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Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things
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NDG - if you did 6.5 teaching hours plus 10 study hours per subject per week in upper sixth, that's nearly 50 hours a week, assuming 3 subects and no extras. That seems a huge amount for a young person who should also have time to play sport, learn a musical instrument and/or be in the school play, as well as eating, sleeping and having some time to relax.
3 subjects, in the Upper Sixth, yes. But actually, I miscalculated - it was 4 double lessons of each per week, and each lesson was 45 minutes. So it was a total of 6 hours teaching a week, not 6.5. Good thing one of my subjects wasn't maths!
I was busy at school, though. I got up at 6.45am to leave at 7.13am and get the school coach 3 minutes later. I worked for an hour on the coach in the mornings (never liked mornings, so didn't do sociable, then). School was 8.45am to 3.35pm, and the school coach got us home about 4.30pm. I generally worked on a school evening at home from about 5pm to 8pm, and 9 pm to 10pm, and went to bed half an hour later.
I did do debating and the odd play in the sixth form, played netball and did trampolining at lunch times, and had a piano lesson once a week at home. I went out to see friends every Friday evening, and about one in three Sat evenings. I generally did about 6-8 hours work over the weekend.
So I might have exaggerated a bit, but I don't think I ever did much less than 40 - 45 hours school work a week....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
Third time lucky? Nope.
She got it right 4th time around.:j
A few years ago, just after New Year, my darling Mama signed a cheque in the supermarket in her maiden name. She said she'd been concentrating so hard on getting the new year right that she forgot.
By that time she'd been Mrs Smith for 27 years, and had been Miss Brown for only 26 before she married, and hadn't done that much signing of her name for a few years, I reckon (-:
The supermarket didn't notice. Oddly enough, the bank did!...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
Wow!
Ceiling looks low! I'd worry you'd sit up in bed and bang your head.
Can you stand on the bed? My kids used to use our bed as trampoline.
that's not in our flat, though. That's in the carpenter's shed! There's loads of room above it - more than in the bed we sleep in at my parents' house, which is a normal divan with 14 century ceiling heights (-:...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
Maybe this whole conversation is his way of asking you if his father still loved him and if his father would still be involved in his life if he were alive? Could he be wanting you to dismiss it out of hand?
Silvercar might very well have a point there.
Lydia, you aren't half having to step through some minefields at the moment - I'm amazed you don't scream at the moon from time to time. I would....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
Don't you love garages? Took our car in for some warranty work (again) and while it was there they said new brake pads needed, £180. Well brake pads cost £25 and the local come to you man charges £20 to fit them so we said no thank you. Fast forward 1 week to this morning and man comes to fit new pads and says dealer has failed to tighten something properly when changing warranty parts and that car is a death trap and that we are lucky we have not driven far in the last week and that it is too dangerous to drive the 1 mile to the dealers :mad:I think....0
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I think the bed will look highly appropriate in your home NDG. I bet you'll have fun climbing in and out...but be careful!
edit: I think it would be less fun if you were getting up to feed a little baby though...0 -
Tonight DS asked me why I'd kept late-nearly-ex's surname, "even though he didn't love you any more and he was divorcing you, Mum". I told him the truth (although I wonder if perhaps I should have found some other response). I said if it was just me I'd have reverted to my own name, but since he and DD are "J", I'm sticking with J for the time being so we can all be the same, because getting my own name back isn't as important to me as doing what's most helpful for them.
My nephew just got married to a school teacher, and just before the wedding she called her class together and told them that after the weekend she'd have a new name. One of them immediately put up his hand: "Marriage or divorce, Miss?"
No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
How does the name thing work legally? Mrs michaels married me but remained Ms not-michaels as we were selling her house at the time and it just seemed easier but legally does the name change automatically on marriage? The school find it very confusing as the kids are little michaels's so they tend to send letters to Mr and Mrs micheals but everywhere else official she remains Ms not-michaels.I think....0
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Tonight DS asked me why I'd kept late-nearly-ex's surname, "even though he didn't love you any more and he was divorcing you, Mum". I told him the truth (although I wonder if perhaps I should have found some other response). I said if it was just me I'd have reverted to my own name, but since he and DD are "J", I'm sticking with J for the time being so we can all be the same, because getting my own name back isn't as important to me as doing what's most helpful for them. He said he didn't want to be J any more - because he's angry about the divorce, and because he said "Dad was way meaner than you."
He asked lots of questions (most of which I wasn't sure of the answers to) about the legality of changing his name. I told him it was a big deal, and I certainly wouldn't let him make such a decision in a hurry, but if after several months he was still sure it was what he wanted, then I'd look into it for him. Then he went very quiet for a bit. After that he asked questions about how I thought his dad would feel about it (if in heaven and aware of DS's decision) and how I thought his dad's parents would feel about it, saying he thought they'd be devastated. He worried about the Js dying out and was relieved to be told that late-nearly-ex's dad's brother has a son to carry the name on. He ended by asking if I would tell late-nearly-ex's parents for him, if he goes through with it.
I feel quite unsettled by it. It's true that I don't feel any attachment to the J name, and would rather have my own name back, except that I want to continue having the same name as DS and DD. But I really don't want to hurt late-nearly-ex's parents (although I would do whatever it takes to help DS and DD through their bereavement whether it hurts late-nearly-ex's parents or not). Also, while taking my own name back myself feels like something I have the right to do if I choose, I don't feel so comfortable about DS and DD abandoning their father's surname. He did love them, and he was committed to them, and he did try a lot harder than most absent fathers to stay involved with their lives. It feels it would be unfair to dismiss that by removing his name from them, although (unlike DS) I am not troubled by any doubts that he is beyond being hurt by it now.
Meanwhile, for the last several months, DD has just unofficially adopted my maiden name as an extra middle name (sometimes on its own and sometimes with 4 or 5 somewhat fanciful girly names). True to form, DS is tortuously wrestling with deep issues, while DD is skating merrily over the surface without letting any of the details bog her down.
Believe it or not, changing a name is actually very easy to do. Don't believe the guff about deed poll etc. There are easier ways.
In honesty, all you need to do, is start using a different name. It only becomes an issue when applying for official documents (eg driving licence) & you have to prove who you are.
Therefore if I wanted to adopt the name "spiderman" I could. I'd just tell everyone that is my name from now on. However, when I applied for a passport & submitted my birth cert, they'd say "you're not spiderman, you're lemon jelly!" & the passport would say "lemon jelly". However, If I were to do a statutory declaration, confirming that I renounced my former name, & adopted the name of spiderman, that would be legal proof of the name change. It is 1 side of A4, takes about 2 mins to read in front of a JP, magistrate or authorised notary, & costs very little compared to deed poll.
If the children are under 18, Lydia would be entitled to go ahead & change the names of her children.
It would take minutes, seriously.It's getting harder & harder to keep the government in the manner to which they have become accustomed.0 -
Don't you love garages? Took our car in for some warranty work (again) and while it was there they said new brake pads needed, £180. Well brake pads cost £25 and the local come to you man charges £20 to fit them so we said no thank you. Fast forward 1 week to this morning and man comes to fit new pads and says dealer has failed to tighten something properly when changing warranty parts and that car is a death trap and that we are lucky we have not driven far in the last week and that it is too dangerous to drive the 1 mile to the dealers :mad:
Mandy Rice-Davies. (Before your time, I guess.)No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0
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