kimberley82

I got married at 18, I have 3 serious relationships before that

hamsterfan1

I've been married for 23 years (almost half my life) and I had one serious relationship before I met OH

Plans_all_plans

26 year old woman, been married one year. My husband is 28. I had 2 boyfriends prior to getting married. I was with one for 2 years and one for 11 months. I was 'in love' with the man from the 2 year relationship, but I never wanted to marry him.

I was with my husband for 4 years prior to us getting married, but we never lived together beforehand. Neither of us had lived with anyone else prior to getting married either.

soccermom

4 serious boyfriends before I met hubby. I was with a long time boyfriend when I met him, but I knew instantly I met him that I would marry him (really ) so I broke it off with my then boyfriend.

I married him in 1992 we have 3 sons and celebrating our 20 year anniversary next year.

I am 43 hubby is 45.

spikyspiky

make_me_wise wrote: »

The bit I have made bold made me chuckle. Thought you might be female seeing as relationship with 1st bf resulted in a son and relationship with 3rd bf resulted in a daughter. Would have been a mean feet to pull off if you were a bloke

This is true, I didn't think of it like that lol :rotfl:

Torry_Quine

Kimberley82 wrote: »

I got married at 18, I have 3 serious relationships before that

How could you have had three serious relationships before the age of 18, you must have started very young.;)

Kimberley82

Torry_Quine wrote: »

How could you have had three serious relationships before the age of 18, you must have started very young.;)

Yeah I did, I had already lived and been engaged to someone else before I met my husband, lol didnt waste any time