To alll marrieds (smug or otherwise)

emsbet

I'm female aged 30.

I had two previous relationships - one at 19 that lasted about a year and one at 25 that lasted 3 years (the last year of which was a nightmare!).

Met DH when I was 25, we got together two years ago and married in March this year.

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nzmegs

Been married for 11 years, together for 13, met aged 26 - female

three major relationships before. One for three years from age of 17, one for one year from age 20 and one for three years from age 22. I was a serial monogamist.

*BigBird*

2. First for 4 years (which was about a year too long, tbh). Second for a year, but it was on and off.

Met DH when I was 30, I'm 36 now. We've been married nearly 2 years.

kirwell81

Female 29
Been together 7 years married for 2
1 serious relationship before meeting DH.

mummyofboys

Had one relationship from 15-18 met my now husband at 19 and married him at 23 , were both 24 and have twoboys.

JodyBPM

I'm female 38.

First relationship was for a year at 15-16. Felt so "real" then, but was probably just typical stuff for children of that age really.

Then next bf I was with from 16-21. A very long time at such a young age, but I changed a lot at uni, and although we are still really good friends, I honestly don't think we'd be compatible at all as long term partners now we are adults. I think very fondly of him though, as the boy I "grew up" with.

Then a quick 6 months or so with someone who was very nice, but it never really got off the ground really. Probably a bit of a rebound thing from the relationship before.

Then I was with someone for 2-3 years ish in my early 20s who I lived with and got engaged to. It all went pearshaped when we got engaged really, he was (and still is) a lovely boy, but once we got engaged I spent a lot of time thinking about what our future together would be like, and honestly I would have had to have carried him all the way, financially, emotionally etc. It would have been a nightmare if we had children, because he was still a bit of a child.

Then I got together with my DH when I was about 25. Had known him for years as part of the wider "group" of friends, but had never known him that well. We got engaged and moved in together at about 28, married at 30, had DD at 31 and DS at 32, and we are still happily married now. Married 8 years, been together about 13.

I never just "knew". In fact, because we had known each other so long before getting together, I was frankly taken a bit by suprise! But we work well together, and I've never been happier. I'd say the secret to our success was probably a bit of being such good friends, a bit about being so similar in our upbringing and therefore attitudes and outlook, and also, TBH, a little bit of right place right time. We were probably the right age to be serious, and to know what we wanted by the time we got together. Had we become a couple at 18 or 19 would it have worked out in the way it has? Who knows!

Very unusually, I'm friends with all my significant exes. They're all nice guys, just weren't right for me!

kettlefish

I'd had two that I'd class as proper boyfriends before meeting DH. One was my first boyfriend who I went out with from being 15 and lasted 18 months (about a year too long!) and one was a not-so-serious boyfriend of about 9 months - I think being honest we just enjoyed each other's company and mildly fancied each other!

I was DH's first girlfriend.

I met DH when I was nearly 19 but unlike others on here, I didn't just "know" - at first I found him quite scary (5 years older, first observed bellowing swear words during a football match, very big and beardy to my 5'1" and smiley) but he wore me down eventually :rotfl:

We married shortly after my 21st birthday in October 2009

Oldernotwiser

I married my first husband when I was 31 and before that I'd been engaged twice and lived with another couple of people. I divorced and remarried when I was 34 and we'll have been married 25 years next year.

ramblinghaggis

26 year old. Had two serious relationships before marriage (as in living together, engaged).

carolan78

I had one disastrous relationship before meeting my DH. When I met DH I didn't expect it to last as we had both recently split up with out partners. Her we are 11 and half years down the line with 2 children oh and I am female we were both 21 when we met.