Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

tomterm8

Er, I read the book, so didn't watch the film. It's not so much that I didn't think the book was good, but I prefer stories that have nice happy endings.

michaels

My very old Bosch washing machine which broke I put on ebay for 99p at which price it sold but it was then collected rather than me driving it to the tip.

My not very old servis washing machine which had failed drum bearings requiring a £200 repair (still worked but jet aeroplane noisy) I put on ebay accurately described and then had the embarrassment of it selling for over 50 quid. In the end I accepted £25 from the winning bidder and they collected.

That is something deeply disturbing about Tesco destroying local communities via driving local retailers out of business and then having a window dressing community fair as if expecting everyone will believe they are model neighbours (I am not actually against supermerkets providing cheap goods and dislike the sort of margins some local retaillers think they can get away with but it is Tesco trying to pretend that it ain't so that troubles me)

zagubov

michaels wrote: »

My very old Bosch washing machine which broke I put on ebay for 99p at which price it sold but it was then collected rather than me driving it to the tip.

My not very old servis washing machine which had failed drum bearings requiring a £200 repair (still worked but jet aeroplane noisy) I put on ebay accurately described and then had the embarrassment of it selling for over 50 quid. In the end I accepted £25 from the winning bidder and they collected.

That is something deeply disturbing about Tesco destroying local communities via driving local retailers out of business and then having a window dressing community fair as if expecting everyone will believe they are model neighbours (I am not actually against supermerkets providing cheap goods and dislike the sort of margins some local retaillers think they can get away with but it is Tesco trying to pretend that it ain't so that troubles me)

You don't live in Inverness do you- the town with three tesco's and according to legend. 50% of local spending.

I was struck by the corrosive power of supermarkets when I passed a poulterers in a small town recently ( no. actually seven years ago) and then found myself trying to remember how long it had been since i had seen a shop like that, which used to be a common staple of the high street -like fishmonger, greengrocers. -all getting rarer and rarer. Soon I fear they'll vanish like TV rental stores.

lostinrates

zagubov wrote: »

You don't live in Inverness do you- the town with three tesco's and according to legend. 50% of local spending.

I was struck by the corrosive power of supermarkets when I passed a poulterers in a small town recently ( no. actually seven years ago) and then found myself trying to remember how long it had been since i had seen a shop like that, which used to be a common staple of the high street -like fishmonger, greengrocers. -all getting rarer and rarer. Soon I fear they'll vanish like TV rental stores.

Bakers. I miss good local bakers when people come round and I don't want tobake bread. Our local shop (hurrah, we have one....excellen for a birds custar powder emergency ) has bought in bread fro a bakery. The bread, the cheese and...some thing else cannot remember what, I have bought there all turned out to be mouldy.

PasturesNew

How can I tell if I have depression?

michaels

Doesn't google have a quiz? How about your GP?

PasturesNew wrote: »

How can I tell if I have depression?

zagubov

PasturesNew wrote: »

How can I tell if I have depression?

I don't know if that's an easy call.
Sometimes people have it and don't realise it until it's a big problem,.
A partner/family member may help identify it or may not notice any more than the sufferer as it may develop slowly. If in doubt, absolutely see your GP soonest.

PasturesNew

Seeing GP isn't an option - too busy at the moment, things are totally haywire here. I'm out of my depth and lost to be honest..... and the system's not helping. Every time I try to get help, I phone a number, am told somebody will call back, they call back and say they'll send information ... and each time I get the same booklet all the others have sent.

And I've just discovered that the A-SS assessment that was done needs to be done again. I thought it was done, but apparently it was a quick one done and circumstances have changed, so need to start again.

Old is playing up, or gone to Planet Fairies. Just sitting/staring ... not sure if they're depressed or loony to be honest. No idea how to find out. I think old now thinks we'll just be poodling along like we are, forever.... and is now saying they don't want to move out - and I've give up the hope of ever speaking to a human being ever again about anything except the old. Nobody comes to the house unless it's regarding the olds (ill, dying, funeral) and now even that's not going on nobody's coming to the house, ever. And I don't get out, except shopping for the old, or taking the old to the Dr or sorting out the probate stuff. And I just want to curl up and cry forever in a dark room.

And the old can't do anything, stuff I've taught them is forgotten (e.g. how to turn the telly on) ... the old sat for hours earlier until I went into the room (I'd been hiding in despair). The place is a mess, the filth is building up - and I don't care. I simply stopped caring that I can skid on the kitchen floor filth now..... I don't care.

SingleSue

michaels wrote: »

Doesn't google have a quiz? How about your GP?

There are various online ones....but I wouldn't trust them very much as each one tells me I am severely depressed and need to see a doctor about it!

I think I would know when I am severely depressed...been there and got the T shirt and believe me, if I have severe depression right now, god knows what they would have called my breakdown in 2005!

PasturesNew

I'm being saved... sibling arranging to come for a few days to take on some of the stuff.... the trouble is it's a full-time 24/7 job ensuring the old isn't in danger/doing something daft + doing the general stuff that's going on because of the old that left us + loads of other "one off" tasks that are going on.... so there's no time for the other stuff that needs doing. There's enough 'work' for 3 people right now, 3 knowledgeable and mobile people. I put on my task list to visit the Docs with the old ... and that resulted in a huge bag of meds they were supposed to have been taking for a few years, but had never bothere and the Doc hadn't ever flagged up "I prescribed, these are to be taken forever, never asked for a repeat prescription", so a whole raft of meds issues creeping in now. And the old can't be trusted to do them/do them right, or to get a repeat prescription when it's time (not that they could make the phone call, or get there anyway). So it's every problem under the sun.

The biggest issue is finding information/options, contacting/viewing options - and making a decision. The old isn't making a decision (grieving/disengaged) - and nobody else is. And as there's nothing to decide on/between as the work's not been done to investigate options, my head was in a spin .... and all I can see is months and months and months of this stretching endlessly ahead of me ... and I want OUT.