Benbenandme's Next Installment ...

benbenandme

Was expecting it to be suspended sentence or up to 6 mths ... had been told it could be up to 2 years by the police, he's been told it could be up to 3 yrs but that that was very unlikely.

Yep, once sentences they are taken straight to cells then driven off to prison

stressed.mum

BenBen I'm glad it's over, but I'm sorry DS is going to be the one to suffer. Ex deserves to pay for what he did, but DS shouldn't have to. Stay strong, you are sucha good mum you will both get through it - and a holiday to look forward too xxxxx

Stressed xxx

saorsie

I think you are absolutely spot on to wait before telling your lovely lad BB ~ you need time to get your head round it first before you even begin to explain it to anyone else

Thinking of you

-s-

Daisy78

Oh my goodness! I too think you are doing the right thing in waiting until Friday to tell him. I hope it goes as well as can be expected & like what many others have said - remember you are a fab mum x

benbenandme

Crap night sleep - have been up since 3 ... and its in one of the national newspapers today, things just keep getting better don't they

Februarycat

Difficult situation for you telling your ds, I'm think you are right in not telling him just yet until you have got use to it and found out a bit more on how to tell your ds. Im sure your ds will be ok and great news on your holiday, at least it's something to look forward to.

Keeping_Motivated

Benben thats tough on you both, I hope you can find some kind of resolution for DS to make some sense of it and still get on with your lives. Can your ex 'force' you legally to take DS in for visits? Maybe you need to find out your rights in case he starts his antics...Having said that you've probably done your homework know you, you're so on the ball.

Take care x

hypno06

Nothing more I can say that hasn't been said already, really. There are likely to be many emotions coming to the surface over the next few days etc - some new ones, some of them older ones....anger, disappointment, disbelief, sadness..... much like any sort of break up or bereavement, these emotions all need to be respected. Don't try and push through without acknowledging them, otherwise they will come back with a vengence later on.

Take care of you x

Triciaxx

hypno06 wrote: »

Nothing more I can say that hasn't been said already, really. There are likely to be many emotions coming to the surface over the next few days etc - some new ones, some of them older ones....anger, disappointment, disbelief, sadness..... much like any sort of break up or bereavement, these emotions all need to be respected. Don't try and push through without acknowledging them, otherwise they will come back with a vengence later on.

Take care of you x

What Hypno said. Bottled emotions have a nasty habit of bursting out at the most unfortunate moments. You are a great mum and a very strong lady. You will come through.

benbenandme

Thankyou all :T :T Another long day, can't believe we've only done 2 so far :cool: On the plus side I had done my Davina dvd by 5am this morning, and haven't eaten loads, so at least it hasn't affected my willpower with the diet

I did go and see his pastoral worker at his school today, she will pss on the relevant info to those who need to know, and they will be keeping a close eye on him at school

Almost time for baths then an early night all round, I'm knackered and he's back at school tomorrow