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benbenandme

Ds had another meltdown at school today, the teacher didn't seem too clear on what had happened (at lunch again), having talked to ds it seems that a group of girls were deliberately trying to wind him up until he snapped at them :cool: A dinner lady was telling them all to stop annoying each other but she got in the way when ds lost it and he pushed her ... now waiting to see what the headteacher makes of it tomorrow He has his final camhs session tomorrow, really not sure that they've been of any help at all... their advice is when he starts feeling angry to go and find some pictured that he drew (and keeps in his drawer at school) and rip them up. In an ideal world yes, but he gets angry so quickly that there isn't time for that, and he needs to be able to think calmly enough to do that and he can't. Also at lunchtimes they're not allowed in the building so thats no use whatsoever then and thats when lots of the incidents occur

Other than that it was another dull day, has been a nsd :T, I have been very good with my points, haven't bitten my nails and am also v. v. tired as I was wide awake til 2.30am again this morning Other than that its all peachy :cool:

amber03

Being a mid day assistant myself i know what itslike at dinnertime. One thing we pick upon is which children other children pick on cos they know (or hope) will get in trouble and they wont be blamed for the incident. Sometimes it a child that has behavioural problems or is prone to get in trouble easy. We keep an eye on them and it is quite common to watch them happily playing when suddenly two or three children will appear and start annoying them and the situation esculates. When this happens we seperate them, talk to the children who have picked on the individual making them well aware of who we hold responsible and take the child being picked on to one side to calm down. We try to deal with the situation by ourselves without involving the teacher as quite often everything calms down and returns to normal, if it was really nasty then we would notify the teacher explaining that the child was prevoked by other children. Fingers crossed everything will be ok with DS,are the MDA's awareof your son's situation, do they keep an eye on him.xx

benbenandme

Thank you Amber, that was lovely to hear from a different perspective I am sure they are all well aware of ds and his situation, I think he's rapidly become the worst offender in the school However, he does seem to be provoked quite a bit, even the teachers themselves often start telling me of an incident by saying that some other children may have been teasing him .... I'm not excusing his behaviour one bit, but when its a kid with anger issues and possible Aspergers then stuff like that is hugely hard for him to manage

tigzem

Hugs BB can't be easy for you both xx

nanto3girls

Sorry to hear DS didn't have a good day, hope he feels better now.Keep your chin up BenBen, because i think you are an amazing mum.

vasseur

nanto3girls wrote: »

Sorry to hear DS didn't have a good day, hope he feels better now.Keep your chin up BenBen, because i think you are an amazing mum.

Ditto this. I can't imagine how hard it is for you. Other children can be so cruel. Looks like the teachers realise that it is other children who are winding him up so that must be some comfort. I wish I could give you more advice.

benbenandme

Evening all, a good day here today .... guess who popped in to school today?? I managed to engineer seeing him (by wandering along his corridor that i had no need to go anywhere near ), and he was walking behind me and said hi, I didn't turn round as there were loads of kids and I wasn't sure it was him, so he said "Miss!" and I turned round and smiled, and he said Hi, wasn't sure if you were ignoring me?" I said no, not at all, just wasn't expecting to see you! Anyway, he apologised yet again for not calling, said over and over that he is stupidly busy, has a list of people he needs to call and I'm on that list, that he owes me a drink, that he doesn't want me to think he's being rude or ignoring me as that isn't the case at all etc etc .... then the department head came along and said to him "Aren't you meant to be in the meeting with me now?" glared at us both and walked off, so he had to go too, I felt like a kid caught bunking :rotfl::D So, again at some point in the future I reckon he'll call, but probably not any time soon, but even if we just meet up for drinks as mates now and then that would be cool He looked as scrummy as ever, had had his haircut a bit and still looked utterly beautiful

Off to ww in a bit, have been really good since sunday when the scales seemed to be heading back to 11 and I decided enough was enough Lets see the damage

benbenandme

Back from ww and I have lost half a pound :j I know its not much but its a huge thing for me, my head hasn't been in the right place for ages with this and suddenly on sunday it clicked again, so hopefully this is the first week of a downward trend

I spent £8 on ww magazine and snacks for the week, then £1.50 on chips for ds and £9 in tesco express on coffee, grapes, and a few bits and pieces. Crouchy is coming over tomorrow night and he drinks coffee by the bucketload so needed some more

pinkladyof66

benbenandme wrote: »

Back from ww and I have lost half a pound :j I know its not much but its a huge thing for me, my head hasn't been in the right place for ages with this and suddenly on sunday it clicked again, so hopefully this is the first week of a downward trend

I spent £8 on ww magazine and snacks for the week, then £1.50 on chips for ds and £9 in tesco express on coffee, grapes, and a few bits and pieces. Crouchy is coming over tomorrow night and he drinks coffee by the bucketload so needed some more

Is the crouchy thing just as friends or fwb or has all that stopped hope you dont mind me asking - is there no way you two might get together !

benbenandme

Lol Pl, I don't mind you asking at all, its pretty much just as friends, very close friends He is sort of seeing someone who lives a couple of hundred miles away (kinda fwb in a way), and he knows I'm nuts about cutie, so it is basically just good friends. I'm really comfortable with him though, last time he came over I was about to jump in the bath when he arrived, so he came and sat in the bathroom with me and we chatted in there instead not something I'd do with all my mates mind you But no, we'd never end up together, I just don't fancy him in the way that I do with cutie, and I won't settle for that. I'm happy enough being single until cutie or another mr fabulous realise I'm here :rotfl: