Yet more financial faux pas and many other disasterous decisions

moo2moo

I am a very very tired moo. Left work after 4 hours. Couldn't face doing any more. Am going to walk the hound to the post box to send the cheque I forgot to post this monring and then I'm going to start on the DDs bedrooms in the hopes of a mega clean and chuck out. I may be gone for quite some time. Hoping if I keep on chuckingout stuff I will eventually end up with a tidy house... or at least I would if OH wasn't buying more stuff. Three new tools and several hundred sanding disks arrived yesterday. Feels like I'm banging my head against a brick wall. The more space I clear the further he spreads the landie bits.

moo2moo

You don't have to be stupid to use e-bay but clearly the vast majority of people who bid on my junk are. This would be why todays pick up was a no show. Turns out hes decided to come tomorrow instead and planned to phone in the morning to let us know. Clearly thats because we're unemployed people with no life whatsoever. Muppet. Could he come earlier than the earliest time we've specified. Why yes of course. I made up the time to inconvenience him. Bah. Really. How thick are these people?

Anyhoo today has been a rather productive day albeit a rather strange one. Gave OH an ultimatum.... yes yes I should have done this quite some time ago. I'm a coward. His drinking is way out of control. Again. Hes gone to bed sober for the first time in months. I meanwhile have taken out my frustration on the DDs rooms which are now magnificently tidy. I'm washing everything. Duvets, curtains, rugs... the whole shebang. Have chucked out three bin bags of guff and another of outgrown clothes. Feel so much better for this.

beanielou

I dont know how you deal with it all.
I really dont.

moo2moo

beanielou wrote: »

I dont know how you deal with it all.
I really dont.

I don't think I am dealing with it. I'm merely lurching from one thing to the next in the hopes of getting somewhere or meeting myself coming backwards.

moo2moo

I'm back to taking things one day at a time and trying not to second guess things. Have to believe OH will at least try to sober up again. Whether or not he does is totally and utterly out of my control. Just have to sit back and wait and see, which is incredibly difficult.

In the meantime I plan to be busier than ever so that I don't have the time to sit around thinking what if this or what if that. Its the uncertainty that frustrates me the most. That and the lack of affordable anything on the property market... well apart from a derelict church with amazing views that is.

Will be at work until lunchtime today which is just as well as OH has swpped his shift to have the morning off. It gives us both a bit of much needed breathing space. After that I have loads and loads and loads of washing to do. Two rooms to clean from top to bottom now that I can get in them to clean and then I'll start in the next room and do the same with htat. Figure that should keep me busy enough. I also have hedges to trim, an unthinkable amount of weeding to do and if all else fails its free listing on E-bay too.

moo2moo

Chick #3 is on its way

pennywisepoundstupid

moo, sorry things have gone backwards again, can you get him to go to the doctors and go with him, see if there is anything they could do!

You really can't go on like this hun, think about the girls, i understand how hard this is as i've told you before my dad was an alcoholic so know what its like growing up with a father like this.

Could you ask him to move out for a while,it might frighten him into getting help, or do you think this will make him worse? Sending you big hugs.

Wordsmith

moo2moo wrote: »

Gave OH an ultimatum....

This is a very good move, although I'm sorry it is one you have been forced to make. If it's the first ultimatum you have given him, I hope it will be enough to kick him into gear, failing that ...

pennywisepoundstupid wrote: »

Could you ask him to move out for a while,it might frighten him into getting help

... is a very good thought.

Stick to your guns, else things will just get back to the normal that is so difficult to live with. It is so not worth that.

Good luck.

moo2moo

Wordsmith wrote: »

This is a very good move, although I'm sorry it is one you have been forced to make. If it's the first ultimatum you have given him, I hope it will be enough to kick him into gear.

Not only is it his first ultimatum its the only one hes getting. I've had enough. More than enough in fact. Hes getting more and more selfish with every passing day and then he attempts to make out like its all my fault and I'm dumping him with the kids so I can do what I want as and when I feel like it. They're his daughters for !!!!s sake!

I've hit the point where I'm angry. Really angry, at myself more than him for putting up with this for so long. Would it have killed him to have hung out the washing that I put in the machine before work? No. Could he have eaten pitta bread for lunch instead of driving to the shop for a loaf of bread... of course but he chose not to. Just like he chose to spend all morning tinkering with his land rover thus ignoring the washing up and not even bothering to move his dirty undies from where he dumped them when he took them off yesterday.

Am going to continue gutting rooms like a woman possessed. At the very least it will make it easier to pack.

stripes

'Big, big, big, hugeeeeee hugs!'