Yet more financial faux pas and many other disasterous decisions

mooomin

Morning Moo,

Sorry it's had to come to this but I'm glad you've made a choice that will be better for you (and hopefully for Mr Moo) in the long run. It might be what he needs to realise how out of control his drinking has gotten.

Don't know if you saw the newpaper thread today, but they have a free Audible book download which you could listen to while you gut the house

Don't forget, we're all here for you if you need anything at all. You're a very strong and practical lady and you're going to be just fine.

*hug*

MatyMoo

Sending you hugs :grouphug:

My parents split up when I was 11 and it was a real bolt from the blue as there were never any arguments or atmospheres that we could see or feel - they took not in front of the children to extremes. I think I was devastated for a couple of days and then we all realised that Dad wasn't dead and we could still see him if we wanted. Strangely the family home soon became a place of fun and laughter without him there and the time we did spend with him meant that we got his attention instead of having to share it with the garden, DIY or Golf Course or a multitude of other distractions. It really was so much better for all of us.

You and the girls will get through this. And who knows, it may only be temporary until he comes to his senses and finds out that the bottle isn't his best friend, you are.

Double_Trouble

Moo so sorry it had to come to this but at least you are in control of what happens now - you sound so in control too but don't forget to allow for you and your needs in all of this I am glad you are ordering the next hovel book.

If there is anything I can do let me know I am not that far away and have plenty of child minders here so I can come at a drop of a hat if needed - I know we haven't met in real life but I feel I know you and I can bring my CRB check to show that I am not weird nutter just slightly mad :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Huge virtual hugs

DTxx

mooomin

I can vouch for DT being slightly mad, having actually met her, but she's lovely

Ditto for Moo as I've met her too

Bitsy_Beans

<slinks out of lurkdom. again> Wow Moo what can I say.....I hope this is a start of a better life for you and your DD's, whether your H tags along or not. But as always you sound like a fighter, someone who will survive this whatever happens. Good for you, both you and your DD's deserve a better H and dad, I hope he realises what he's got before it's too late.

Wordsmith

It's a tough old time all right. Maybe he is trying to frighten you into submission by leaving hints such as the suitcase, but it sounds like that isn't on the cards. Well done, you. But nor is it a fait accompli - once everyone has calmed down you may be able to talk it through. Thank goodness the DDs are away, so that you can think/say/do what has to be thought/said/done, although of course your lonliness must be heightened. Or maybe now this has happened, you think: it's done, I don't want it otherwise. Don't rush into anything. You give the impression you think it is you that has to break any news to the girls - maybe it is something you and OH can do together.

Do talk it through with a grown-up, if you can. Once you've said it out loud it will be easier to tell the girls. No matter how many times you rehearse what you are going to say in your head, out loud is a different kettle of fish. They will survive, and so will you.

Good luck, moo. There are lots of people to "talk to" on here, when you need to.

Shalva

Another one coming out of lurkdom to say Im sorry that it has come to this.... glad you have a day or two to get your head around it before the girls come home..... can only wish you all the best

http://youtu.be/ZBR2G-iI3-I never done a link before bso hope this works.......YOU will survive.........

MrsMoo2U

Moo, big hugs and to let you know that I am around if you need a grown up to talk to. Like DT I am happy to meet up with you next week for a talk if it helps. I am off work so can meet up somewhere for a doggy walk perhaps.

You sound as if you have things worked out in your mind which I always believe to be a good thing. If you can cope with the practicalities then you will get through whatever is to come.

You say that you have lost your best friend. Well, people do change no matter what anybody tells you. We all change as we grow. You may have just grown and followed a different route than your best friend for now but that doesnt mean that you have lost the friend for ever. Sometimes you have to let somebody go their own way for a while so that they find their way back. My Mum and Dad split up and became best friends again but never lived together again. They found that the best way.

I agree that it doesnt have to be just you that tells the girls. If you can work it through and OH can be grown up about this then you can tell them together and that might help them to believe that they can see him whenever they want to.

Be proud of yourself for handling this with so much dignity. PM me if you do fancy meeting up for a doggy walk mid way.

ezzie1uk

de-lurks to offer tea/hug/alibi...what ever you need :cool:

moo2moo

Thank you all.... again....

Have friend coming to stay Wednesday hence the need to get the tears out of the way by then. Theres no shortage of people for me to talk to when I'm ready, but I'm not at that point yet. Finding writing everything down v. therapeutic, particularly with the delete button, don't think Martins swear filters could cope with the unedited version.

Off to wreak havoc in Mr Ts. I may be gone some time. Thats after I've mopped the floors downstairs. Figure the alter I leave it the cheaper the whoopsies will be.