To alll marrieds (smug or otherwise)

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Been married 15 years and together 21 years. I was 21 when first dating. Was first longterm relationship for me although had had a previous relationship which was significant to me in that was heartbroken when over even though the relationship only lasted a few months.

SingleSue

I'll do my parents....

Neither had had a serious girl/boy friend prior to meeting, mum was 15, dad 17 and they married at age 17 and 19.

They celebrated 51 years of marriage last month.

For me, a few semi serious relationships...a little more than fly by night ones but not enough to say I couldn't live without them. Met now ex husband at age nearly 17 (he was 21), married at age 19 nearly 20 (he was 24, nearly 25) after living together for 2 years (we dated for a 14 months before moving in together)

Many very happy years followed until he got bored, became controlling and eek (I blame his change of medication) and our divorce came through after nearly 17 years of marriage (20 years together).

jcr16

um, ok hard to remember. this will be confusing ( it is for me)

i guess i would say T lasted a few months, lived together on and off from about day one of meeting each other, relationship sort of fizzled i met R, wow he was my everything, but we were also so so bad for each other. our entire realtionship i think was built on lies. but when we were together it was brill. over about a 2 yr period we were on and off, neither loyal to each other. but somehow everytime things went bad with a new partner i ended up being back with R.

i wanted to marry him, he wanted to live together but we never ever were ready for any sort of commitment. i was 18 and he was 25 ish ( i think,long time ago) he had a little boy with someone else born 2 days before i met him and he never told me. like i say it was just bad from the start, but he had some sort of ability to just make me melt and believe him. but we are still friends and it made me realise what i didn't want in a relationship,lol.

then i met S, spent about 9 months together. had fab time, looked at a house got on really well and then one day it was over. neither of us knew the reason why or what happened but it just was, strangly i wasn't upset or anything.

then met M, got engaged he was younger than me and although good fun, and had a laugh he just wasn't for me, so spilt up after a couple of months.

got back with R :rotfl: and i kinda knew that although i ' loved ' him, there was something now i was seeing that i didn't before. i was seeing all the things that didn't add up. then one day at his house i found out he'd been meeting up with somewhen when meant to be working away. ok so neither of us had be loyal to each other, but it was the one thing that made me open my eyes i think. I choose then to walk away, very very hard.

he called me all sorts, then went to being really nice turned on charm. it was hard but i stuck to saying no more. Then i met Ri, He was a giggle, R hated me with someone else so tried his best to win me over. but nope.

Then quite by accident one night while out on a girls night , Ri, wouldn't pick me up ( i was far too drunk,lol) so i called a friend he came to pick me up, with him was O. omg we hit it off instantly.

within a couple of days we were together, he left his Fiancee( it was a bad relationship he didn't want to get engaged but was forced into it, she aborted their baby and then told him not his played horrible mind games ), i spilt from Ri, and it has been a complete fairytale ever since. ( no cheating, no lies, no distrust) That was over 10 years ago now. we bought a home, got joint bank accounts etc all within weeks of meeting each other. got engaged and married 14 months after meeting. He truely is my sole mate. my one true love. he is everything no other relationship was to me. this has been my longest realtionship and i don't plan on being with anyone else but my hubby. he is my best friend, my everything.everythign i thought marriage and love should be and a whole lot more.

part of me wishes i'd not tried so many frogs before i got my prince and i never planned to, i kept hoping with each new chap that he was the one but nope. but then you can't change the past , and certainly having so many failures made me reaslie when i did find my one true love i wanted to grab hold with both hands and never let go. we have just celebrated our 9th wedding anniversary and our 5th baby is due in 30 days times. HE is so the right one for me and i him.i love him with all my heart. i am 29 and hubby is 30.

sorry if anyone got lost,lol.

puffinmuffin

Two, first one for for 2.5 years at uni, we grew apart as we got older but are still friends 10 years later. The second for almost 6 years, got a mortgage, talked marriage but it never quite happened. I will marry OH in March after 3 years together. I wil be 33, him 32.

Molly41

I had one other (resulting in DS1) before meeting my Kids Dad. They are as different as chalk and cheese, but my Kids Dad is my best friend and I think that is what has made us work. With my ex it was love and lust!

lostinrates

Female. two longer relationships, quite young (yearish each )then also couple not living together but intense, and some very seriously fun relationships. .

DH an I met in our early/mid 20s.

This makes me uncomfortable phrasing though:

VfM4meplse wrote: »

found someone you couldn't live without?

I have an excellent marriage and love dh more than I thought it possible to love a person, but I could live without him. And could have made it work with someone else. I do not believe in ''the one'' and its WANTING to be the relationship rather than feeling the need or addicted and dependent on that is a cause of many unhealthy relationships.

I could live without dh, but equally I'd die for him! strange concept I accept.:o

LadyMorticia

I'm female and 24. I'm not sure if I'd call the relationship I had before DH as serious. When I was 20-21 a guy lived with me. He was 25. He was controlling and emotionally abusive and at the time I thought I loved him, but in hindsight I was just scared of him and needed to feel loved (which I didn't). He eventually left and went back to Ireland (he booked flights to go back and see his mum and then when he landed, text me to tell me he wasn't coming back. A blessing in disguise to be honest).

Anyway, I count DH as my first proper serious relationship. We met online in 2007 on an arts website in the forum part. We started talking on MSN and then decided to meet in 2008. Discovered that we really liked eachother and started dating online. We met a couple more times and I bit the bullet and moved in with him and his family in February 2009. We were engaged in August 2009 and married in October 2010. We will have been together for 3 years in November.:)

jcr16

i agree that is bizzare saying , someone you can't live without.

i could live without my hubby, but it a simple case of i don't want to. i want to be with him. i am with him becuase i want to be his wife, lover, best friend , partner, mother to his children. i'm not with him because i need him.

shellsuit

Just the one.

We had 2 kids, were engaged and together for 5 years. I was 17-22, young, naive, stupid and foolish!

Met my husband when I was 26 in 2002, we had a baby in 2009 and got married Oct 2010.

RubyRue

For myself (32 female) I had two serious relationships before hubby and deep down knew neither were right but didn't see it at the time... hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Met hubby at 29, got married when I was 31 and now coming up to our one year anniversary next month.

As for my parents, they met in their late mid 20s (worked together), got talking at someones leaving do, went on a date together the next week (probably the longest date in history!) at which by the end of they decided they were going to get married and move to South Africa where my dad's job was moving to. 3 months later they were married and on their way to Johanesburg. 30+ years later they are still going strong and loving their retirement together.