Benbenandme's Next Installment ...

alibob30

We're going to see The Lion King today too, just in case you've not booked it and are going to an Odeon, there is a 40% off code here http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/deals/cheap-cinema-tickets

It discounted about £10 for an adult and 2 children.

benbenandme

Aaagh, I didn't check and have booked already :cool:

benbenandme

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benbenandme

Lion King was fab, wasn't that different in 3d tbh, but brought back an awful lot of memories

Tonight we've been out and done day one of couch to 5K :eek: Wasn't too bad until I "jogged" past a bunch of kids from school, so am now awaiting some sarcy comments on monday morning

Spends today = £4.99 on xmas cake from M&S, £3 in tescos on milk and sweets for the cinema, £20 on cinema tickets / 3d glasses :eek:, £13 in Boots but this included a bottle of shower gel reduced to 40p :T, some make up sponges that were desperately needed, a liquid eyeliner (£8.75 but used my £5 no.7 voucher) and a bottle of Davidoff Cool Water Wave perfume (reduced from £21 to £10.50 then used my other £5 voucher, so only cost me £5.50 :T). Quite a high spending day really, but a few bargains along the way too

benbenandme

Hmm, too late to bed last night and up too early this morning :cool: Never mind, todays plan includes ironing, some more housework,another bit of couch to 5k and then a walk and dinner at my mums

Nothing much else to report so far, I really need to move off the sofa but don't have the energy just yet

benbenandme

Back from mums, dad was barking today, in fact I don't remember the last time I had a 'sensible' conversation with him Had a nice roast dinner, took the dog up the forest and did day two of Couch to 5K ... then fell asleep for an hour on the sofa

Got home, had a lovely warm bath with candles, and got out to find ds had tidied the flat for me :eek: :j :j I am soooo proud of him So now I have just got the hoovering and ironing left to do. Its sooo nice for ds to have chosen to do something kind, and without me having to whinge at him :T :T

Today has been a nsd too, woohoo

benbenandme

And just as I was having a lovely evening .....

The crim decides to ring ds and then wants to talk to me ... to say that he has now changed his mind and wants ds to visit him :mad: :mad: So much for having freedom from him for a year or so ... he has been moved to an open prison and can now phone ds whenever he wants, so is going to phone on the days he used to call, and now wants him to go to stay with his parents for a weekend once a month and they can take him to visit!! Err, excuse me, who the hell are you deciding my sons life for him??? :mad: :mad:

I said I'll think about it but I'm not happy ... I'm heading towards possibly letting ds visit in school holidays, but I will take him. If he's upset by seeing his father then I want to be with him, not his interfering parents :cool: I need to think it through, I genuinely don't know which is more detrimental to ds, letting him go and then having to cope with seeing his father in a prison / not being able to stay with him etc, or continuing not letting him visit, but then in years to come will he ask why he wasn't allowed??

Ds seems to be coping pretty well so far, he hasn't shown any signs of missing his dad and hasn't asked if he can see him at any point. Do I want to rock that boat? Or would it be better for him to maintain as much contact as possible?? Aaagh .... who'd be a parent?

dangers

Is there any professional who knows ds that you can bounce the idea off? Someone who knows what impact these visits have on the innocent children. I agree that if he has to visit then he is surely better doing it with you.

Sorry if this comes across the wrong way, I don't mean it to. Hugs to you both.

benbenandme

It doesn't come across the wrong way at all Dnagers, thank you for replying
Last year I did speak to the ed psych at school, who's husband also works for the prison service, and even she couldn't advise me either way She said it purely depends on the child and how their relationship with their father is and how well they cope with it all ... almost a case of try and find out, but do I want to put ds through that? Or is that making things worse? Why why why can't he just leave us alone

beanielou

What dangers says.
Just as you were having such a nice day too.