Fec kless teenager!!! So mad at my son!

January20

determined_new_ms wrote: »

my ds is 18 - he's playing on mario bros as I type and spends a great deal of his spare time on the corner of the sofa trying to rescue the princess :rotfl:he spends about 2hrs at the gym each day & also is ringing round agencies each day & working when he gets the chance. Often I think teenagers can lack confidence so that may hold them back from applying.

My partner says that while he's 18 he's still a "starter" adult and at times he's pretty carp at it all! at 18 life's for living they've got their whole life to grow up. love & encouragement and rarely doing things for them & clever-advice-so-they-don't-realise-you're-giving-it and get them to think...

This is a very good point. I've sometimes seen posts on here where people say things like "he/ she is 18, is an adult, parents shouldn't get involved" but really this idea of becoming an adult -legally - at 18 is just made up, isn't it? decided by politicians and sanctioned by law. Only a few decades ago, it was 21. I think many teenagers are still immature at 18 and not proper adults. Just as children have different level of developments, so have teenagers.

ska_lover

Person_one wrote: »

The residents deserve better than to be used like that, and don't even get me started on the fact that caring for others is considered a dead end job and only pays minimum wage!

Hi again,

I don't think the residents get used at all, and at the end of the day, if the care homes paid decent wages they would certainly get more experienced and qualified people applying for jobs.

It is pretty dead end, as a 'senior' carer at my sons place only gets £6.20 an hour. And that is as high up in a care home that a care assistant can ever expect to get. No real room to advance career wise or expectation to earn anymore. That is dead end.

To be honest, I wouldn't get out of bed for £6.20 an hour.

Person_one

ska_lover wrote: »

Hi again,

I don't think the residents get used at all, and at the end of the day, if the care homes paid decent wages they would certainly get more experienced and qualified people applying for jobs.

It is pretty dead end, as a 'senior' carer at my sons place only gets £6.20 an hour. And that is as high up in a care home that a care assistant can ever expect to get. No real room to advance career wise or expectation to earn anymore. That is dead end.

To be honest, I wouldn't get out of bed for £6.20 an hour.

Well, that's exactly my point! I wasn't criticising you personally for considering care work to be 'dead end', its society at large that doesn't view caring for its most vulnerable members as valuable and important work.

People suggesting that teenagers with no interest in that kind of work do it for a while as some sort of life lesson is just a symptom of the wider attitude.

ska_lover

Oh I agree with you Person One, if a person has no interest in care work, they should look elsewhere.

I guess its totally different being stuck in a retail job you dislike, in that the residents would pick up on the fact you would rather not be there.

Ahh Just ignore me, im getting a lot the wrong way up the last couple of days, off sick at home with an awful ear infection. Probabaly sending me a bit bonkers!