Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

tomorrow

I hope he finds it helpful, and that you find it helps brighten the light at the end of your tunnel atm.


re doctors, both dh's siblings are Dr Rates ATM, and his father still gets post for Dr Rates, though its decades since he was one of them. They all use the same postal addresses for various reasons and there is often fury when the intials were not made clear or legible and someone has opened someone else's post.:D DH's mother kept her own name.

Road_Hog

Generali wrote: »

My belief is that US public education ranges from bad to awful! I'd be glad to be shown to be wrong.

My view of the Americans (having travelled extensively to the States), is that a kinder way of explaining it would be to say that they are not worldly. They seem to be very self (America) centric.

However, on the flipside, I'd say that the majority are lovely people, who have a sort of innocence that we have forgotten over here.

Without going into details, I was in the States a few years ago, arrived that night, and had a meal and beer (with wife) at a diner and because of our useless bank (Abbey/Santander) neither of our cards would work.

Over here we'd probably have been hauled away by the police, called by the restaurant staff. A quick explanation to the staff, that we were staying in the Holiday Inn across the road and we'd be back in first thing when the bank had opened, to pay the bill, was more than enough to satisfy them. No accusations, no hassle, no ID required, just a, we'll see you tomorrow, don't worry about it.

neverdespairgirl

Barristers almost always keep their maiden names. Your name is very important as your publicity.

A lot of older women barristers used both - so my pupil mistress was Miss Smith at work and Mrs Jones in the rest of her life. She had bank accounts, cheque books, etc, in both names.

I don't fancy that at all. Too confusing. So I'll stay Miss NDG even when OH and I finally do tie the knot.

In addition, OH's surname is impossible to pronounce and spell. OH and Isaac are stuck with it, I'm not (-: And it would go terribly with my first name, too.

But more than that, NDG is me. It's who I am, and I don't want to change it.

We do get called Mr and Mrs OH a lot of the time, and it doesn't bother me at all.

zagubov

Wheezy wrote: »

Is dog-dog's leg completely healed now?
Saturday we took westie to Ockham Common, next to the A3, near RHS Wisley where he found a muddy ditch, you know...with that pitch black mud, like unrefined oil. Of course he thoroughly enjoyed trampling in there and we ended up with a grey dog. It was quite hilarious, I'll post a piccy when I can. Definitely a candidate for the dirtiest westie ever.

I know Ockham too.
But if there's mud, I'm definitely not taking our cairn there. He rolls in bad enough stuff as it is.:eek:

misskool wrote: »

I've kept my name mainly because I like it and I use it for work.

I'm also Dr Kool as I've worked for it to be like that.

There is also too much bother in changing names for your day-to-day life.

DW has always been Dr non-zag at work.

neverdespairgirl

michaels wrote: »

How does the name thing work legally? Mrs michaels married me but remained Ms not-michaels as we were selling her house at the time and it just seemed easier but legally does the name change automatically on marriage? The school find it very confusing as the kids are little michaels's so they tend to send letters to Mr and Mrs micheals but everywhere else official she remains Ms not-michaels.

No-one's name changes automatically on marriage, but if a woman decides to change from Miss Smith to Mrs Jones, the marriage cert is enough, without needing a deed poll.

In fact, one can legally be known by any name one chooses, so long as it's not for fraudulent purposes.

lostinrates

that Ockham common....IIRC had a bit of a reputation as a meeting zone for previously unaquainted gentlemen who wanted to get to know each other. I'm guessing that's not the case anymore? It was always popular with dog walkers, so I guess it was always been a bit adventurous for those whose bag that was.

PasturesNew

GDB2222 wrote: »

Any sweet unmarried girl was regarded as a spinster 30 years ago.

I still am

PasturesNew

Generali wrote: »

Mrs Generali was going to keep her maiden surname as Not-Generali until I pointed out that she would be Miss Not-Generali in that case rather than Mrs Not-Generali.

She then spent a lot of time practising her new signature she would require when she became Mrs Generali. She spent perhaps an hour a night for a couple of weeks doing this.

After we married she asked the bank for a new bank card in her new name. She signed it as Miss Not-Generali by mistake and so asked for a new one. That she also signed as Mrs Not-Generali.

Third time lucky? Nope.

She got it right 4th time around.:j

So you married your intellectual equal

Generali

Road_Hog wrote: »

My view of the Americans (having travelled extensively to the States), is that a kinder way of explaining it would be to say that they are not worldly. They seem to be very self (America) centric.

However, on the flipside, I'd say that the majority are lovely people, who have a sort of innocence that we have forgotten over here.

Without going into details, I was in the States a few years ago, arrived that night, and had a meal and beer (with wife) at a diner and because of our useless bank (Abbey/Santander) neither of our cards would work.

Over here we'd probably have been hauled away by the police, called by the restaurant staff. A quick explanation to the staff, that we were staying in the Holiday Inn across the road and we'd be back in first thing when the bank had opened, to pay the bill, was more than enough to satisfy them. No accusations, no hassle, no ID required, just a, we'll see you tomorrow, don't worry about it.

Don't get me wrong. I have a mini mission in life to drive out anti-American racism. It seems to be the socially acceptable form of racism in the UK (& Aus for that matter).

I've never been to the US but I've worked with loads of USians having worked for 2 American banks, used a third as fund accountants and a 4th as my prime broker! I have found USians to be unfailingly polite and contented with life.

PasturesNew

Looking at NDG's bed.... didn't expect that.

Looking at the "before" pics, it's my dream to live in a place as posh and everything as the before pics

I am still in awe of this place I am in at the moment ... and it's nowhere near as nice as NDG's before. Shower here's !!!! though.... if I owned this place that'd have to come out in a few years as it's a dribbler not a waker-upper.