A little vent about irritating in-laws.

MamaMoo_2

Aaaaaaaaaaargh!
I've been with my husband for 2 and a half years, known him for 5 and a half, and his mother will still not acknowledge my existence.
Her latest trick is inviting my husband and son to her house for a few days, but not me. I've never spent a night away from my son (13 months old) and have no intention of doing so any time soon! Ugh, she's so rude.
Ooooh, I'd love to give her a good poke in the eye :mad::mad::mad:

Azari

Oh dear.

Psychotic mother in law.

How unpleasant.

What does your husband think of you MIL's weirdness?

Noctu

That's shocking, what was she like at your wedding and when your son was born?

MamaMoo_2

Azari wrote: »

Oh dear.

Psychotic mother in law.

How unpleasant.

What does your husband think of you MIL's weirdness?

He tells me to ignore it, but never pulls her up on it.

She's a lovely woman. Really. On our wedding day she told him to run and leave me at the register office, and to abandon me and our son.

The last time she was in our house, she refused to acknowledge me. (to the point where she went out and bought food for everyone but me)

For Christmas she bought me one of those £5 wine and nuts gift boxes, knowing full well that I don't drink and nuts make me sick. She also signed the card to me from "Mr & Mrs. X"

She frequently implies to my husband that he should leave me and our son (despite the fact that we have a wonderful relationship)

Her daughter's just as bad. At my son's birthday party she belittled my parents for buying my son socks and clothes (they got him toys too, but she couldn't find fault with that)

And then she told my step-mom that if she was her dress size she'd cry.
And then she told me that if she was my dress size she'd kill herself.


On a completely unrelated note, does anyone know how you can bulk someone up without them realising?

dealer_wins

I never understand how the son/daughter of a nightmare parent doesn't just tell them to F right off.

If my mum behaved like that towards my partner, I would!!!

And if I had a partner that didn't stand up for me, they would be an X partner pronto!!!

MamaMoo_2

Noctu wrote: »

That's shocking, what was she like at your wedding and when your son was born?

See above for my wedding.
When my son was born she came to our house with us (straight from hospital) and told us our house was a state.
I had gone into labour 4 and a half weeks premature, right in the middle of my husband and I preparing the nursery, so consequently there were boxes and half finished furniture about.

MamaMoo_2

dealer_wins wrote: »

I never understand how the son/daughter of a nightmare parent doesn't just tell them to F right off.

If my mum behaved like that towards my partner, I would!!!

And if I had a partner that didn't stand up for me, they would be an X partner pronto!!!

I told him last night that if he doesn't pull her up on it very quickly, he will find that I tell her myself. And I'm not very tactful.

aliasojo

And you enable this woman by allowing her in your life why exactly?

Don't give me any of that blood is thicker than water rubbish. You maybe need to work on developing a back bone. Get angry, then get pro-active in changing things.

MamaMoo_2

aliasojo wrote: »

And you enable this woman by allowing her in your life why exactly?

Don't give me any of that blood is thicker than water rubbish. You maybe need to work on developing a back bone. Get angry, then get pro-active in changing things.

She's my husband's mother, and despite the fact that she's a freaking atrocious parent, my husband seems to respect her.

Luckily, she lives a few hours away and only graces us with her presence once a year, but my husband has now been told that his mother, sister and his brother's girlfriend are not welcome in our house, and should he ever let them in, I will tell them what I think of them.

I have told his mother before that I think she's rude and obnoxious, but it only made her more of an a**hole.

SCFC1961

MamaMoo wrote: »

On a completely unrelated note, does anyone know how you can bulk someone up without them realising?

If this was for the MIL I'd recommend inserting builder's expanding foam everytime her mouth is opened :eek:

aliasojo

MamaMoo wrote: »

She's my husband's mother, and despite the fact that she's a freaking atrocious parent, my husband seems to respect her.

And his respect for you?

I usually advocate talking when families have issues but in this case I'll make an exception and head straight for the cut.